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Is My Marriage Worth Saving Or Over? Seven Signs That Will Tell You

Updated on November 9, 2019
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1. You Fight A Lot

This maybe too obvious, but not all couple who fight maybe headed to an end of their relationship. It's true that conflict is important, but how much conflict is too much? When you find yourself bickering about the smallest of things, know that it maybe too much. You fight if he doesn't do the dishes, he sulks he you forget to pack his lunch. Usually, small differences should be easy to resolve, but when your marriage is not going well, it's the smallest things that are hard to solve.

If you find yourself having an argument over everything, it's time to rethink your marriage.
If you find yourself having an argument over everything, it's time to rethink your marriage.

This maybe too obvious, but not all couple who fight maybe headed to an end of their relationship. It's true that conflict is important, but how much conflict is too much? When you find yourself bickering about the smallest of things, know that it maybe too much.

Tell Tale Signs Your Marriage Is Over

2. You Go Without Talking For Months

Communications is key when it comes to relationships. So, if you haven't talked for not just days or weeks, but months together, then you need to think about where your relationship is headed. If you don't express your desires and complains to each other, it can get very messy indeed. This happens usually when you are both aware that your talks are going to reach a sort of a gridlock, no matter what you do. So much so that you give up on it altogether.

If the communication between you two is broken, then there is nothing that can fix it.
If the communication between you two is broken, then there is nothing that can fix it.

If you don't express your desires and complains to each other, it can get very messy indeed. This happens usually when you are both aware that your talks are going to reach a sort of a gridlock, no matter what you do. So much so that you give up on it altogether.

Is My Marriage Over?

3. You Are In It Just For The Kids

If you have any other reason to stay in the marriage except for the person you are married to, then there may be a problem. The kids should not be the reason you stay married, they should be a result of your marriage together. If you feel like you want to separate but you keep thinking of your kids because you don't want to hurt them, then it maybe time to rethink your relationships. Add to this the thought of embarrassing your parents or the relatives.

If you find yourself staying just for the kids, it maybe time to rethink the relationship.
If you find yourself staying just for the kids, it maybe time to rethink the relationship.

If you feel like you want to separate but you keep thinking of your kids because you don't want to hurt them, then it maybe time to rethink your relationships. Add to this the thought of embarrassing your parents or the relatives.

4. Things Are Not Good In the Bedroom

It's not a secret that one of the things to affect marriage is the lack of sex life. If you see things changing in the bedroom, it's a sign that everything is headed south. Either you avoid being in the same room or lie on the bed like strangers. It's not an unknown secret that issues of sex in the marriage stem from other differences and insecurities. If you find that you have suddenly stopped having sex in the marriage or aren't physically intimate in any other way, you must pay attention to this sign.

If things are falling apart in the bedroom, it's time to rethink your relationship.
If things are falling apart in the bedroom, it's time to rethink your relationship.

It's not an unknown secret that issues of sex in the marriage stem from other differences and insecurities. If you find that you have suddenly stopped having sex in the marriage or aren't physically intimate in any other way, you must pay attention to this sign.

Signs That Your Marriage Is Over

5. You Don't Tell Each Other Things You Used To Before

Did your partner and you had a relationship in which you used to tell each other most if not all things? And now, as the marriage has started to break, you barely tell each other important details of your life? If you don't tell your husband about your promotion or hide and important thing in your life, you need to start asking yourself some important questions. Keeping things from each other infuses nothing but suspicion in your relationship and that's the last thing you want.

If you don't tell each other things you used, it maybe time to rethink your relationship.
If you don't tell each other things you used, it maybe time to rethink your relationship.

If you don't tell your husband about your promotion or hide and important thing in your life, you need to start asking yourself some important questions. Keeping things from each other infuses nothing but suspicion in your relationship and that's the last thing you want.

6. It Feels Good To Think About Living Apart

Usually, when two people are in love, the thought of being apart is often stressful, but if you have come to a stage in your marriage where the idea of staying away from your spouse makes you feel relieved, it's not a good sign. If you feel like you need to quit your marriage in order to keep your sanity, this could mean alarm bells. This usually happens when both the parties in a relationships have had enough.

If you feel like you need to quit your marriage in order to keep your sanity, this could mean alarm bells. This usually happens when both the parties in a relationships have had enough.

These Signs Will Tell You If Your Marriage Is Over

7. You Can't Agree On Going To Couples Counseling

If both of you have sensed that the marriage is not going to work and think about couples counseling, but can't come to an agreement on it, then things have truly gone awry. Couples counseling can be one way to redeem your marriage and if either of you is hesitant to try it, then it's true it isn't going to work out.

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Couples counseling can be one way to redeem your marriage and if either of you is hesitant to try it, then it's true it isn't going to work out.

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    • Karen Whitefield profile imageAUTHOR

      Karen Whitefield 

      16 months ago from New York

      Dashingscorpio, your comment about soulmate and not a cellmate is so on point! And yes, couples counseling is tricky and often people seek it after reaching the point of no return.

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      dashingscorpio 

      16 months ago from Chicago

      Very informative!

      I would add one shouldn't get their hopes up to high on couples counseling. Oftentimes it's just a pitstop on the road to divorce.

      The couple has already fallen out of love and stopped caring what each other thinks. They're going just so they can tell family and friends they "tried" couples counseling.

      Secondly there is nothing a therapist can say which will cause you to fall back in love with your spouse. The main problem with counseling is couples often wait too long to seek help.

      The time to get help is when you're still losing sleep over things that were said or you're worried about what you mate is thinking or doing. Once you at the point where you're "checked out" emotionally it's too late.

      Odds are you're imagining your life would be better without them.

      If someone has to "change" who they are to make you happy it usually means you have chosen the wrong person for a mate.

      Human beings make mistakes in all areas of life. It would be foolish to believe every boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse one has was meant to be with you for life. A divorce is a public admission a mistake was made. Live and learn.

      The goal is find your soulmate not a cellmate.

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