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Interracial Dating - Just Get Over it!
When Blacks Date Whites
We have not come as far as we think we have concerning, interracial dating and marriage in America. It has always been a source of contention, not only with whites but with blacks as well. It is reported that many Afro-American women, felt deep resentment when seeing a Caucasian woman on the arm of a brother!
Many Afro-American women do not care, one way or another, but realize that this society will insist children of mixed relationships to identify themselves. Do you consider yourself black or white? This can cause them a sense of confusion and isolation.
There is another group, who feel a sense of rejection or loss for the dilution of the race or anger. When asked, why they felt that way, the answers were usually on the lines of, there are not enough good black men to go around as it is or all these beautiful sisters out here and you pick her?
Or why is it, every time an Afro-American man becomes successful; he goes and looks for a white woman? Black men seem to have similar sentiments but are less vocal about them.
Interracial Celebrity Marriages
Banned in America
Almost 90 percent of the state legally banned interracial dating or marriage called, anti-miscegenation laws. The Latin meaning of this word is "mix" "races." Couples found to have broken the law were arrested and thrown in jail.
This racist law encompassed not only black but Chinese immigrants, who came to America by the thousands to work, building the railroad, started dating and marrying white women. Not until 1967, by a Supreme Court decision, where these laws struck down or repealed.
Those of us born in the 50s and earlier can still remember how a black man could be beaten to death, or hung for even talking to a white woman in what was thought to be a suggestive manner.
Many black men were murdered for even the suggestion of impropriety with a Caucasian woman. A law was passed in Virginia (Racial Integrity Act), requiring the race of every newborn to be recorded, and marriage between the races deemed a felony.
Interracial Dating on the Rise
Since the 60s when the banning of love outside the races, was repealed, interracial dating and marriage have been on the rise. Today, more than 35 percent American adults surveyed say that they have a family member that is married to someone of a different race.
There is still a portion of the population, who has admitted to having a problem with mixing the races, but hopefully, these attitudes will die off with the generation who embraced them!
Can you believe that has only been 40 years ago (June 12, 1967), that the U.S. Supreme Court knocked down a Virginia statute barring whites from marrying outside of your race?
Who you choose to love, is your own business. It is very, that people are people.
Guess Who's Coming to Dinner
I remember the frenzy about the movie, "Guess Who's Coming to Dinner", where a black man and a white woman, announce their engagement to her upper-class parents.
It was the fist time that this subject was so openly broached in American film. Through much debate and struggle, the parents came to accept who their daughter loves and wishes them well.
With the rise of interracial love, dating, and marriage, it is best to keep an open mind. The world is becoming so much bigger, and our children experiencing a different world. One day you may have to face this same situation when your child brings home a friend, they have fallen in love with, that looks a little different you then! Are you ready for that?
Generation X is the most progressive generation to date. You will find with these young adults, there have no problem with interracial dating or marriage, and don't have they hangups there parent has concerning other social issues.
They seem to be free to love whoever they want, without fear of judgment or retaliation. Perhaps we can learn something about tolerance for this generation that we failed to learn in our own.
Generation Xers seem to be free to love whoever they want, without fear of judgment or retaliation. Perhaps we can learn something about tolerance for this generation that we fail to learn in our own.