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Long Distance Relationships How To Make Them Work
My Long Distance Relationship
Long distance realtionships can be difficult to maintain. The emotional ups and downs it can take on a couple will be a challenge. Fortunately, there is a way to stat together during your time apart.
My husband and I started off in a long distance realtionship before we got married. Due to his job, we continued on this way for many years. We both get lonely at times, but some how we find a way to reconnect with each other often. I'll share my expriences on long distance relationships within this article.
When I first met my husband I was 16 years old. Being that young, you would think that a girl would fall head over heels in love with a handsome college junior. I was tuff as nails back then, and my husband can attest to that.
The first time we met was during his spring break from college. After being stood up by another guy, he stepped in and offered to take me on a date in his place. I reluctently accepted.
After the movie, we went back to my house where we talked for hours. He had a great sense of humor and we really enjoyed each other's company. He left to go back to college, and I wondered if I would ever see him again. A week later he sent me a post card with a small package of gummy bears attacthed to it. It read....
" I remembered you said that you liked gummy bears. I hope you enjoy these "
That was the first time that anyone listen intenly to what I said, and responded in such. It was a 75 cent bag of gummy bears. We had no idea that this was the start of making a connection through long distance.
In 1998 we married very young. I was 20 and he was 23. We both had careers but for some reason his job always took him away from me. After 13 years of marriage, I believe that we've spent at least 3 of those years together. Right now he's out of town on work. I get to see him every 10 days for four days at a time. It's not as bad as you would think. He left me three little children to remind me of the love that we have. I see them, and I see him.
Here are the ways that we continue our long distance relatonship.
- Text Messages
- Phone Calls
- Gifts through mail
- Special Visits
Text Messages For Long Distance Couples
Text Messages are perhaps the easiest way to show you care during a long distance relationship . All relationships can benefit from a little techno love note.
Some of the messages that you can share are
" Good morning, I hope your day brings you joy "
" Hey, just checking in on you, I miss you much "
" I'm going to bed now.... I hope you dream about me"
These simple one sentence text messages can brighten anyone's day. Just a simple reminder that someone's on your mind.
Long Distance Phone Calls
With great long distance phone plans, you can call virtually anywhere.
Limit your phone calls to make the talk time more interesting. Skip a few days in between and try not to make any serious discussions during calls. Save the heavy stuff for visits.
Avoiding conflict while in a long distance relationship is extremely important. Use your time wisely while away from each other.
Address any issues for face to face visits only. It's the best way to address an issue because it's easier to resolve problems in person. Sometimes things that are said in text message or over the phone can be misunderstood. Body language is the best indicator of sincerity.
Love Gifts to Stay Connected
Everyone loves gifts, but they are especially important when having a long distance relationship. A simple reminder of the one you love is a great way to stay connected.
Even if you don't have a lot of money, you can purchase a small token of your appreciation. It's great to get a gift in the mail. Something as small as a snack, ( like those gummies I mentioned earlier) can lay a foundation for a long distance relationship.
Just remember to listen to your love one in order to get an idea of what he or she likes. It doesn't make sense to buy someone a DVD when they don't have a DVD player. Be thoughtful when purchasing a love gift.
Making Special Time For Two
Making special time for two, when in a long distance relationship, is perhaps the most important part of staying connected.
Plan ahead, to make the best of your time together. Reserve a babysitter ahead of time to surprise your loved one with a day alone.
Spending an entire day together really helps to get you up to speed in your relationship.
Limit your time taking care of the mundane tasks around the house ( mowing grass, paying bills etc. ). to make time to focus on each other. Here are the ways that you can stay connect when together.
- Go out to dinner
- Take a walk
- Go for a long drive
- Get caught up on our favorite shows together. ( save certain shows and only watch them when you're together.)
- Make Love ( it's a must )
If you're considering a long distance relationship and you're not sure whether it can work, I give you this piece of advice........A long distance relationship will always work with the right person.
Best Wishes In Love!
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