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Jealous, Bad or Good ?
Do we need jealous? This is not happen just for single in dating but also a marriage couple. for a few things, jealousy can be a tool to measure the amount of love to partner. when jealousy never existed in a relationship. It seems that the relationship should be re-examined. Jealousy is usually started from a sense of belonging. a sense of ownership and doesn't want to lose to be increased, possessiveness will appear. The consequently of this things triggers jealousy. Jealousy is not always negative. Many people who think that jealousy becomes seasonings of a relationship. jealousy is like salt in the vegetables.
Why jealousy comes in relationship
Jealousy is a reflection of feelings toward spouse. Feelings of jealousy arise due to lack of confidence. Jealousy
can also arise because a fear of losing or abandonment by a loved. The anger makes a person think
irrational, fragile (I'm the Loser) and possessive. If we live far away with our spouse, jealous attitude cause torture ourselves and always bad prejudiced.
Be careful with jealousy
Jealousy become dangerous if prohibits couples to do something, always suspicion. We can't meet our friend, can't wearing sexy clothes. Jealousy become dangerous if a person does not
believe with their partner. Making rules that restrain the couple, had to call four times in a day, should
make a report if we want to go or we have permission to do something.
How to make a positive jealous
jealous could be positive, which needs to be done is to develop a sense of trust, either to yourself or a partner. Believe in yourself does not make us feel threatened and unrivaled. Self confidence was related with perspectives and levels of love for self-owned. For example, if we can love someone and appreciate ourselves more. we will feel not only that we need him but he also needs us. Trust the partner also to be increased. A good relationship must be accompanied by a sense of trust. Self introspection also to be increased. A sense of jealousy triggers enthusiasm to achieve something more with maximum effort.
How to avoid jealousy
Trying to be honest with the couple. We can involve our couple in every activity. So we get closer and know each other with our spouse. But not too often, because we also have privacy. Especially in working.
Fifty-fifty. Jealousy is necessary as long as not excessive and reasonable. Don't revealing it too childish and annoying. Finally, able to embarrass ourselves. We need confidence with a sense of love and loyalty. If we feel suspicious just say the truth. Sometimes we need a sense of security. Always think positive about yourself. Believe it in the heart that we are also attractive.
Do you have experience with jealousy in your relationship? Or do you have opinion about this topic? I believe many hubbers have experience with this topic. Especially who had married. Please share with us. Thanks