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Is There a Time Frame to Fall in Love?
Does love have a time?
How long does it take?
How long does it take to fall in love? This is a question that no one can really answer for you,it's something that is felt from within. It has been argued that love takes time and you shouldn't fall before that certain time expires,but is that really correct? How do you put a time frame on what your feeling? Some people express easily while others hold back and wait for the right moment. Is timing a major factor in love? How can something so timeless and unexplained be put in a tiny box. It is true love grows over time,but when the heart knows right away should that be ignored. Falling in love is probably the most natural thing one can experience,it's the staying in love that is hard. It's also the rules and regulations put on love that make it hard for people to connect. What looks like love to you,may just be a silly crush to others. What about people from other countries that have crossed your path and managed to fall in love with you in a day? Are these people really naïve, or has our society placed the standards for everyone, even though we are all uniquely made. I believe we can learn a lot from people in other countries who haven't been warped to our ways of thinking. We place so much emphasis on time,but some would argue that time doesn't really exist. So why is there certain time frame for falling in love?
There is a burning in my heart!
When is it right for you?
A lot of times we may feel things very soon,but we hold back for fear of running someone away. Why do we have to do this? You never know you and the person could be holding back at the same time and you will never get anywhere without expressing. If you profess your love for someone and they don't feel the same,then what have you really lose? Sure, your pride may be a little hurt,but at least you know. At least you won't have to walk the earth wondering for the rest of your life. Love is for the fearless,where fear dwells love can not. Take that into consideration the next time your waiting for the perfect time and moment. There is no such thing as perfect timing,there also isn't a such thing as rules for love. Love is simply too grand to be put under such restraints. Take a chance. You never know,when someone may feel exactly as you do.
Have you heard stories of people meeting and falling in love the same day. You look them up today and they are still together. Isn't that a wonderful thing to witness? Life is funny in the sense that anything is possible if you believe it. Falling in love can happen within a blink of a eye,but if you are afraid to feel that feeling,you may not have a success story. When two people naturally go with what their feelings,they have more of a chance to make it. Love is organic,it's not manufactured in a warehouse waiting to be bought. So you have to be able to go with the flow,and if the flow is moving a little fast than maybe that's how it's supposed to be. Think about it in terms of nature. When a wave brushes up against a shore,there is clearly nothing anyone can do to stop the wave. When a hurricane hits and spins wildly out of control,there is no stopping that either. The best thing we can do is take cover,or prepare for our hearts and minds to be taken over. Sometimes there is beauty after a storm,
Fear should not be a factor
Is fear holding you back?
A lot of times when someone comes along and hurts us,it ruins are perception of love. Everything we thought that was beautiful and free about love is distorted by a bad lover. So when the next person comes along we put up a wall so that we protect ourselves from the possible hurt again. This can be beneficial to a degree but not to the point where you are missing great opportunities because of it. Loving is kind of like riding a bike, you may fall off and it may hurt. However, if you don't get back on the bike and try again, you will never learn how to ride. Your mind will build up a complex about riding bikes. Same is true for love, if you tried and failed,or your emotions were hurt at some point in your life. It's important to keep trying again and again until your riding freely. Don't let fear stand in the way of getting to know someone,because you are afraid their all like the rest. You never know what someone is like until you give them a chance. Life itself is a gamble but it's worth the risk and love is the same way.
Forever isn't long enough
When you put fear aside and societies brainwashing to rest, you just may stumble across something amazing. If you do get a chance to witness it, hold on to it,because in this day in age it's rare. Some people may go through their whole lives and never be able to experience it. The more love we have for ourselves the more love we can give to others. Try to be kind and wonderful to yourself, we teach people how to treat us,by our actions towards ourselves Love begins from within and shines outwardly. Learn new and great ways to express your love for yourself. Then when a love comes along you will know exactly what it's suppose to look and feel like without a doubt. Listen to yourself and allow love to find you, it's possible. Forever can seem like a long time to most,but when you are in love it can seem like a matter of minutes. That's why we need a "couple of forevers" to cherish throughout our lifetime.