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Learn How to Grow Through A Breakup

Updated on June 8, 2012

Breaking up is something that most people will go through at least once in their life. It’s a part of life, and something people must go through in order to learn what they really need from a relationship. Learning and growing after a break up can be hard, but it’s a necessary evil.

One of the biggest mistakes people make when entering a relationship is making too many concessions, and expecting things to change. While people are capable of change, usually something that bothers you about your significant other in the beginning of a relationship will only get worse as later on. The reason for this is that people grow comfortable in their skin and only look to change when they feel it’s necessary. Even if you make it a point to tell your significant other that something about them bothers you, more likely than not, your criticisms will be met with resentment rather than the change you are looking for. The best advice for this dilemma is learning to accept your significant other for their flaws as well as their positive points, or if you can’t accept their flaws then move on.

The world is filled with billions of people, and sooner or later you will find someone that is compatible with what you want, but you have to know what you want before you can find someone that is compatible with you. This is why many relationships end, because in the game of love trial and error is the only way to learn and grow, but you have to be able to learn your lessons. Many times, people will go into one relationship after another making the same mistakes, because they are too stubborn to understand that a breakup isn’t the end of the world. Breakups are merely the road signs that point you to where you need to be, and just like a highway; life has many twists and turns before you get to your final destination.

Learning and growing after a break up is the key to finding true love. Life’s lessons may be hard, especially when you get closer and closer to finding what you want, but if you give up on love; you will never find what you want. Don’t give up, accept each lesson as it comes, and one day the lessons will be over and you will know what true love is.


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      fjpteach 5 years ago from Humble, TX

      Feeling inspired. I might have to write something about the Trial and Error in the game of love. I'll keep you posted : )

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      Jose Velasquez 5 years ago from Lodi, New Jersey

      Anytime. I'm glad you liked this one.

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      Ashish Joshi 4 years ago from India

      Nice advice Philly...if only it was easy to just accept it as over and move on!

      I've been through this (and may be still going through) and I can tell you it's not that bitter a pill to swallow but the pain that becomes a part of you for ages after is excruciating!

      But yes, what you said is the only way out of it.

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      Jose Velasquez 4 years ago from Lodi, New Jersey

      Don't I know it, but sometimes you just have to embrace that hardship like a friend and keep moving.

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      Ashish Joshi 4 years ago from India

      I hope it works out alright soon...

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      Breaking up is hard to do..Familiar words. Almost everyone goes through this at one time or another. It is never easy, but it can be enlightening in life. Deal with the pain straight on and it will pass eventually.

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      IntegrityYes 4 years ago

      You are correct. We wish that no one had to go through pain tunnel at all. It is a part of life though. I voted up.

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      Aileen 2 years ago

      It's great to find an expert who can exipaln things so well

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