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How to Keep Romance Alive and Your Man Happy in Long Relationships
How Do You Keep the Passion Alive?
In a long term relationship it takes some work and dedication to keep love and passion alive.
Women need romance, I think more than man. And with time the strong feelings of the beginning tend to fade.
What can you do to keep the romance in your relationship? Lots of things, some big, some small.
Below I share some things I've learned to be true about how to maintain a happy love relationship.
How to Treasure your Partner
At the heart of nurturing your relationship is the act of treasuring your beloved.
- Hold him dear to you
- Appreciate his wonderful qualities and demonstrate how special he is to you
- Show him that he is the person who still makes your life beautiful
- Be nurturing
Beware the Comfort Zone: After Some Time Love Becomes Routine
After you have been together for a while, and you grow confident in your relationship, you tend to relax and you may lower your guard, showing sides of yourself that you camouflaged during the initial courtship.
As the pink lenses of love fade, the perfect being of your affection starts showing some flaws - and so do you at his eyes.
You are still happy together, but without any tangible sign, each day contributes to the evolution of your connection. Your feelings for one another subtly change.
What was lovely and exciting at the beginning, could become the same old.
To the slow sentiment-changing action of time, you need to add major life-changing events, like the things that we all want: marriage, children and important jobs.
Under the stress of a busy and demanding life, the once thrilling relationship can get really unrecognizable, to the point that some couples lose all the romance and get caught in misunderstandings, continuous arguments or, even worse in my opinion, complete indifference.
How Do You Keep Falling in Love for the Same Person?
Make Your Man Happy Nurturing Romance Like a Loving Gardener
A love relationship is like a beautiful flower garden, it needs grooming and constant care. If you don’t keep working on your garden, weeds and withered flowers will take over. You need to keep the magic up by nurturing that initial wonderful feeling, and keep it thriving.
The challenge for any couple is to maintain alive the initial feeling of magic through continuous nourishment. Nurturing the connection you have with your partner is what sustains the relationship.
Focus on Your Partner’s Positive Qualities
Focus on your partner’s positives rather than his flaws. As you did when you first fell in love with him, focus on what you do like about him and not dwell on things you do not like.
Remember why you chose him; refocus on the qualities that made you fall in love. Shift from criticism over the imperfect things you discovered about him, to appreciation for his qualities. Keep falling in love, for the same person, over and over.
Love Is Giving without Expectations to Receive - And You'll Receive
A successful relationship is never the fruit of one party’s effort only. It takes both partners to make it work.
However, I believe that in love, the best rule is "Give without expectations" . It pays off to be on the forefront, being the first one who steps up and gives meaningfully to the relationship.
I’m not talking about gifts here. Do your best to show love with your words, actions and sometimes sacrifices, without expecting pats on the back, gifts, or recognition.
Your partner will perceive that love. He will appreciate it. Your relationship will gain extra power from it, and the next thing you know, he’ll be doing nice things for you.
Devote your attention, your energy, and yourself, to nourishing the romance.
The Little Things That Count
What really builds the foundations of the relationship, are not the big planned surprises, or big words, but the small daily deeds entailing love and respect.
To keep the romance in the couple, you don’t need big, heroic, passionate gestures. Yes, those are always great and very welcome, but honestly, how often can you do grandiose acts of love? Maybe few times a year, for anniversaries and birthdays.
What really counts is the everyday stuff. Here are some ideas for everyday acts of love and dedication that can make your man happy.
Give Him a Warm Welcome Home
Welcome him home with warmth and kindness. At the end of the day, after a day of work, greet your man cheerfully, even if you can’t wait to vent your day’s frustrations, don’t start complaining the moment he walks in. Give him the chance to relax; wait for a better moment to share your issues.
Help Him Out
Volunteer to help him with errands if his day is overload.
Meet His Needs
Turn his wishes into reality. Listen carefully to what he is wishing for, and find creative ways to make it happen.
Show Love on the Table
Cook for him. Men love finding a nice dinner waiting for them at home, it makes them feeling loved and cared for. Better yet you have his favorite food on a nicely set table. If he packs his lunch, do it for him. He’ll appreciate.
Surprise Him with a Note
Write a cute note and slip it in his lunch box, car, or stick it on his keys.
Keep Intimacy Alive
Keep it fun in the bedroom. Surprise him with the sexy stuff that you know he loves. Keep the physical intimacy exciting and passionate.
Make Your Home Cozy
Keep the house welcoming and comfortable, make it a nice place to come home to. This may involve removing clutter and doing some extra cleaning.
Keep the Conversation Going
Listen to him, ask how his day was and really listen to his answers. Ask him for advice on matters that you would usually handle yourself and listen to his opinion.
Keep the Smiles Coming
Laugh together. Laughing together boosts the joyful spirit that connected you in the first place.
Clear Things Up Before Bed Time
Never go to bed angry. Communicate, express your feelings, talk it out, possibly find a compromise; try everything to avoid going to sleep packed with resentment and sadness.
Play games together. Spend quality time together playing games that you both enjoy. Board games, sports, trivia, what do you both enjoy? You’ll have some fun time, create memories to cherish, and strengthen your connection.
Sowing the Seeds of Love to Keep Romance in Marriage
If you make give without expectations your everyday rule, all your dedication will not go unnoticed.
Your man will notice and appreciate your efforts; he will recognize what you are doing and why you are doing it.
Every little act of love you do it's like a seed planted in the garden of your relationship, and soon enough you’ll see the fruits of your hard work.
A man that feels loved, respected, and cared for is a happy man, and he will do his best to make you happy too.
He will look forward to come home and spend time with you.
His thankfulness for being appreciated and loved will reward you with a greater happiness and a stronger bond in your relationship.
© 2012 Robie Benve