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Jason Aldean: Signs Your Man is Cheating

Updated on October 2, 2012

Well, it's happened again - and it really should not be a surprise to anyone, however tragic it may be. There are always obvious signs a man is cheating - one of the most obvious is flirting, holding hands and kissing a woman other than his own wife or girlfriend - especially in a public place.

In a recent news report, country music superstar Jason Aldean was captured on someone's smartphone camera hugging, touching and even kissing another woman. The scene played out in front of many people, apparently in a very public local club on Sunset Strip.

For most couples, such a public display of affection would be perfectly acceptable, however, Aldean is married and the woman with whom he's cavorting is not his wife. Of all the signs your man is cheating, this is probably one of the more obvious.

So how do you know your man is cheating on you? What are the typical signs that are common to most men who cheat on their wives? Read on and find out...


Top 5 Warning Signs He's Cheating

There are a lot of things that might serve as signs he's cheating. Sometimes these signs mean absolutely nothing. Sometimes, they are a strong indicator that there is something going on. You have to be the ultimate judge of your own feelings and trust your intuition. Having said that, there are some common signs your man is cheating.

1) Change in his Appearance - One of the most apparent signs of a cheating husband is a sudden spike in trips to the gym to get in shape, Buying or wearing clothing that he normally wouldn't could be another sign.

2) Change in His Routine - If your husband typically comes home at the usual time every night and this suddenly changes - say he has a sudden increase in late business meetings or if he doesn't come home at all - these could be signs he is involved with someone.

3) Decreased Interest in Sex - This is probably one of the most clear indicators that something is wrong. After all, he is a man and what man in his right mind doesn't want some of that sweet loving? If he's getting it somewhere else, you'll see a change here.

4) Taking Phone Calls Outside - Really? All of a sudden he needs to go outside where no one else can overhear his "private" conversations? This is almost surely one of the signs he's cheating, especially if he had no problems with you overhearing his phone conversations before.

5) Spending Time Emailing and Texting - If your husband is staying up late sending and receiving emails or texting, he may be cheating on you. Again, if this activity suddenly becomes more frequent and hidden form you, it may be a sign he's cheating.


Cheating Defined

First, you have to define cheating. Now here is where things get rather sticky. Some folks would see this as a temporary indiscretion. After all, Aldean did leave the club alone in a cab and later admitted to inappropriate behavior. Others would say that Aldean is not really cheating if he never really got caught. That one probably won't work here. Some would say that if a couple doesn't have sex, it's not cheating. Still others would say that if a man even looks at another woman, he is cheating.

So what is cheating exactly? Who decides what cheating is and if it's allowed, especially in a marriage - in your marriage?

You decide what cheating is in your relationship. If your partner hesitates to tell you, tries to hide certain behaviors or would feel bad if you found out about certain behaviors, they know that they know what they're doing may be considered cheating - or at the very least, dishonest.



Is a Strip Club Considered Cheating?

The definition of "cheating" means different things to different people. For example, a married man I used to work with many years ago would regularly attend strip clubs, his wife had no problem with it. This man invited another married man, who mistakenly assumed that if the first man's wife didn't mind lunch at the strip club, his wife wouldn't mind either. Unfortunately, when the second man's wife found out, she was extremely angry and upset. She felt as if he had betrayed their intimate relationship, even accused him of cheating. So which definition correct? That is for you as a couple to decide.

Probably the most common and safe definition of cheating is as follows: If you do anything that you would never tell your spouse about, or if you would never want them to find out about it - it's probably cheating. Relationships - especially marriage relationships - are all about trust and integrity. Integrity means doing the right thing even when nobody is watching.


Communication and Setting Boundaries in Your Relationship

As a couple, you define what cheating is for you. If you have never talked about these things to your spouse, perhaps now would be a good time to do that. By talking about it, I mean sitting down and laying out exactly where the lines should be drawn.

What actions would be considered cheating?

For example, your husband goes out with the boys to a local club. While there, he starts talking, maybe even flirting with other women at the bar. He doesn't kiss, exchange phone numbers or even have sex with them but he knows if you find out, you're going to be very upset. For you as a couple, this would be considered cheating. The definition of cheating is going to be different for each couple.


What to Do Next if There Are Signs He's Cheating

If you see the signs he's cheating or suspect that he may be, you need to seriously assess your situation. First, try to establish that he is indeed cheating. For example, you may install spyware on his computer that allows you to read his emails, texts, and see what websites he's visiting.

Take a close look at his credit card statements or phone bill for unusual charges. Look for frequently called phone numbers or charges for flowers and gifts that you never received. These may all be signs he's cheating. If you suspect something, just ask him - he may tell you.

If all that leads nowhere, you may need to hire a private investigator.



The Bottom Line

No one wants to see your relationship tainted or ended due to a cheating spouse or partner. The sad fact is that a lot of spouses/boyfriends/partners cheat. It's always your decision to do what you think is right for you, however, staying in a relationship with a cheating partner may end badly.

If you have tried to confront your partner or have tried to get outside help and nothing has changed or things have started getting even worse, it may be time to end the relationship and move on.

This May Not be the End

A cheating spouse does not have to end a relationship. When these things are revealed and handled properly, there is a lot of good things that can come from being found out. You have to remember that your husband is likely going to feel shame, anger, embarrassment or any other range of emotions when he is found out so prepare for this.

Once the air is cleared, you can talk it out and then determine if the relationship is salvageable. Many couples have repaired their relationships and gone on to enjoy happy, fulfilling marriages.

Determine Your Options

If the relationship cannot be salvaged, it may be time to consider your options. Ask yourself these questions: If your relationship is not going to bring you happiness over the long term, why are you in it? Does it seem your relationship is on a steady, downward slide? Does the relationship make you feel good or bad about yourself? Take a look at the video to the right for some helpful advice.




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    • midget38 profile image

      Michelle Liew 

      6 years ago from Singapore

      You've brought out an important point, that drawing boundaries is important. Your partner may have drwn tighter boundaries than you have! Thanks for this, which I share.

    • DzyMsLizzy profile image

      Liz Elias 

      6 years ago from Oakley, CA

      Funny, how all the emphasis is always on 'the cheating man.' He's obviously not cheating alone, but WITH someone...we rarely hear about cheating wives....

      I'm sure all the same symptoms/signals apply. But it's one area where that infamous double-standard is skewed in favor of women.....

      As for celebrities...they are not dieties; they are humans, just like the rest of us...why should anyone be any more shocked and surprised when they are caught than when any 'regular Joe' is caught? The only difference is the paparazzi surrounding the incident; and the shock and outcry is in the mind of the public for trying to put mere people up on pedestals of higher standards than the rest of humanity.

      Good article, though.

    • Sunshine625 profile image

      Linda Bilyeu 

      6 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I'm disappointed that this happened to Jason. From the photos he was obviously beyond trashed. I think he might want to consider quitting the booze and as a married man with two daughters he might also want to consider staying out of bars where women with no morals line up to get their 5 minutes of fame. I'm sure he's done this before. I've been a fan of his from the start and I lost respect for him even though he claims nothing happened. Well from the photos what did happen was bad enough.

      This is what Jason posted on his Facebook wall Sunday night. The pictures are from Wednesday night. He didn't come clean until after TMZ released their photos.

      "Hey Guys – I wanted to talk to you directly, so you were hearing the truth from me and not just reading allegations made about my personal life on gossip web sites.

      The truth is that I screwed up. I had too much to drink, let the party get out of hand and acted inappropriately at a bar. I left alone, caught the bus to our next show and that's the end of the story. I ultimately ended up embarrassing my family and myself. I'm not perfect, and I'm sorry for disappointing you guys. I really appreciate being able to work through this privately with my family and for all your continued support."

      Oh and about cheating, just dump him. That's my opinion. Excellent hub!


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