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Imperfection makes Love Perfect

Updated on September 24, 2012

In a book by Richelle Mead, it was quoted that "It is the Imperfection that makes love perfect!". Somehow this got my attention. How true could this be? Especially when we all dream and wish for a perfect love story? Haven't we all at some point of time fantasised about a person as perfect as our imagination could paint? Haven't we always wanted someone who would never fight or argue or make us cry?

My guy and I, for one, fight alot, make each other cry almost all the time, our opinions differ and we are two different personalities on the whole. And yet we are together! Our fights usually are about one of us skipping our meals or stressing ourselves out unnecessarily or the indication of the slightest danger to our existence is enough to trigger the other one off. Sometimes something as simple as 'I love you' from him makes me cry like a child & a single tear in my eye is enough to bring a whole lot in his and vice versa. And Even though we are two worlds apart, we are happy together. Because our difference in personalities is what helps us complete each other. Imagine if we both had the same persona, Would we need the other to complete us? Obviously not!

Our little fights, our tantrums, our emotional outbursts is what defines US. Would I ever give it away for a childish dream of a perfect Love story? Never! Would you trade away all the imperfections of your relationship for a perfect Love story? Nah I don't think so. And who is to decide what exactly is the definition of 'Perfection' anyway? A Happy relationship needs only four Ingredients in it and those are :

  • Affection- A relationship cannot exist without Affection for the other person.
  • Connection- Being able to connect with him/her is a must for being able to spend your life with your partner.
  • Understanding- Understanding each other's needs, perceptions and feelings will help create a stronger bond.
  • Acceptance- Finally accepting each other with all the imperfections and loving them as they are.

So yes Richelle Mead was right! 'Love' is not about fantasizing about a perfect story but accepting the Imperfections and making your relationship perfect!

© Copyright Hajira Ehsan 2012


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      manjunath 4 years ago

      Absolutely. And imperfection is also the reason life exists !!!

      And of course, who can define perfection !!!

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      An engaging hub that reflected your wisdom on love! Your 4 points are valid and absolutely true. Once again, a wonderful hub. Well-done!

      Thanks for SHARING. Awesome & Beautiful. Voted up

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      Jim Higgins 5 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

      This is interesting and true in my case as well. My wife and I have lived very different lives in some repects and similar in others. We really don't disagree a lot, but on a number of minor things see them quite differently.

      Your list of four is succinct and insightful as well.

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      Cracknutcase 5 years ago from India,bangalore

      Thank you all for reading. Your comments are much appreciated :)

      Have a nice day!

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      rdsparrowriter 5 years ago

      Yes ,when you think the one you love is imperfectly perfect, then it's love :) I read this few times and this is very interesting :) God bless you both!

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      Janhorner 5 years ago

      Very interesting words reflecting that relionships need to have lots of those ingredients you list! Loved it! Voted up,


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      IntegrityYes 5 years ago

      That is bold and I definitely voted up.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Great piece of advice and wisdom on loving someone. No one is perfect, you must learn to work with the imperfections -- if you truly love them.

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      Shining Irish Eyes 5 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Words to live by.

      Two worlds colliding perfectly

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      Cracknutcase 5 years ago from India,bangalore

      @Roshan- Thanks Roshan :)

      Take care

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      Roshan 5 years ago

      You are absolutely Right ,, thanks for sharing on fb

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      Cracknutcase 5 years ago from India,bangalore

      @Mhatter99-Thanks for reading, Sir.

      Have a nice day!

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      Martin Kloess 5 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for sharing this interesting insight.