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Is True Love Real Or Just A Fairy Tale?
The Early Years
In our grade school years we experience an awakening of sorts when we approach puberty. Suddenly we start to feel emotions that we had never felt before. An eye opening of sorts takes place. Both boys and girls begin to see the other in a light that they had never seen each other in.
All of a sudden that girl or boy that you couldn't stand suddenly becomes attractive to you and you don't understand why but you like it nonetheless. You start to feel thoughts and urges in you that you had never felt before and even though you don't quite know what they are you like them.
One day you're sitting at home and you involuntarily start to think about that girl who sits in front of you in math class or that boy who is in your science class. You don't know why and you can't control the thoughts. It scares you because you have never felt anything like this before so you ask one of your parents or older siblings and they give you the horrifying news "You've suffering from puppy love" and you scream "Noooooooooooooo!!!" But it's true. You're smitten like a kitten and you can't stop thinking about them.
Real Or Not?
We have heard about people "falling" in love since we were little and in those stories we were told it was a wonderful and exciting thing. The descriptions were of bells ringing and birds singing with music in the air.
We were led to believe that when someone was smitten with the love bug they became intoxicated to the point that coherent speech and thought were an impossibility. That their ability to function was impaired. We were told that they could no longer eat or sleep because all that they were concerned with was the one that they were in love with. But is this all true or just an imaginary occurrence concocted for entertainment purposes?
Now that you have come to grips with the unfortunate turn of events you sit and wonder what am I going to do about this? Leave it alone? Act on it? What?
You nervously pace the floor and decide you're going to find out what its all about.
The next day you fidget at your desk wondering if you should say something. You look over at her and she smiles. Should I say something to her? What if she laughs in my face? And if I say something to her what do I say? I'm so confused.
The bell rings ending class. You carefully work your way toward her and position yourself to be walking out the door at the same time she is. You nervously say "Hi", she smiles and says "Hello."
Your heart starts pounding in your chest so loud it drowns out all sounds around you.
Yep. Love is real.
Older And More Mature
As we get older we experience different and deeper emotional attachments. We fall in love harder and love with much more passion. As we pass along the pathway of life we go through various engagements and disengagements that many times leave us wondering if that feeling we had so many years ago was really love or something else.
We try to recapture that feeling we had so long ago but it eludes us leaving us wondering if we will ever experience that again.
Over time we become disillusioned and start to question if there really is such a thing as true love where bells ring and birds sing. We question ourselves, we question others and we question life in general.
Then one day when we are lost deep in thought we look up and there is that man or woman sitting right across from us and suddenly we can hear nothing but the birds singing melodies.
Yes my friends there is such a thing as real love you just have to be patient and you will find it.