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How to respect your husband? Intricate tips for incredible happiness!
‘A good wife is one who serves her husband in the morning like a mother does, loves him in the day like a sister does and pleases him like a prostitute in the night.’- Chanakya
In modern marriages there is clamor for rights, but willful silence about duties. Man forgets his duty as a good husband and woman forgets her duty as a loving wife. If both did their duties with dedication, married life would be a sanctuary of happiness and fulfillment.
But this is not the case in today’s marriage as ego clashes as to who contributes more for the family takes toll of the goodness of a happy marriage. During my days, the man was considered the head of the family and we never thought that it degraded us.
But modern girls have a different view altogether and vie for equal rights. Your newly found financial freedom has made you very confident and rightly so. But your ego clashes with your husband have made your marriage a tug of war of venomous words and indifferent attitude.
You love your husband, don’t you? Then why do you find it impossible to respect your husband? Do you think you demean yourself if you respect him? When you as a woman have certain expectations from your husband, it is only natural he too has certain expectations about you?
What are the best ways to respect your husband?
- Value him
- Give him your full attention when he is at home and do not cling to your mobile phone
- Respect his family
- Do service to him
- Make him realize he is the head of the family.
You always find it easy to criticize and nag him about his innocuous mistakes. Have you ever listened to him? He too will have ideas for the betterment of the family and when you discuss it with him; he feels good and wanted.
Do not compare him with your relatives\friends\colleagues. You want your husband to be successful and become pushy and pestering. If you think that comparing him with others will motivate him to move forward in his career, you are wrong. He feels highly strung up and resentful when you compare him with others.
Give him full attention
What do you do when your husband is at home? Do you keep on talking in the mobile and let him fend for himself? He gets irritated when you incessantly talk in the mobile and act as if he was not there. Cook his favorite meals and serve him with love. Do not take up argumentative topics when he is eating as he gets tensed and angry very easily.
Respect his family.
You love your family don’t you? He too loves his family and when you deliberately humiliate them, he harbors bitterness against you. When you respect his family, he feels comfortable and at ease with you. A comfortable husband is a delight to live with.
Talk to him softly
Do you yell and scream at him when he leaves things strewn around? Do you make a big deal about his lazy habits? Then your husband grimaces within himself in revulsion. When you talk to him in a soft voice, he becomes pliable and flexible and he also becomes totally mesmerized by you.
Do him service
Do you feel slavish to do him small services? Have you ever felt the same when you look after your children? You do it most naturally don’t you? Behave in such a way with your spouse also. Does he look tired? A small massage in the shoulders does the trick. Does he look worried? A loving smile and comforting words makes him completely floored.
Make him realize he is the head of the family
Do not make fun of him before your children as he feels hurt. Instruct your children to consult him when they take any decisions. You too should ask his opinion regarding important family issues and when he feels he is the head of the family, his ego is boosted. When the ego of your husband is fulfilled he is the easiest man to deal with.
There should no war between you and your husband as to who is the best. Both should pamper the needs of the other, but this is one trick most of you ignore. When your husband realizes your needs and you realize the needs of your husband, it paves way for incredible happiness in your married life.
© 2013 mathira