I Am Faced With Another Greater Challenge

I am living in a beautiful country and have met several people who are as I have expected not the same as everywhere else.

I understand the different cultures and people in my surroundings but in a small community,

I expected better than having to tolerate envious behaviours. It is not always an easy step forward.

However, I have created my life in a foreign country to cope with challenges in my way.

An Example:

She is a friendly person but is not a true person. I did not know much about her but after noticing her recent behaviours and finally saw her as nothing more than a fake and envious person.

I tried to be friendly with her but just could not get to that point of having a meaningful friendship. The kind of person who feels her way means more than that of another. It began when I saw her true self.

Some time ago, we were invited to a next-door neighbour's home for supper and the host was hospitable and very friendly.

He insisted on pouring whiskey drinks to most who liked the strength of alcohol.

The neighbour invited a few people to his home for supper that evening.

He did not mention that anyone should bring their own whiskey or other drinks.

It would have been an insult if anyone did bring their drinks.

It is cultural in this region that nobody must bring their own beverages or alcoholic drinks to any event.

The woman felt the need to mention it. The host did not know about it and I felt frustrated by her question.

I know it is not her place to talk about it and did not think it was right for the woman to ask the question. It is not her home. If anyone had something to say the owner of the house had all the right to open to that kind of a conversation.

Since then I feel the woman is not worth my time. I have seen too much of her annoying behaviour and am better off not being with her.

Months later, we were invited again to the neighbour’s place and I had taken our whiskey. He was not pleased about it.

He was offended by us showing up with our whiskey, and I did not mention why. However he did ask why, and I failed to mention it.

A friendship is supposed to be true and meaningful and I don't see that with her. The envious actions have pointed out to me how envious this woman is of us.

She has not spoken to me in a while and has a different opinion of me. Making the odd visit to someone and pretending it is all okay when it is not, well, that is not me.

Living that life with pleasing others all the time has never been part of me and will never be.

I have learned so much more about the small community I live in that the more I see the more I do not want to be with such people.

Life is short and I do not sweat the small stuff but when someone such as her is often out of line and so envious it can get to me at times. The question she asked was not spoken of and she remains silent about it.

The next-door neighbour is blinded by her cunning habits.

You know when you tell someone the good news or let them know how well you are doing and the sudden change in their faces shows instantly?

This tells me everything I need to know about a few people and in this case, it is a jealous face. The change in her face has shown me more about her lousy character.

There are all kinds of people in this world only when you come across such individuals will you know their true being.

Do you agree?

I have seen that during many conversations with her.

Have you had such experiences?

The next-door neighbour has a close friendship with this woman and her husband, but he does not see her spitefulness. I feel for the way he is so attached to her.

Also, his wife does not see the side that I see of her. I know that she cannot be what I am, and she will always be envious of me but that will not stop me, from being me.

She cannot change the way I am and that is what makes me much happier. I see people for who they are right from the first impression. Once I know what my gut feeling is telling me, I either continue seeing that person or do not bother at all.

When I first met this woman, she did not give me much of any good vibes and therefore I cannot have a true friendship with her.

The gossiping lifestyle that she has lived is not connected with mine that alone shows me how different we are and making friends has never occurred to me.

Living close by does not mean that I should lick up to her for anything. We are different people, in culture, mentality and so much more which puts us in another world of life.

When you inform an individual about some good news their faces tell immediately if they are genuinely happy for you.

I see in some people's faces their envy when they pretend to accept me and show they are happy for me.

I have often been asked the question:

Where is it better to live, in Croatia or South Africa?

A question that is most difficult for me to answer.

I loved my lifestyle back in South Africa. I spent most of my life there, currently living in Croatia where I had grown to accept certain parts of my new life.

There are many differences between both places, and I like both places but for different reasons. The local people do not understand what I mean and feel I am wrong about my answer.

To them, I am supposed to say Croatia is better for me. I said here and have thought of my life has become more challenging and I am very happy in my way.

I have met many people and know I cannot change them and they should not try to change me. Envious people do not see that all they see is competition.

Curious!

She is often that way because she needs to know what is going on around the neighbourhood.

I do not get into the lives of others.

If you were faced with this kind of person what would you do?

How would you handle such situations?

Do you think the neighbour should be told about the question asked?

Life is challenging day by day and I choose to go on with great pride.

Words spoken cannot be changed or taken back always choose your words carefully before throwing them out to someone.

A simple question asked is sometimes so unnecessary, but when someone feels the need to ask that question, they do not waste time, instead, go right ahead and get it out of their minds.

Should I mention the question to the next-door neighbour?

Would I be the bigger person in this situation or looked at as the problem-maker?

What do you think?