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Just Because You Are Not Dating Someone Does Not Mean You Do Not Care

Updated on February 2, 2015
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Jen has graduated from St. Thoms Aquanis College in May of 2009 with a B.A. in Communications. She loves writing about relationships.

For some reason people think that in order to care and love someone you have to date them. That isn't always true.

Just because you are not with someone does not mean they are not important to you. You could love someone with your whole heart but they will not give you a chance. When your loving feelings are not returned by the one who means everything that is unrequited love. It is one of the painful types of love there is. That's why it is called a crush. When the person you love does not love you back, you are crushed.

Some people say that you cannot love someone you never went out with. You definitely can, it just hurts that that person does not return the same feelings. When you can't stop thinking of someone, wish they were right there next to you and imagine a wonderful future with them that is love.

You could be in a relationship with someone and not feel a thing for them. Sure you could like and be attracted to them but just because you are with someone does not mean you are in love with them.

Some people confuse love with lust. They think that sleeping with the person and how good the chemistry is that is love. That's why some people chose friends with benefits. They think that the physical stuff comes first and the emotional part comes later on. It is actually reversed. First you get to know someone and once feelings have developed you celebrate your love by sleeping with each other. After all sex is making a relationship deeper and showing your love for someone.

If you would do anything for a guy but he is mean and rude to you, it hurts. Do not listen when people are confused as to why you are upset. When you really care about someone all you want to do is be with that person. You cannot stop thinking of them and you pray that one day they will see what an amazing person you are and finally give you the chance that you deserve.

If you see a guy you love with another girl of course it is going to hurt. You cannot help but wish that you were that girl. Some people may say "I don't know why you are getting so upset. You never went out with him." That hurts even more.

Of course you are going to be upset when the guy you love is in the arms of another girl. You want to be that girl and you start to wonder why he chose that girl over you. Then you get negative and your self esteem takes a plummet.

Just because he did not notice you, does not mean that no guys will. There is going to be a guy who loves you back one day.

If you have a friend who reminds you of the guys that never asked you out, that is not a friend. If you compare your past relationship to an old crush by saying "At least he gave me a chance. It is better to loved and lost than to never loved at all," and your friend says "But you never went out with (blank), so you can't compare."

Yes you can compare. The guy that asked you out saw something in you. The guy that never asked you out just overlooked you. You could have been the best thing to have ever happened to that guy but he never gave you a chance. It is better to be in a relationship and to experience it than to just be pushed aside and never give the chance to prove how amazing you can be to somebody.

If you are single do not worry. One day you will meet the guy for you. If you have feelings for a guy friend you do not know what happens down the road. Everything does happen for a reason and friendship does turn into more. Do not listen to people who tell you how you feel. Only you know how you feel inside. Just be positive, take chances and be open to all of the wonderful things that the universe has to offer to you.


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