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Why You Need to Talk From The Heart
This is Also a Very Smart Tool.
Learn to Talk from the Heart
For many men throughout the world, the fear of rejection is one of the most powerful negative influences that can and does destroy the potential of any relationship. Perhaps it is the way men are wired that allows self doubt and lack of confidence to erode their many opportunities in life to truly believe, or know what to search for in regards to finding mutual happiness.
Generally, unlike women, men often don't feel comfortable expressing themselves intimately or emotionally to their peers. As a result, that inability to strive towards making themselves openly able to be understood and accepted for who they really are 'inside' often creates in itself a whole new raft of hangups or baggage. Denial. That place where no man believes he is wrong! It is a mental space that magically provides all the tools it takes to build a barrier, a set of excuses, hollow reasons for not trying, or a blueprint of self justification for withdrawing or shunning the very thing that he needs.
Ironically, inwardly those who allow that bad habit to develop often tend to know, that being loved and being in love, would help cure the pains of low self esteem and any nagging uncertainty they harbor within a belief of 'not being good enough' to deserve the love offered. A smart women sees right through self pity, excuses and denial. She will only accept his potential as a mate, if he is honest enough to genuinely love her at the expense of completely giving up any selfish need, to cling to the loneliness of his self pity and denial. A smart man projects his truest potential when he learns to listen, believe, compromise and speak from the heart. How hard is it really - being truly, blatently honest with yourself?
Happiness is Very Contagious!
Don't Concede Completely...
'Leave Me to My Denial'
A foreboding sadness gathers
spreading mistily across my today
enveloping and staining
the fluidity of calm reason
It seems driven by determination
far stronger than my understanding
or my will to stop it, to not let it have
it’s more powerful way with my solo plans
It has come to me defiantly upon
a howling yellowish-grey wind carrying gifts
of unwelcome anguish coated in icy thoughts
the ghost of fate, and sticky pine pollen
Coldly my world is being transformed
completely clouded, unfamiliar to me
In boldness slain, it now seems
painted in hews disowned for their insipidness
Oh how this relentless determination shows the ease
of its ability to choke loneliness’ sepia freedom
Now at full gallop through every raw, gaping crack
found within the walls of what had once been possible
And thus, the relevance of my denial lies expired
beside the door, no longer moving and evidentiary coated
in yellow pollen, chalking a fallen once proud soul
marking where a future forest, has now been spawned
Very well then take my fading, granular concession
I miss you too and perhaps, in time more vibrantly colored
I will truly if not freely, realize how much along with how
to best remove the bloodstains of a denial’s demise
For I deeply abhor being so helplessly overwhelmed
and completely incapable of avoiding
the strident ways, you know and take my heart…
*~ Pearldiver ~
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