- Gender and Relationships
Is Your Boyfriend Marriage Material?
Find Out if He's Worthy of Marriage
Many of us start to think about marriage after we're in a relationship for awhile, especially if we are in love with the man we are with. Often times, however, we are blinded by this love and don't always see that there are characteristics in our boyfriend that subtly tell us he is not marriage material. We don't always find this out until the relationship has developed in to so much more. So how do you know if the man you're with is the right one to marry? Here are some tips to help you determine if your boyfriend is marriage material so that you can make a better decision regarding your future together.
How Does Your Man Communicate?
Is your boyfriend open and able to communicate well? Think about the conversations or arguments you've had with your boyfriend. Does he fight nice and play fair or does he do a lot of name calling, pouting, and fit throwing? How you communicate and argue with your boyfriend says a lot about your future together. A marriage will only work if both partners argue well (fight nice) and communicate maturely to one another. If your boyfriend is still at an immature state, he may not quite be marriage material. This isn't to say that he won't change as he ages and grows, but right now, marriage with him probably should not be considered until he learns to grow up a bit.
Does Your Man Respect You?
Does your boyfriend respect your feelings? A guy who treats his girlfriend with kindness and tries to always be respectful is generally good marriage material. If your boyfriend disrespects you either when your alone, or worse, around others, then maybe marriage with him should be reconsidered. Marriage needs to have respect to work and if it isn't there in the relationship prior to this, it will not change when you are married. You will probably grow to resent your boyfriend if you marry him and is not respectful of who you are or your feelings.
How is Your Boyfriend's Relationship with Other People in Your Life?
Does your boyfriend get along with your family and friends? How well a man establishes relationships with those you love says a lot about the kind of husband he will be. If your boyfriend treats your family and friends well and they like him in return, you have the makings of a great husband and a solid marriage. You need to consider that these people in your life are important to you and if your boyfriend does not get along with them, because of his own faults, then he may not be marriage material. It's ultimately up to you if you want to put up with constant bickering between your family, friends, and boyfriend, when the two of you get married, because chances are, this will be forever.
How Good is Your Relationship?
How close and intimate is your relationship with your boyfriend? If the two of you have a solid and close relationship, chances are, your boyfriend could be marriage material. You are the one who needs to decide if the relationship is strong enough to last forever. Could you be with this man for the rest of your life and be happy? If so, your marriage to this man could be amazing. How close you are to each other can determine how long the relationship will last. If the two of you fight and argue a lot or do not have an intimate relationship often, you may need to reevaluate this man as a potential husband.
Does Your Man Know Where His Life is Headed?
Does your boyfriend have priorities and goals in life? Does he work hard, save his money or budget well, and/or take care of the things he owns? A responsible guy will usually be good marriage material. If your boyfriend is careless with his money, calls off work a lot, or switches jobs often, he will probably do this for a very long time and your marriage to him could get sticky. You have to consider what type of man you'd like to marry. Most women want a man who can provide (although we do so ourselves) if we need it, is great with money, and takes care of the things he owns with pride. An irresponsible man is hard to change and more than likely will not be good marriage material since he will probably be irresponsible for a long time to come.
Is He Mature Enough for Marriage?
Does your boyfriend hang with his friends a lot and act as though he's still in high school? A man who is good marriage material is one who knows when it's time to play, and when it's time to grow up. It's perfectly fine, in fact a good thing, for a man to have friends he spends time with, however, if your guy is out all the time partying, and having too much fun, he is definitely NOT ready for marriage. A boyfriend who has settled into a bit of a domestic life in his own home or living with you, but can still enjoy his friends responsibly, is probably great marriage material. They say that it's not who a man falls in love with that makes him marry, but where he is in his life that makes him want to marry. A guy who has sowed most of his wild oats is probably more likely to settle down with you and would be good marriage material.