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Imperfection makes Love Perfect
In a book by Richelle Mead, it was quoted that "It is the Imperfection that makes love perfect!". Somehow this got my attention. How true could this be? Especially when we all dream and wish for a perfect love story? Haven't we all at some point of time fantasised about a person as perfect as our imagination could paint? Haven't we always wanted someone who would never fight or argue or make us cry?
My guy and I, for one, fight alot, make each other cry almost all the time, our opinions differ and we are two different personalities on the whole. And yet we are together! Our fights usually are about one of us skipping our meals or stressing ourselves out unnecessarily or the indication of the slightest danger to our existence is enough to trigger the other one off. Sometimes something as simple as 'I love you' from him makes me cry like a child & a single tear in my eye is enough to bring a whole lot in his and vice versa. And Even though we are two worlds apart, we are happy together. Because our difference in personalities is what helps us complete each other. Imagine if we both had the same persona, Would we need the other to complete us? Obviously not!
Our little fights, our tantrums, our emotional outbursts is what defines US. Would I ever give it away for a childish dream of a perfect Love story? Never! Would you trade away all the imperfections of your relationship for a perfect Love story? Nah I don't think so. And who is to decide what exactly is the definition of 'Perfection' anyway? A Happy relationship needs only four Ingredients in it and those are :
- Affection- A relationship cannot exist without Affection for the other person.
- Connection- Being able to connect with him/her is a must for being able to spend your life with your partner.
- Understanding- Understanding each other's needs, perceptions and feelings will help create a stronger bond.
- Acceptance- Finally accepting each other with all the imperfections and loving them as they are.
So yes Richelle Mead was right! 'Love' is not about fantasizing about a perfect story but accepting the Imperfections and making your relationship perfect!
© Copyright Hajira Ehsan 2012