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Living with the Bedouin People
Love is blind
I met my husband in South Africa and decided to live in Croatia after marriage.
I have learned another language and moved on with my new lifestyle in Croatia.
An Arabian ethnic group called the Bedouin people a clan or tribe living in desserts.
I read an interesting story about a woman who approved of that lifestyle.
It is amazing where love can take a person that far from home and to another way of life.
I know that from experience and now to read about someone else, who had gone through such great obstacles, and still would want more from a nomadic life, is truly a challenging one.
She ended up marrying him and went to live in his cave.
Her story as follows:
While on her travels for a week to Petra, Jordan, she met a handsome man and chatted for a bit. He wore a heavily fringed and tasseled red and white cloth twisted up on his head, it is called a mandrel.
Nabatean people carved the Treasury by hand over two thousand years ago. Nobody knows if the Treasury is a temple or a tomb, the Bedouin people think the Pharaoh’s treasure is in an urn at the top.
The urn was placed there as a part of the living rock it had been hacked so the full part of the urn is not visible.
Who are the Bedouin people?
Bedouins are nomads and live in tents and caves with no education or sanitation.
The young man enlightened the woman about the Bedouin people and asked the woman to stay for the night.
She was looking for an adventure and was accompanied by a friend. The invitation was accepted.
The doorway to the cave was just high enough so that they did not have to bend.
They entered the cave and their eyes adjusted when they saw an almost square cave. only about five by six meters with a low arched roof just out of arm's reach, and a rough concrete floor.
There was a Primus stove, a tray of glasses, a cooking pot and a few plates on the floor.
A meal was served that evening a thick goulash with potatoes, onions, canned of peas, tomato puree, and with corned beef. Some bread was served which he called shrank.
When it was time to go to the toilet they had to go down the hill behind some bushes.
They brushed their teeth with a glass of water the two women slept inside the cave, while the young man slept outside with his blankets.
The woman only stayed the one night.
A few days later after staying at a hotel they had decided to move on with their travels as planned but were called back by their guide to see a Bedouin wedding.
The two women attended the wedding and went back home back to England to get on with their lives. Going back only made Sheryl see where she really belonged.
The romance at Bedouin allowed her to leave and return back to Bedouin. Sheryl had to go back and marry that wonderful man she fell in love with while on holiday.
She knew this was the place for her and that she would rather be than in Petra with the one she wanted, her husband to be.
Sheryl did what she wanted, and did not care for anything else in the world but to be with her new love.
No politics or philosophy just her and a wonderful man who started his day by praying.
She was not sure if it was the right way, and of what she was getting herself into but knew she had to know more by trying it out.
Her wedding dress was made from synthetic material and is called a Mudra dress.
The preparations for the wedding were underway immediately.
Soon it became clear to Sheryl that she could not speak Arabic with everything happening so quickly, she did not have the time to think about how it would be to meet up with the rest of the family.
The Arabic man now married to a foreign woman was certainly a catch for him.
The woman did not know how to milk a goat, how to make bread or how to start a fire and he certainly was not going to move in to take care of her in-laws.
A tough one to think about much later in that marriage and in that kind lifestyle.
They went up to a mountaintop and sat up there to view the wedding celebrations from other caves. The Bedouin tribe who she now was a part of had shown her true meaning of life from their culture.
Although many families had settled in Petra and no longer wandered the desert with their herds or goats looking for water and food they insisted they were still Bedouin.
Though she was welcomed and loved by all, it took the woman a long time to realize that after her arraign she had become part of something larger than she had ever thought of.
The other part of her marriage she never gave much thought to it was never going to be him and her there are also others involved in their lives. The family and friends also play a big role in their lives.
Learning a language was total immersion after a long day working as the nurse at the local clinic meant she had to know more about the language.
Their daughter was born in a public hospital on the south side of Amman in a predominantly Palestinian area. The different way of life surprised Sheryl.
Her son was born a few years later and they got news to move into the new settlement.
Red brick homes with concrete floors and slabs for roofs and the doors were solid metal.
It meant losing friends and the clinic she worked in was closed, so moving was put off. The decision of staying and missing out on a way of life had disappeared. Her husband Mohammed was a diabetic and sadly he died in the comfort of their own cave home.
When the kids got older they went back to England to further their education. Sheryl went back to England to be with her family and now lives close to her brother.
She would like to go back and live in Petra in a cave and with the Bedouin people but not as yet.
Her life will never be the same again.
I came to live in a village and it has opened my mind to many different thoughts. The life here is laid back and so traditional.
I got my way with this lifestyle and choose to live with what I know best. Living in a cave is a tough decision for me and would never do.
I wouldn't have been able to live in such conditions a way I would have to be born into. It takes great courage, and lots of thought to be able to live in a cave and the sanitation part is another way I know won't go with me.
Would you live without sanitation and in a cave?
The choices I make have to be carefully thought of before taking the plunge.
Some people do enjoy adventures and seek that experience as much as I do enjoy different experiences hygiene does make a difference to me.
A challenging lifestyle, and to give up all you have to go and live a nomadic life is a great experience for a day, The life as Sheryl had taken a chance on was an incredible decision for her.
The Bedouin people were loving and friendly to Sheryl. They felt Mohammed had a good catch a foreign woman whom he did not have to pay for as others do in the nomadic tradition.
A lifestyle that may not work out for everyone. Lots have changed and modern lives have taken over though some people have no choice but to live in such poor conditions.
I look at it as poor conditions but if people choose to live that way and don't want to move on then that is what they have to live by.
The lifestyle of Bedouin People
Would you live without sanitation for a day?
© 2014 Devika Primić