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How to Turn Off a Woman in an Instant- What Women do not want Men to do-Advice for men

Updated on October 19, 2012

Things women don't want a man to do!

There are many men out there that need to know how to turn of a woman so they can act differently to attract the woman they desire. I have found many things that a man does that even if they are the hottest man I have seen, made them ugly in my eyes.

1. A arrogant man who knows it all is sure to make the ladies run far, far away. I hate it when a guy is always talking about himself and knows it all. I am sometimes a bold person and have asked him, who he thinks he is, because he wasn't impressing me at all. Woman like to feel like they are the center of attention and do not like the man to have it all.

2. Do not chase a woman. Woman like to have a challenge. I once met a guy who ran out and purchased a house a few months after I met him. Ofcourse I had to dump him. I was not ready for that and there was no challenge for me so, it was a complete turn off and I was no longer attracted to him. My mother really liked him because of this. It made me feel like all she wanted was someone with money for me, and I am not a person who wants someone just because they make good money and would never want to be judged as that type of girl.

3. Bad breath or B.O. is an instant turn off.

4. Flirting with other woman while your on a date tells the girl you are either not interested in her or you would cheat. It's also very disrespectful in my eyes.

5. Getting drunk in front of her shows the girl you are immature or you are either an addict or have no sense of control.

6. When on a date, never complain on how expensive the meal is. This shows the girl you are a cheep ass. I also hate it when the man complains about the meal, just enjoy it, and your woman will enjoy her time also.

7. Men who are unemployed. I can understand things happen, we are in some hard times these days and I have dated a male who didn't have a job at all, but when the guy thinks its cool to be unemployed and doesn't care to be actively looking for work, "it is a turn off". It shows they have no goals or motivation in life.

8. Chewing with there mouth open drives me nuts. This drives me nuts with anyone. People who do this have not been taught any manners.

9. no sence of humor in a man sucks. I like a man to make me laugh

10. guys with baggy pants that hang down to there knees and there boxers are hanging out. To me, it makes them look immature.

11. A man that tries to tell me what I should be doing or wearing. I don't like being controlled, big turnoff!! I will wear what I want when i want. Men should always tell there date they look beautiful, no matter what!!

12. I can't stand a man that whines and is illigeric to everything or thinks somethings always wrong with him. Its so annoying, it makes me feel like this man just wants pitty for himself or a man that wants someone to just take care of him.

13. Bad teeth, Dental care is very important.

14. Most importantly no lying. I can't stand someone who lies and you can't keep a relationship if your too scared to tell the truth.Be honest or dont be in a relationship you chicken shit. What are you afraid of?

I think I have said most turn offs for women that I can think of. I will add more that come to mind later. If all you men out there can abide by these bad mistakes you should be able to keep a chick for a long time. If you start making the above mistakes be prepared for the woman to run far away from you.


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      5 years ago

      Nice list. I would also like to add men who are liars and cannot tell the truth. That's a biggie for me!

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      Manoj Kumar Srivastava 

      6 years ago from India


      That's a pretty long list, but since it's a list it's valuable. I hope the males have a pretty tough job turning on at least Kmackey32. My advice is don't try too much love just happens.

      Lots of Love,


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      The Optimizers 

      6 years ago from Ringwood, Hampshire, UK

      number 10.. The whole "jeans half way down your arse" thing, i see blokes going around like that, scuffling about looking like they are wearing a nappy that has been shat in. The funniest part is the fact they think they look cool!

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      7 years ago

      The list is universal and really applies equally to women as well. Maybe even more so.

      I always pay my share when a guy takes me out on a date. That way I don't feel like I owe him anything and really it's only fair and right. I don't respect women that always let the man pay. Time to grow up ladies this is not the 50's anymore. There are alot more freeloading cheap women than men out there.

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      7 years ago

      I think the items on the list are pretty obvious. Yep, for be bad grammar shows a lack of maturity and dumbness. Also, tattoos are extremely tacky and ugly, especially on women.

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      7 years ago from I'm outta here

      I agree on all counts of what a huge turn off for a woman is all 14 are spot on and thanks for helping us out in the area of relationships and avoiding a bad experience.

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      7 years ago

      Maybe I'm pedantic, but your bad spelling and grammar is a turn off for me. I like your list, though; it's very informative.

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      7 years ago

      @Mr.Jerk , No one said you didn't have to be yourself. You must feel very strong about this article. I for one think it's more opinionated then anything. But let's just see all the women you score with that sort of attitude. Of course everyone wants to be themselves, so do so after you both feel comfortable enough to. It is important to a women that she has your respect vise-versa. No one likes a jerk except for the drunk who can take a punch. For those people, I suggest you stay in a bar somewhere in the desert.

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      days leaper 

      7 years ago from england

      Thanks for the tips, they are useful but all such advice raises the question on the lines of How much a person/s attitude is deeply ingrained? eg. It might be a short term boost just to get a result!

      no. 11. Your question raises the issues of fairness. It's understandable that you don't want to be controlled, but from a central or universal point ..if you don't like being stared at, oggled, wolf whistled etc. It is odds on your man won't like to see it, so agree if you will to dress sensibly in public for as long as he refrains from doing these things! The relationship will last longer.

      Oh! One last point, if I may. I've seen women half dressed in winter, it is a turn off for this man (not counting lust) it suggests teaser/desperate -or both!

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      8 years ago

      Page Kmackey: "How to turn off a woman - What woman do not want men to do" it is simple over it is useful it is actual and very necessary to men of any age! Thanks! Nil,58 yars.

    • kmackey32 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

      Oh Johathon, you would be suprised at how some men do need to be told.

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      8 years ago

      Enlightening hub. Kudos.

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      8 years ago from san diego calif

      I shower daily and I do not have a police record either !

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      8 years ago from Houston, TX (Proud Texan)

      thanks for sharing, I completely agree with your list.

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      Jonathan Janco 

      8 years ago from Southport, CT

      Nice hub, but I found a lot of your suggestions to be awfully obvious. Maybe it's just me, but I find it hard to believe that there are actually some men who need to be told not to chew with their mouths opened or cry about the cost of taking a woman out or to actually brush and floss on a regular basis.

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      8 years ago

      I have to pull my boyfriends pants up all the time!!!!! I tell him he looks like a doof but maybe he just needs to read your article :)

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      8 years ago

      I can be a jerk and this girl will hate me. But the next girl woould love me. It all depends. What I'm saying is, don't cut yourself short..Be who you are. If you're a jerk, be a's not like you're a serial killer..

      If you're clingy, be clingy, there's gotta be someone out there who would wanna be with you just as much...If she doesn't get your humor or get turns of by your manly jokes, maybe the other girl will appreciate your jokes, and although not like your rude jokes, will look pass it and see your other qualities.

      Guys, we can't always let the women get what they want and cut ourself short. There's just as many Jerk women out there. Forget all this "be a gentlemen, let the women win" attitude. it's time the women understand what men want too.

      So many women out there. Don't let one hurt your ego.

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      Mike Dennis 

      8 years ago

      This is a very interesting HUB. Thank you for sharing. Yes, I agree, dental care is important. I'm a floss fanatic and get the teeth cleaned frequently. The other pointers are well taken. cheers, mike dennis

    • kmackey32 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

      :) your welcome Pearldiver

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      Rob Welsh 

      8 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time.

      Buggar! I was hoping I just had to paint my cave... but as I can see from here.. it's probably more important to sort out these 14 'issues' instead. Oh well, at least I'm earning a great income from writing.. lol. Good hub Kristy, thanks for the Dr. Phil.

    • makeyourwifehot profile image


      8 years ago

      You can add to the list:



      *Insisting on sex with limited foreplay


      *Poor listening skills

      *Unable to read body language

      Not that I had ANY of these qualities!!! Actually I had great skills is wooing my wife...most married guys tend to forget these skills after they marry and take their wives for granted. DON'T DO IT! Continue to date your wife forever!

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      8 years ago

      how about bad spelling? that really bugs me...

    • kmackey32 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

      :) thank you

    • Tamarii2 profile image


      8 years ago from NEW YORK

      Great work.Peace.

    • wesleycox profile image


      8 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

      This is a good list of what not to do. I agree sometimes we men do some stupid sh*t.

    • simplyjo profile image


      8 years ago

      lol. you are darn right about these :)

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      9 years ago

      Mr. Voodoo, you are so funny.

      K-mack, I'm afraid that even I as a female am guilty of some of these! I'll try to do better, I promise.

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      9 years ago

      There is a difference between arrogance and self confidence.

      There have been times where my self confidence has been mistaken for arrogance.

      Personally I do not know it all, but I am fairly well informed.

      It is important in any venue, even dating to make sure you make the person you are with feel that they are the center of attention and their thoughts and ideas are important.

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      Ultimate Hubber 

      9 years ago

      Seems like I am guilty of #2. As my emotional loving self sometimes don't let me wait for the right time to do stuff. Nice insight anyways. Seems helpful.

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      James A Watkins 

      9 years ago from Chicago

      Thank you for the information. I enjoyed reading your words. I am afraid, that though I have most of these covered, I am guilty of # 5. :(

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      9 years ago from Sacramento, California

      um, are there any guys left after you check down your list? Just kidding, Good insight.

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      9 years ago from Australia

      I think #2 is hard. If a man really loves a woman he'd want to be with her all the time and forever, it may come across as too clingy to women sometimes, unfortunately... everything else, no dramas babe! LOL

    • kmackey32 profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

      Good Im glad you like it. :) Thank you!!

    • anjalichugh profile image


      9 years ago from New York

      Hi Kmackey: It was a sweet surprise for me. I'm so glad that you wrote a hub on the title I suggested. That indeed is a huge turn on. Lol. Very good points.

    • kmackey32 profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

      haha well that will take time to think about. ha

    • my-success-guru profile image


      9 years ago from Upstate NY

      Hi kmackey!

      Man that was a long list! And you are going to add to it? LOL

      I guess you love all the stuff that is the opposite of that list. Maybe you can do a Hub sometime about what you love about men! The title would be Huge Turn ons For Women- What Women Want Men To Do$#@!

      Take Care,


    • kmackey32 profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

      yes you better to keep them ladys. lol

    • Mrvoodoo profile image


      9 years ago from ?

      Damn, I've got a lot of changes I need to make.  Thanks for the tip-offs.

      * Pulls up his pants and runs off to apply deodorant * :)


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