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Is Baby Talk or Behavior Ruining Your Relationship? -Stephanie Bailey

Updated on October 27, 2013
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My passion is writing about love, sex, dating, and relationships. I write based on my own personal experiences and those that I relate to.

Ladies, there are three ways that baby talk or behavior can hinder your relationship. First, there is an actual baby or child dictating how intimate you are allowed to be with their father; aka the man you are dating. Second, the man you are dating loves to vocalize baby talk to a child who is over a year old. Finally, you are dating a man who thinks that baby talk is sexy when he's in bed with you! Yikes, can you say unattractive?

When you date someone with an infant or toddler, you want to make sure you are not put in the exclusion zone. This means that the child has decided you are in the “no touching daddy”, and “daddy should not touch you” zones…no fun!

I recently dated a man who has a two year old son. Everything was fine until his daddy placed his hand on my lap (not up my dress, it was very innocent). This child immediately began to have a tantrum. Once his son starting crying, he jumped away from me (putting me in the exclusion zone) so his son would stop crying. Interestingly, the crying stopped when we were sitting on OPPOSITE sides of the room. This of course made the child feel that I was in the exclusion zone, and gave him power in dictating our relationship. Although his kid was totally fine being on my lap and having me read him a book, he was not fine with me showing his daddy similar attention or affection. This experience lessened my attraction for the dad, and made me want to run for the door screaming.

What's even less attractive than having actual child behavior come between you and the man you are dating; is having a grown man use baby talk when referencing things to his child who is older than one year. Ugh! Hearing baby talk come out of a man’s mouth to a child who is really not a baby anymore is far from sexy. Ba-ba (bottle) or wa-wa (water)…really, just say the correct word already! Children over one year old should not have consistent baby talk unless you want to slow down their leaning process. Many psychologists and parenting experts feel it actually hinders development: http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200305/baby-talk-hinders-learning

If you really want to put the sex-cap back on the bottle try dealing with a man who pouts when you’re not in the mood for him to touch your "titty-witties" or have sex…ridiculous! But, I have saved the least attractive for last---have you ever had a man speak baby talk in the bedroom? This is one time that hopefully you say no. I'm all for dirty talk, but baby talk makes me want to put my clothes back on. Most woman don't enjoy hearing a man say, “grab my pe-pe,” call you “mommy,” or “ga-ga” when things feel good. A man who thinks baby talk is sexy in the bedroom will usually feel comfortable using the same immature language (and voice) outside the boudoir. Great!

Baby talk or behavior should never come between you and your relationship. If you are being put in the exclusion zone by the child, remember that it is not the child's fault. Children learn by cause and effect. It is up to the ADULT to be clear about what is acceptable behavior. Also, if baby talk or behavior is taking over the relationship, or does not resonant with you in the bedroom, hand this man-baby a pacifier, find your sternest grownup voice, and give him a permanent time out.



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      dashingscorpio 

      4 years ago

      What's even worse is to see adults talking to senior citizens in "baby talk" at nursing homes. LOL

      Having said that I suppose there are people who actually do get turned on by "baby talk". Most likely guys who love the fantasy of women dressed in Catholic school uniforms would appreciate (baby talk) because of the contrast of appearing "innocent" and being "dirty" at the same time. However role playing too often would be a "red flag" in my eyes. :-)

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      Stephanie Bailey 

      4 years ago from Denver

      Thank you marketeconomy, baby talk to children makes my skin crawl too. I totally forgot about the pacifier situation...another pet peeve of mine. :)

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      Stephanie Bailey 

      4 years ago from Denver

      Thank you DDE and I know first hand that baby talk can...yikes!

    • Miss-Adventures profile imageAUTHOR

      Stephanie Bailey 

      4 years ago from Denver

      Thank you for reading!

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      marketeconomy 

      4 years ago

      I agree Stephanie! It makes my skin crawl when I see a parent talking baby talk to a 3 or 4 year old....or giving a pacifier to a 3 or 4 year old. YIKES!

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Great points on this hub title sometimes baby talk can ruin many relaitonships

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