- Gender and Relationships
Is your Partner the Workaholic
Is your Partner the workaholic in your marriage?
What happens in a marriage when a partner is a workaholic?
A workaholic becomes bored when at home.
It is easy to notice such behaviors.
The individual doesn't know how to be home without thinking of work.
You marry that someone thinking everything is perfect, and will always be that way. In most marriages, you think you know your partners.
Unfortunately, that is not the case in many marriages.
How do you know if you partner is a workaholic?
The similar signs of having an affair, or being a workaholic does confuse one's mind when it comes to your close relationship with your partner.
You are not sure what to think, especially when your partner tells you they are working late every day of the week.
During family time or your time together with your partner a workaholic fails to relax and pay attention to their needs.
The sign of selfishness is proven to you from your workaholic partner.
Your partner works more hours to be successful.
In the process, everything else in the marriage begins to fade and you wonder why you got yourself in that position.
The broken promises and late nights make you feel alone, sad, and less worthy to your partner.
Sometimes you feel depressed in the emptiness of your marriage.
It makes you feel like a nothing at home alone day after day.
No matter how much you try to speak to your partner about what is going on in your marriage, there is nothing that makes your communication together any simpler.
Workaholics don't know how to relax on any given day, and lose the proper understanding of their partner’s needs, and wants in their marriage.
It is taken for granted that their partners will be there whenever they get back home.
When you are married to a workaholic you feel resentment, and jealousy.
The long working hours allows for your partner feeling tired and often fall asleep where they are seated.
Regardless of where they are, their minds is focused on work.
Such behavior destroys a marriage and leaves your significant other feeling desperate to look the other way.
The following are used when partners are complaining about their failing marriages:
''You have no time for me.''
''I don't get your attention anymore.''
''There is no communication and you are never there for me.''
''You don't talk anymore, like we used to.''
''You are always at work.''
''We have become strangers.''
''We don't see eye to eye.''
The lack of attention puts you in a different place in your marriage.
There are issues in marriages, but that doesn't mean you must blame yourself for your partner's actions.
Off-course, you feel neglected and less special when you spend the least amount of time with your partner. You feel something is missing between you, and not discussing the problem puts you in a different spot.
You are not the cause of your partner's addictions is usually your first thought.
Ignore that thought!
Be it gambling, cheating or shopping addictions, no one is part of this behavior except for those who are in it.
These issues are part of everyone's life just not spoken of as much in public.
In most cases, partners look for someone else to share their emotions with, and that can lead to revenge, for example; as in cheating,
There is often betrayal in a marriage it hurts to face up to such problems alone. The betrayal goes on if both partners don't pay attention to each other.
The problems are never solved in a day. You work through the issues together and pass it together, don’t do this alone.
All work and no play make life dull and boring. Find the pleasure between you in each moment you have together alone.
Hold hands and make your partner see you are happy and still in love.
You want fun and interesting events in your marriage and it takes two to make that happen.
Certain aspects can be treated without the presence of anger.
Express how you feel and you will feel better afterward.
Sometimes just getting a word to your partner can be most difficult.
As much as you want to point out their flaws you are not allowed to do that, instead you have to accept it.
To love someone is to accept their flaws too.
The aspects in your marriage are important. Keep the practice once you know the meaning of your lives together.
It is easy to fall apart in a marriage. Workaholics spend their time working while their partners are totally ignored.
When a partner feels a competitor in their marriage one can become dissatisfied with that marriage.
This allows for more fights and that creates a distant between the two people.
The quality of your relationship proves your weaknesses and negative arguments to one another.
Success is not always as important to a relationship as the need is to working on your relationship full time.
Two people create a bond when they say their vows.
The true acts of being together no matter what the obstacle is a greater challenge.
Nobody wants to the one who feels silence in their marriages or to be lonely in their marriage.
Your significant other feels left out and not part of your life anymore when everything is above the relationship. This includes work too.
Highly dedicated to your work is the way to go for many with this condition.
For some it is an addiction and ruins marriages over time.
The challenge becomes more than just a challenge!
Everything is just seen in a one way direction. You are either there or not there for your significant other.
That makes partners unhappy, depressed, lonely, and sick and tired of that routine you created, or the wedge you created between you two.
Workaholics never see their problem and don't see how their behavior is hurting their partners.
Husband and wife drift away simply by losing a connection they once had. Love doesn't always save the marriage.
It is time you approached the problem in a factual manner.
The more alone time your partner spends at home; the more desperate one becomes to seek the attention of others.
This can be a good or a bad choice.
Many families are affected by workaholics or cheaters.
The problem becomes a bigger one when the partner thinks an affair is going on at the work place.
These issues lie in one's mind due to long working hours.
As much as you trust your partner, and when you hardly get to see your partner all thoughts go through your mind.
You don't know what to make of it!
Working for more than forty hours a week and working seven days a week can ruin any relationship.
What would you think?
It is serious when you think your partner is cheating on you.
The time invested at work is more than at home. You lose touch with your soul mate, the only one you ever knew, well, you thought you knew better than any other.
You feel like you have tried day in and day out to make it right for your partner and all you get is the tired one on your couch.
No energy for you and you slowly lose interest and the attention you need from them.
You are right to feel resentment and unhappiness in your marriage.
As any other behavior is, anything you do too much of can ruin your health and relationships.
Partners who choose to live that way move further and further away from their partners and feel disconnected.
Work being your number one priority, and nothing else is noticed at home, shows you are a workaholic.
You are not good at going on a vacation.
Work is a huge part of your life.
You often told you work too much.
Nothing in life is focused on as much as work is.
You don't see how your family is hurt by your behaviors.
Even when you are at home you want to contact work.
Your mind is just work, and work.
Hard working individuals have a balanced lifestyle, whereas, the workaholic has nothing of that.
The workaholic is hooked on work, fails to leave work and is not emotionally present at home.
One needs to draw the line to show when it is time to be present at home and work.
How can you do this to your family?
You want to be home but also at work at the same time.
Such behaviors are disappointing in a marriage.
Be happy with yourself, for yourself, and calm down in frustrated situations.
Your happiness is important!
Don't let yourself go, and fall into the waves when it is rough and splashed in your face.
A smile will show your partner you are not only happy but are coping well with the challenges.
The lonely life tells you many negative stories about your marriage; the best is to stay focused on the positive part of your marriage that would carry you through all times.
No matter how late your partner get homes still show them you are happy.
Workaholic problems in marriages
How would you cope with a Workaholic in your marriage?
“It is not as much about who you used to be, as it is about who you choose to be.”
― Sanhita Baruah
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