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Intimate Romance: The Key To Forgiveness When Arguing with Your Lover

Updated on May 10, 2017
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Doing Something Wrong...

Tired of Always Feeling Like I'm Doing Something Wrong...Just Because You're Paranoid Doesn't Mean You Have To Make Me Feel Bad.
Tired of Always Feeling Like I'm Doing Something Wrong...Just Because You're Paranoid Doesn't Mean You Have To Make Me Feel Bad.

Forgiveness...

Forgiveness…
It can be such an incredibly complicated dance…
When it comes to an intimate relationship.

It takes more than merely letting go…
Of a perceived injury inflicted by a loved one…
It takes a conscious effort to move past another's judgment.

So Tricky It Is...

That judgment can bring such powerful feelings of defeat…
Because it tangles up the ego.

It twists up into a distraction that leads me away from us…
Away from my primary emotions…
Away from any natural healing…
Away from all meaningful spiritual growth.

I Really Love You...

I mess up & do things that make it seem like I don't care but trust me, You're my world.
I mess up & do things that make it seem like I don't care but trust me, You're my world.

The Resentment Loop

Enough of these distractions and we spiral…
Into a resentment loop that pushes us…
Further & further away from each other…
And causes a continued arrested development.

Growth!

I vow to step beyond my boundaries of growth!

In order to trust that I can find my way out…
By breathing in my feelings of grief…
By absorbing my raw emotions.

I vow to step beyond my boundaries of growth!

By not fabricating stories about you or our situation…
In order to avoid the pain of guilt…
In order to deflect blame away from me.

The Solution...

The key is to stay in the now and to what is…
To lift my heart…
Because ultimately my greatest asset is to…
Love unconditionally…

And honestly…
It is so much easier to forgive…
It is so much easier to love.

Worth Fighting For...

The People You Fight With the Most Are the People Worth Fighting For.
The People You Fight With the Most Are the People Worth Fighting For.

The Reason

© 2017 Helen Kramer

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