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Is it too much for me to want more?
Self Worth & Putting Yourself First
Recently, I’ve been contemplating on if it was too much for me to want more in all aspects of my life (financially, spiritually, relationship wise, etc.) I feel like God has been placing me in situations where I’ve broadened my horizon regarding this issue and I think what I have learned may be of some help to some of you as well. The people around you play a strong role when it comes to over coming this issue. So to begin with, I would like to say “watch the company you keep”. Surround yourself with like minded people who are trying to not only better themselves but society as well. You need people to speak life into you, not people who discourage you and try to make a joke out of what you’re passionate about. Telling you that ” you’re not capable of doing that” or ” it’s not a good idea”. If you are passionate about something, invest in it. Whether that be your time, finances, ideas, or all the above. You have to put your all into it and once you began to work hard towards whatever you’re passionate about God will do the rest. You will begin to see so many doors opening for you allowing you to not only bless yourself, but also those around you with your skill or talent.
After discussions with some of my girlfriends, I also realized that many times today, us as females have forgotten that we ultimately hold the power. Yes, I said it ladies. PUSSY=Power. I know that myself as well as others have been a victim of settling for less. But I am here today to remind you that you are worth more and you deserve the best. Stop allowing him to control so much of your mind, body, and spirit when he does nothing but give you hard d*** and a headache. You are beautiful, intelligent, and have the potential to be great! Instead of focusing all of your energy on whether or not that guy is into you or comparing yourself to the next female, try investing that energy into yourself and you will see so much growth. You have to learn to love yourself before you love a man or you will allow him to decide how much you’re worth. Self worth was something I struggled with for a long time. But prayer and developing a relationship with God is helping me to realize that I am worth more and I deserve better. Ladies, I hear so many times that “chivalry is dead… males don’t know how to treat females now a days. blah, blah, blah” But that is not true! Like I said earlier you hold the power! Speak up and let him know if your are not comfortable with something and don’t be afraid to be yourself. If that man just wants to “chill” tell him “you are not a refrigerator, and you don’t know what that means”. We have to teach men how to court. A lot of males in our generation grew up in single parent households raised by their mothers and have never seen or don’t know what it means to take a lady out to eat, to the show, the park and just genuinely spend time with her and get to know her. Stop giving that man your million dollar p**** for Netflix and a blunt! Make him get to know you. Half the time we make it so easy for them and wonder why the relationship never goes anywhere. That’s because it wasn’t a relationship to begin with, just a relation. Men like challenges.
Another thing I really dislike is how these men are really playin mind games with females. They have us comparing ourselves to one another causing us to hate one another rather than uplift and love one another. Ladies, don’t get mad at her because she’s talking/ dating your “man” too because nine times out of ten, he had her thinking he was her “man” as well. We need to unite and stop allowing them to play us like a game of 2K. Don’t get mad at her, that’s your sister. Instead move on! He didn’t deserve you anyways. Clearly you weren’t all he needed if he was messing with you and the other girl. His loss, not yours. But you’re too blind to see that because “you’re so in love with him” ( and he told you that you had the best p****) Girl if you don’t remove your feelings and keep it pushing, you are the prize, not him! Don’t be mad, take it as a lesson learned. Stop trying to force relationships and stop searching for a man. Focus on you and the right man will come at the right time. I know it’s somebody out there reading this thinking ” but I hate being lonely”. But I was like that at first too, and now I love being by myself so much! You learn so much about yourself and you are so busy focusing on you, developing what you like and don’t like that when the right man comes around you guys can build together rather than take from one another. I promise if you love yourself and put yourself first it’ll be the best feeling in the world. People will become more attracted to you because you are so in love and attracted to yourself and nothing is more sexier than somebody who is into themselves and knows what they bring to the table.
Ultimately, I just want to use this blog to help empower, uplift, and encourage females. My hope is to bring love back to our communities. I want ladies to realize their worth and to do something bigger than themselves. I will be covering a variety of topics and I want to read your feedback as well ( I’m learning too! lol) Also, drop topics you would like me to discuss. I hope this message helped someone. And remember you are beautiful and God loves you!