Is Sexual Texting cheating?

Is it cheating when you catch your spouse or partner texting someone else sexual comments?

There are emotions that go through the person sending the messages and the person receiving the messages. Then the person receiving the messages responds, then it becomes a conversation. But is it cheating?

It can destroy the "other" person! The person that you are in a relationship with, the one who is trusting you with your phone. To know that your "other half" is texting someone sexual comments and obviously having thoughts about that person, can destroy a persons trust, their life, their whole being.

They start to question themselves. What's wrongwith me? Am I not good enough? Am I not pretty enough? Is it my weight? What did I do wrong? How do I fix it? How do I change it and make it better?

What is the "It"?

I believe it is cheating. It can mentally hurt and destroy a person. It is not the act of doing, but the intentions behind the texting. The thinking and actually saying, maybe not vocally but with your fingers, that you want to do these things to this person. It is saying to someone other than the person that you are with, that you want to do these things to and with them. You are actually saying it.

Now the denial. Deny, deny, deny! That's what happens! It wasn't me. It was meant for you! (yeah, because you had this whole conversation with someone else and thought it was me, while I was in the other room!) It was an accident. I was drunk. I was on drugs.

All of the excuses in the whole world cannot fix what has now been done to this person. You have just destroyed the one person that you say that you love and trust. How do you fix this? I don't think that you can. I think taht the more excuses that are made just makes things harder to deal with.

So, I ask you, do You believe thatitis cheating? Physical or Emotional.