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I never want to lose myself when being with someone.

Updated on August 27, 2014

Extensions of other people in your life should add to your growth

Being with someone "adds" to you and shouldn't subtract anything about you.

Yes I want to totally get lost with someone, but I don't want to "lost" myself.

Times in life, I should have known better but I have lost myself by being into "people".

I think when I have been with some past people, I totally lost myself and who I was. That is not a good thing.

When people come into your life and if your in a relationship, you shouldn't lose who "you" are.

A relationship lets you flourish and grow and doesn't "stifle" your growth and well being.

If a relationship makes you physically sick then that means that is a bad, bad relationship.

There should be understanding of what each other wants in a relationship and it shouldn't be because someone just needs a place to stay or anything along those lines.

I think even in platonic relationships, friends that really are your friends will not let you feel down when you are down but help to bring you up.

Society in this world judges too much and I am finding more and more ways to fill my life and keep busy without worrying about anyone else's life and that has brought forth many great things in my life.

I always speak of my own experiences and found that very simple things along the way has helped me to find many different types of people from different walks of life just seem to "add' a little spice in my life.

When there is that special rainbow connection with people or a relationship, your world will be a better world and you end up inspiring others to keep going by talking about good things which cause a chain of an affect of good feelings that is paying it forward by just talking about it.

Sometimes some people just don't know where to turn and when see one little tiny thing that inspires them, that plants one tiny seed which is a thought in their brain and it helps them to think of small ways at first to improve their current situation and that tiny seed (thought) will sprout many more ideas which will become a new way of life for someone.

If we put out into the world more positive thoughts, this is going to be spread like a hot wild fire that will become contagious but in a very good way.

i think maybe negativity is a sickness and many many people have that sickness and need some sort of antidote, but even when it is right in front of them, they will refuse the antidote and will still insist on keep on being sick with negativity.

Your own growth depends on your thought and your actions and if your way more positive the scales of life are going to tip in favor of what your doing.

At first you may not see any results, but if your persistent in thinking of being positive and want to do things in your life that is positive that will help you more than you will ever know.

I can't give anyone answers to your own problems because I just learn as I go.

You will find solutions to things for yourself if you keep your head up and keep working on things, anybody and anything that comes into your life will keep adding to your life.

If your surrounded by anybody that "Subtracts" in your life, think.

It is time to make changes and change yourself.

You will grow more when you realize you want more things "added" to your life instead of "subtracting" from your life.

The only subtraction that should be in your live is subtracting anything that doesn't work for you.

There is so many people out there in the world.

There is so much "life" out there in the world.

Keep wanting to learn about things and growing.

Educate yourself on the things you really want to learn about.

Care not what others think about you, because words are only words.

You have nothing to prove to anyone in this world.

You should care about yourself and you well being.

Those around you that care about your well being, well that means something.

Even if you are far away and are doing things in your life, you will always remember those that have cared about your well being and those people will be forever immortalized because they truly have beautiful souls and beautiful hearts. You will always remember them first because they are the ones that have helped you to get out of your own hell and helped to push you in a direction in which it will help other people to the light that is inside of them

Keep your spirit guarded and only let those who are going to help you flourish.

If anyone gets mad or are jealous of your way of life, it means they don't belong in your life and more than likely it is because they can't have your inner happiness that shines brightly

There might be times that you are tested in life, but once the tests are ended your going to see real good people who are still standing there for you and you will see real beauty in this world.

Never forget to take a look outside of the beauty that is alive and is all around us.

That too is going to "add" more goodness inside of your because you take the time to see here and now.

Leave the past in the past and move on to bigger and better thing.

Keep finding people who are successful in their own way so that it helps you to become successful in your own way.

Now I'm not saying you got to give in the woods or anything like that to become one with the universe, but meaning you should know that you are already a "whole" person and anything or anyone that comes into your life is icing on the cake.

The icing indeed can be really delicious, but remember that is because you aren't losing yourself when your having dessert.


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  • Shelly Nun-Chucks profile imageAUTHOR

    Shelly NunChucks Ninja 

    4 years ago from worldwide

    thank you dashingscorpio.

    I learned and so I hope to pass on what I learn to others.

    Personal journey and free will :)

  • dashingscorpio profile image


    4 years ago

    Voted up and useful!

    I do find it strange one seldom if ever hears a (man) say: "I never want to lose myself when being with someone."

    Life is a personal journey.

    Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse. We are responsible for our own happiness. Our lives are the result of the choices and decisions (we) have made along the way.


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