ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Is His Love Stock Worth Your Investment?

Updated on May 4, 2015
Miss-Adventures profile image

My passion is writing about love, sex, dating, and relationships. I write based on my own personal experiences and those that I relate to.

There are different emotional stock options that a woman can invest in when it comes to a guy—all in the hope for the big payout....happily ever after.

Stocks increase depending on the status you have with him:

-First meeting

-Dating

-Relationship

-Love

-Marriage

Without knowing it, there is an emotional investment most women tend to make from the moment they meet a guy. This initial investment starts off with how attractive they find the guy—face, body, hair, eyes, smile, teeth, hands, etc., and will develop even deeper depending on how a guy treats you, and what type of a connection you have.

When you start to date a guy, this will give you faith that your stock will potentially have a chance of increased valued shares—a relationship. Therefore, it's natural to become even more emotionally invested. The more dates a woman has, the higher her investment becomes and the more shares of her heart she is open and willing to give to him. As the relationship progresses in a healthy, happy, mutual direction—exclusivity, the value and hope a woman places on this stock, will start compounding. Of course these shares aren’t just about the dates a woman has, it's also about the ultimate connection she feels with him.

A woman's emotional investment will have higher value depending on commonalities—similar sense of humor, interests you share, political views as well as religious/spiritual views, and hobbies. The more things in common, the deeper the connection. Balance all of that with the effort he puts into her—planning dates, calling/texting, making time to see her— the higher the shares in the possibility of love, become. The more quality time you spend with a guy, the higher his stock will naturally increase. Could this love-stock turn into a bigger investment—lifetime commitment?

As with any relationship, there is a risk that once you are in love, his stock will either increase or plummet—this usually depends on how the relationship is moving, either extremely slow, at a comfortable steady pace, or very quickly. It also depends on how much effort he is making and what his intentions really are. Unfortunately, like with any stock (and man), it's a risk and sometimes this risk will not pay out.

I dated a guy that seemed emotionally all in from the moment we met. We not only had a great first date, we had many more dates that kept getting better each time. The connection was there, the conversation flowed easily between us, making it hard for me to not think about wanting to invest my stock in him.

This guy was very convincing that what he felt for me was real. He would communicate with phone calls daily, text me heart-felt messages, and made time to see me—which was more than flattering since he owned his own company. From day one, all this guy would talk about was that “I was the one” and that he was going to prove it to me. Since I'm not a big fan of "jumping all in" until you really get to know a guy (making sure his actions are consistent versus momentarily) I told him that I thought it was a little early in our relationship—it had only been just over two weeks—too early to be discussing exclusivity, when he brought the subject up. Well, his stock plunged quickly.

This guy went from wanting to spend time with me to making excuses why he all of a sudden couldn't pick up the phone when he had “stuff” going on over the weekend and why other things became more important than seeing me and following through on the plans he would make with me. What he failed to realize is that if his stock decreased that quickly because I wasn't ready yet for a full fledge commitment, what would have happened if I did decide to invest?

Most men who want to invest quickly—before proving with time that their stock is worth it, tend to freak out just as quickly. This will be apparent by how easily it is for them to change their actions toward you—lack of communication and time for you destroys any trust that was being built. This will make you feel that his feeling weren't genuine. This is definitely a stock dropper. FYI....a guy that truly cares about you would not change his feelings so quickly because you need more time to get to know him better.

When the emotional stock starts to drops in the love department, it means that you are losing interest in him, as well as the faith that he could potentially be "the one."

I also dated a guy who wanted to prove that investing my shares in him was worth it. With this guy, time wasn't the factor. He was ok when I suggested that we date a little longer before becoming exclusive. He waited several months, still being consistent with his actions towards me to prove that I was what he wanted—increasing the emotionally stock that I invested. As I said, there is always a risk when it comes to love.

Not only did we become exclusive, we fell in love—his stock quadrupled! He seemed to be worth every share of my heart until things started to fluctuate. This was a man that when things in his life were not going well, he would shut me out of his life, causing his stock to drop… quickly.

As communication lessened between us his love stock continued to drop even further. As he continued to find less and less time for me—ranking me low on his priority list—his stock eventually plummeted until there was no recovery—emotional bankruptcy.

Even if you think you're savvy at deciding when and how much to invest your heart, sometimes you won't make the smartest decisions. However, hopefully you will learn from those mistakes and be a smarter investor next time.

Ladies, if the stock that you have invested in him has taken a hit, it might be time to trade it in before your heart experiences an emotional bankruptcy. You deserve to be with a man whose love stock has a continuous capital growth, and nothing less. This means that there is potential that he could be the one—your happily-ever-after. It feels amazing to be with a guy who's putting just as much emotional effort into the relationship as you are. Of course I'm not saying that there won't be moments of disappointment, disagreements or disconnect at times, but those moments should be far and few between. Your choices should ultimately lead to long term positive yields that leave you satisfied, confident, and secure in your investments.

P.S. If you enjoy my writing, please help me become more known by clicking on the links above—Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn, and following me here on HubPages. I appreciate it! Sending you light and love! ;)

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: "https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr"

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)