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Jealous, Bad or Good ?

Updated on November 5, 2009

Do we need jealous? This is not happen just for single in dating but also a marriage couple. for a few things, jealousy can be a tool to measure the amount of love to partner. when jealousy never existed in a relationship. It seems that the relationship should be re-examined. Jealousy is usually started from a sense of belonging. a sense of ownership and doesn't want to lose to be increased, possessiveness will appear. The consequently of this things triggers jealousy. Jealousy is not always negative. Many people who think that jealousy becomes seasonings of a relationship. jealousy is like salt in the vegetables.

Why jealousy comes in relationship

Jealousy is a reflection of feelings toward spouse. Feelings of jealousy arise due to lack of confidence. Jealousy can also arise because a fear of losing or abandonment by a loved. The anger makes a person think irrational, fragile (I'm the Loser) and possessive. If we live far away with our spouse, jealous attitude cause torture ourselves and always bad prejudiced.

Be careful with jealousy

Jealousy become dangerous if prohibits couples to do something, always suspicion. We can't meet our friend, can't wearing sexy clothes. Jealousy become dangerous if a person does not believe with their partner. Making rules that restrain the couple, had to call four times in a day, should make a report if we want to go or we have permission to do something.

How to make a positive jealous

jealous could be positive, which needs to be done is to develop a sense of trust, either to yourself or a partner. Believe in yourself does not make us feel threatened and unrivaled. Self confidence was related with perspectives and levels of love for self-owned. For example, if we can love someone and appreciate ourselves more. we will feel not only that we need him but he also needs us. Trust the partner also to be increased. A good relationship must be accompanied by a sense of trust. Self introspection also to be increased. A sense of jealousy triggers enthusiasm to achieve something more with maximum effort.


How to avoid jealousy

Trying to be honest with the couple. We can involve our couple in every activity. So we get closer and know each other with our spouse. But not too often, because we also have privacy. Especially in working.

Fifty-fifty. Jealousy is necessary as long as not excessive and reasonable. Don't revealing it too childish and annoying. Finally, able to embarrass ourselves. We need confidence with a sense of love and loyalty. If we feel suspicious just say the truth. Sometimes we need a sense of security. Always think positive about yourself. Believe it in the heart that we are also attractive.


Do you have experience with jealousy in your relationship? Or do you have opinion about this topic? I believe many hubbers have experience with this topic. Especially who had married. Please share with us. Thanks

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Good morning, Dr irum. I hope you always healthy. Thanks for coming to this hub and share your thought about jealousy. I agree with you, although we still need but in small portion. Good to see you again. Cheers.....

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      Dr irum 7 years ago

      Jealousy can destroy all things , your relation even your beauty and health also,Thanks to share your knowledge on this issue .

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      prasetio30 8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks aefrancisco for coming to this hub.

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      aefrancisco 8 years ago from somewhere down the road

      GREAT! Thanks for sharing.

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      prasetio30 8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      thanks star4239 for coming to this hub. You have great way to communicate or share with your friends.

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      stars439 8 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      I have many friends and do my best to share them. Great Article.

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      prasetio30 8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      thanks Cynus76, I hope this hub benefit for us, especially in relationship.

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      Cygnus76 8 years ago from ON

      very good description, and really good pointers. :)

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      prasetio30 8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      thanks GPAGE and Dame Scribe for interesting this hub. GPAGE you remembering me about John Lennon song. I also like this song. For Dame Scribe As a married woman I think you have great point of view about this topic.thanks for both of you.

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      Dame Scribe 8 years ago from Canada

      It is strange how married women view single women both at home and work. Very precarious, lol. Great Hub! :)

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      GPAGE 8 years ago from California

      Very good hub! One of my favorite songs by John Lennon....

      " Jealous Guy." I do like when men get a "bit" jealous......very cute! Too much NOT good ; ha GPAGE

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      prasetio30 8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      thanks Hello, Pete and breakfastpop for comment. You are right Pete, I agree with you 100%. I think you have a lot of experience in married and relationship and breakfastpop also.

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      breakfastpop 8 years ago

      A little bit of jealousy sometimes spices things up, but too much ruins everything. Great hub.

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      Pete Maida 8 years ago

      Jealousy is needed as a seasoning to a relationship at times, but like all seasoning too much can ruin everything. If a mate does not respond when someone comes on to his or her spouse they would seem not to care so it is needed in small amounts.

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      Hello, hello, 8 years ago from London, UK

      A very well written hub. Thank you.