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Focusing on Yourself While You Are Still Single Can Help You Attract Your Soulmate

Updated on July 20, 2018

Make Self Improvement Your First Priority

If you are single and looking for a partner remember that the intimacy you seek will be based on how comfortable you are able to make someone feel when they are in your presence. In order to feel comfortable with another person you must first find comfort in being alone.This might sound counter-intuitive but the truth is it takes practice and a lot of effort to make someone feel comfortable when they are around you. However, if you can feel comfortable with yourself then you already have the ability to make someone else feel comfortable as well. This is because we as humans tend to mirror people that we spend the most time with. Therefore it is also possible to project our insecurities onto the people we spend the most time with as well. If you want to avoid this pitfall it is important that you cultivate having sense of worth and high self confidence The way to increase your self confidence while you are still single is by making self improvements on four different levels in your life; these levels include the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual levels of your life.

How do You Get Started?

You can start making improvements on the physical level by asking yourself questions like am I getting enough sleep? Do I eat healthy and exercise regularly? Do I give myself enough time to relax? If after your self assessment you realize that there are areas where you could do better, it's probably worth it to make those changes. These changes are important because something as simple as taking the time to relax and unwind has positive effects not only on the body but on the mind as well. So to start mentally improving yourself why not try reading more books or keeping an open mind to having new experiences? Improvements like these can arm you with interesting things to talk about when you meet people that you could be potentially dating. Improving yourself mentally will positively effect your emotional state by increasing your overall self-confidence. Remember self-confidence is a very attractive trait and it is something to work on while you are still single. In order to maintain your self-confidence it is important that you work out any unresolved issues or emotional trauma that you may have experienced in the past. Negative memories can make you feel insecure about yourself. Only when you are able to rid yourself of insecurity and when nothing is holding you back from your true potential we'll you begin to see yourself in a new light. Your new self-image will cause you to question yourself on a deeper level in order for you to discover what your true purpose is? Once you attain this deeper knowledge of who you are on a fundamental level, it will be that much easier to understand people and who they are on a fundamental level as well.

Love Yourself

By making the necessary improvements physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually you give yourself the opportunity to create happiness in your life. When you are happy you can't help but attract great experiences to your life, these experiences include great people. They will gravitate towards you without much effort on your part. Take note that this works best once you start making the necessary improvements in your life to help you create the balance you need while you are still single. Being single isn't such a bad thing because it can be a great opportunity to become a person who is worthy of true love.

Learn How to Focus on Yourself

Maintaining a relationship is not an easy task because it requires focus and concentration. When giving someone your undivided attention you must also be willing to listen and communicate honestly with them. A commitment to focus on someone else is also a commitment to invest your time into making that relationship work. Time is very precious so you don't want to waste it on someone who isn't worth your time. Once you can master how to focus on yourself it will naturally be that much easier to focus on your significant other.

Everyone Has a Soulmate

Actively searching for a soulmate can lead you to investing your time in the wrong people. This doesn't necessarily mean that you shouldn't be open to having new and exciting experiences. Just know that when you prioritize making the necessary improvements in your life to create balance on the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual levels, while you are still single; you have already made the necessary preparations to find your soulmate.


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    • dashingscorpio profile image


      2 years ago from Chicago

      Great advice!

      Life is a (personal) journey!

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      Each of us has our mate selection process/must haves list.

      Each of us has our boundaries and "deal breakers".

      Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself.

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde


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