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Internet Dating - Would you Try it?

Updated on January 8, 2018

5 Reasons

5 Reason Why People are Dating Online over Traditional

Gone are the days where a gentleman walks up to you, says hello and offers to buy you a drink. Now everyone goes to the Internet to find a date. Internet dating is appealing to a lot of people, especially millennials. Someone of an older generation often wonders why people are so attracted to this type of dating:

  1. Social philanthropist says that people are using internet dating as a scapegoat. It allows them to hide behind a computer and not have to come face to face with other people. Other people say that it is just a generational thing.

  2. Another reason some people say that they use online dating is because of their busy schedule they are unable to do traditional dating. It’s a less time commitment to flirt with someone over a text message. It’s a preview before actually committing time and effort to go on a date.

  3. Blind dates are no longer safe and online gives people a chance to see if they get any creepy vibes from the person they have been communicating with. If they are on a blind date and the person gets creepy then they have less of a chance to escape.

  4. You get to take things at your own pace. You get to decide if you want to actually date someone or if you are just looking for friendship. But not being under any pressure to go out with the person gives someone that is shy or just not ready for the dating world to ease into it.

  5. Privacy. Your online profile allows people to only see the information you want them to see. The person does not know where you live or work.

Advantages of Online Dating

  • Huge pool of people to choose from

  • Available 24hrs

  • Matching tools available

  • More of a variety of people to choose from

Disadvantages of Online Dating

  • Unable to get that sixth sense feeling

  • You can be cat fished

  • Pictures can be deceiving

  • Pool overload and can be overwhelming

  • You may never actually get to meet the person

Where to go for a date

There are many sites that offer online dating. Some of the more common ones are Match, Plenty of Fish, OKCupid, eHarmony, ChristianMingle and BlackPeopleMeet. There is a cost for this service which can range anywhere from $30 to $60 a month. You may find some that are free, like OKCupid and Plenty of Fish. There are many other sites to choose from and their ads can be very entertaining. Research has shown that whether you decide to pay or not to pay for dating a site it does not make a difference. It’s a personal preference but they all produce results.

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Birds of a feather Flock together

One interesting fact you can see about internet dating is that it racially segregates people. Whether we admit it or not everyone has a preference on the type of person they will like to date. Even though there are sites that is for everyone, when approached by certain individuals they are rejected. Then there are sites that only cater to a certain race or a certain caliber of people. Below is a rather funny but very insightful video into how internet dating is racially segregated.

People often say that America is a post racial society but we can clearly see that this is not the case. The majority of people still prefer to date within their race. Studies that are being conducted on this topic are showing that people are limiting themselves when they don’t look outside of their race. This can be due to fear of rejection either from their own friends and family or people of their own race. They also fear that the person that they are approaching will reject them. If someone does take a chance and date outside of their race and they are not rejected, they realize that their pool of people is much bigger than they originally thought and they continue taking chances outside of their own people. Although interracial dating has risen over the year it’s unfortunate that in the year 2018 we still find ourselves allowing race to be an issue when it comes to love.

Looking for Love on the Internet

Be Aware

As with everything else, if you are thinking about trying internet dating here are some things you should be aware of. People lie about their profile pictures and their age and what you see is not what you usually get. Secondly, everyone is looking for something different, some people are only looking for a sexual relationship and others are looking for marriage. Don't be upset just move on there are lots of fish in the sea. Finally, be aware of some sites, they are scams.

Funny Dating Stories

Catfishing Facts

The term catfish is now a popular term that is associated with online dating. Its usually people that are portraying to be someone they are not. Then they lure someone into a relationship with their fictional character. They try to seek money from others by making up elaborate tragic stories to people that are desperately seeking love. Even though people are aware of such scams people continue to fall for them. The need to be loved by someone over shadows their common sense.

Red Flags of a Romance Scam

How will dating be in the future

Whether we hate it or not internet dating is not going anywhere. In fact, it is on the rise and online websites and apps will make it easier for people to connect. The apps and sites that offer these services are trying to give their users more transparency and will be offering more video dating options. The video below gives a prediction for dating in 2018.

Conclusion

Internet dating may not be for everyone and if it is something that you are willing to try go into it with the right expectation and a great attitude. If you keep in mind that these sites are only a place to bring people together you might have a successful outcome. Internet dating is not a magic click of your mouse, and you will find your soul mate. You are still required to meet that person face to face and go on an old fashion date.

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      dashingscorpio 

      8 months ago

      " If you keep in mind that these sites are only a place to bring people together you might have a successful outcome. "

      - Very true!

      Online dating is nothing more than a (tool) for meeting new people much like a fork is a tool for eating. It can be used to eat a garden salad or a slice of double fudge chocolate cake.

      However no obese person would ever blame their (fork) for their weight gain! And yet people who have bad online dating experiences will blame the online dating industry!

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      Each of us has our mate selection process/must haves list.

      Each of us has our own boundaries and "deal breakers".

      Anyone who is having one bad dating experience after another probably needs to reexamine (their) mate selection or screening process. The only thing all of your failed relationships have in common is (you). Nothing happens until (you) say "yes" to someone.

      Having said that most people never bother to take the time to (research) various dating sites before joining them. There are ways to find out what the ratio is between men and women, average income, educational level and so on.

      Granted there are "free sites" but one should bare in mind anything that is "free" is most likely going to attract a lot of rift raft. It almost like shopping for diamonds in a dumpster.

      Middleclass, upwardly mobile, and successful people are not likely to post their profiles on "free sites".

      And yes there are (niche) online dating sites which are geared to those in that group as well as those who want to date people in a particular group.

      A white female for example might post a profile on Latinopeoplemeet.com or Blackpeoplemeet.com because that is who she is interested in dating. Those people who are in that group would also know (she) open to dating outside of her race because she joined a site geared towards them.

      However niche sites are not just broken down by race. There are sites such as "Our Time" and Seniorpeoplemeet.com which are geared towards people over the age of 50. There are parents without partners, political party affiliation, religious, and pet owner dating sites too.

      Essentially anything that might be considered a "must have" for someone, odds are there's site geared towards it.

      Last but not least Online dating did not invent liars, cheaters, or scammers. They've always been among us!

      Just because some people use a car to mow down other people doesn't mean owning and driving a car is a bad thing.

      Ultimately (you) are responsible for who you choose to engage with, exchange contact information with, meet with, date or have sex with. That's true of meeting people online or offline!

      It's up to you to have your own screening/selection process.

      While online dating might be popular for millennials in many instances it's a Godsend for those in their late 30s, 40s, 50s, and beyond primarily because the older one becomes generally the less social activity they encounter with the prospect of meeting someone to potentially date.

      It's not as though they want to stand in line to get into a packed nightclub or sit in some lounge watching everyone who walks through the door or rely on friends/family to find them a date. Online dating allows anyone to be "proactive" in the privacy of their home to seek out others to meet. This is great for people who are busy working professionals.

      A few years ago one site touted 1 in 5 weddings involves a couple who met online. However another way of saying the same thing is 80% of the people who get married met offline! Therefore don't believe online is your only option.

      The best way to view online dating sites and apps is they are just another (tool) for helping meet new people in addition to traditional methods. You can continue to do both!

      Also there are hobby/interests sites like Meetup.com where groups of people with varied interest meet in person monthly (writers, hikers, theatre goers, yoga, meditation, salsa dancing, book clubs, and so on.) Odds are there are some single people in those groups and you can gradually get to know, befriend, or date them over time. There's also Singlescruise.com

      It's good to options!

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