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Loneliness and the Man Who Wears Lingerie

Updated on October 16, 2009

Loneliness is a terrible pain that can strike anyone at any time. A feeling of isolation, it is possible to feel loneliness even when surrounded with many other people. (Yeah, I just explained what loneliness is as if you'd never heard of it before. Bear with me, it gets better.) Men who wear lingerie are prone to a certain type of loneliness that manifests in them feeling separate and 'other', sometimes even when in a lover's embrace.

Unsurprisingly, loneliness strikes men who secretly wear lingerie a little more often than men who openly wear lingerie, because a man who hides the fact that he wears lingerie (and therefore, a part of who he is), may feel that he can never truly be known. The act of hiding something about himself puts a wall between him and other people in his life.

Simply being open about wearing lingerie won't necessarily solve the problem either. There is the risk of rejection, which can cause temporary loneliness (whilst you loose the shallow piece of work who rejected you for what you want to wear and find someone who cares about you for who you are) as well. Of course, rejection is not guaranteed and much of the loneliness a man who wears lingerie feels can often be alleviated simply by telling a significant other about his love of lingerie.

On the other side of the coin, the loneliness may simply be caused by the man who wears lingerie believing that he is a freak, that he is the only one out there in the whole wide world that loves lingerie. Anyone who reads these articles and the resulting comments will note that this is clearly not the case, but emotions are not always logical, and many men suffer for a long time under the misapprehension that they are the only people on the planet who see a pair of nylon panties and just want to get them on.

Loneliness is part of the human condition. Why it exists I am not sure. I hypothesize that it is a negative feeling generated when we feel apart from the herd and therefore 'unsafe'. Rather than let us wander off and become food for snaggletooth ubertigers, evolution gave us a mechanism that makes us feel bad when we perceive that we are not part of a group. Unfortunately for us advanced humans, our perception of 'not being part of a group' is often triggered incorrectly.

The truth of the matter is that you are more loved and cared about than you can imagine. Yes, even though you are a man who likes womens lingerie.


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      rman 7 years ago

      I tried to be active as much as possible. That helps keep my mind off of it. But I still hang out with friends and family. Unfortunately most people do not know about my love of wearing women's clothes and lingerie.

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      SatinJenni 8 years ago from Burlington Ontario Canada

      I've always been transparent about my desires in life. Most everyone knows I wear lingerie. In turn, I suspect it's why most people are generally open with me. Loneliness is a terrible human condition and all of us should strive to eradicate it. Just be yourself and others will naturally gravatate to you ...if only for your sincerity.

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      mgl1951 8 years ago

      feeling lonley if you are rejected by someone just because you like wearing lingerie does hurt at times. just think of it this way, it's the person who rejected you is the true loser, they are losing the chance to be with someone who is truthful and feels comfortable in who they are. I've been wearing panties and other longerie for several years and have been rejected and felt alone. all I can say is I am what I am, take me as you find me. I made up my mind to not let others make me feel bad or lonely because they can't accept me for who I am. I'm married and have a very understanding wife, she loves seeing me wearing longerie. I wear panties every day, and add to it at times. hang in there and things will work out ok.

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      Deke 8 years ago

      Well Said, Thank You!

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      goldentoad 8 years ago from Free and running....

      I never wore lingerie so I won't disagree.

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      shamelabboush 8 years ago

      Loneliness can be dangerous that's why I always try to keep myself busy like cleaning the apartment :) Nice hub.