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Living as a Military Wife
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Life as a Military wife
As a military wife I had to deal with not only the lack there of a husband to hold me at night, but dealing with my four year old that inquired as to why daddy works to much. As a young adult I had physical as well as emotional needs in which originally I was hoping my husband at the time could fulfill. I was going to school at the time to become a nurse, and I was also on depression medication. Those that have gone through depression will tell you that it truly does not matter how many people are around you; If you are without your life partner it will have a much greater affect on you than say if you have a family member that moves away, or a parent that passes away.
The term "married but single" is often used for military families due to constant separation of families or spouses. As a married couple you have financial and physical privileges over those who are dating, However as a married military spouse you have the legal paperwork, and financial, but as far as physical is limited.
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Problems that Arise from Military Marraiges
There are some serious psychological effects due to the separation of you and your spouse. Often there becomes a looming lack of trust between partners due to the ability to cheat or be cheated on.
Unfortunately, there is a higher divorce rate within the military community than the general civilian population.
The non-military spouse might begin using narcotics, illegal drugs, abuse alcohol etc just to deal with the pain, isolation, loneliness, or boredom the separation causes. The active military member can become complacent, detached, and seek outside comfort etc.
The military likes to place positive aspects for families such as medical care, programs etc. However, the extended absences seem to do more harm than good far as the help of financial, or medical help.
If you are a single soldier, you are likely to benefit more than a married soldier. The army offers grants, bonuses, promote seemingly quickly, offer educational programs, and gives you the chance to travel the world, there by letting you become very cultured.
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Conclusive thoughts on Military Affiliation
If I had been single, and without children I would have gladly signed up myself once upon a time. As again, I state that as a single soldier and young person making your life in this crazy world. The military helps you get off your feet, learn responsibility, and branch out into the world.
If you are attached, and struggling with being a military spouse here is the best advise I can give on the matter: All marriages if strong and joined for the right reasons (as in love and acceptance rather than convenience or last resort) can and will go through many trials. If you love one another, trust one another, and want the best for each other then your marriage will make it through.
However, if one or both partners are selfish, close minded, or not willing to work at the relationship then it will ultimately fail. Whether you are military or not.