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Love Before Relations

Updated on November 7, 2017
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- is an aspiring author who has profound respect for the sacred institution of marriage.

Prose Poetry About the Consequences of Giving in In a Relationship(s)

The way I see it; you're a good girl who lost her virtues in translations like,

You packed your bags and left your values.

It’s as if you never knew your worth; giving up what’s precious and priceless to common folk’s

The same ones who found it before you in a common place, at a commercial value.

Motives unclear as relations came before love and for that reason the latter you never knew. Simply, you let the hubris control you. A victim of your own ignorance you put the cart before the horse and now you pushing the load. What is sex without value? What are you without yours?

Now, you're just a good girl gone bad.

I have seen this too many times; good girls fail to wait for good men of their age to light a match so they gave up to men who built them up for perpetual failure. Now, you’re stuck in an unhappy place.

Ladies, heed my fading counsel, how many men out there are going to say this? It’s a system of bottomless hope, a web that looks like silk, a maze that looks like a well-pruned garden, a beautiful and surreal screen in front of a dark dungeon, a distraction you can’t afford so see and avoid, just fly on by. Stay pretty and true.

I'm not trying to change a mold just trying to get good girls to stand in front the mirror look at their reflection looking back and be proud -

You put love before relations.



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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 9 months ago

      I don't believe having premarital sex makes a "good girl" suddenly a "bad girl" no more than it makes a "good guy" a "bad guy".

      In the U.S. the average person loses their virginity at age 17. The average age of a first time bride is 27 and for grooms it's 29. In many instances guys don't really start to think about marriage or settling down until they're in their early 30s.

      Women in today's era also have better career opportunities and higher pay than previous generations of women and therefore don't feel the need to be "rescued" or financially taken care of by men. There are also many birth control options for women and a very little stigma for being unmarried, cohabitating, or even if one chooses to have children out of wedlock.

      And yet every year there are 2.3 million weddings that take place in the U.S. Even porn star actresses, strippers, and prostitutes have been known to find men who will marry them.

      The truth of the matter is "virginity" isn't valued by many men or women today. Even when it was the "value" usually dropped the older the woman became. A 45 year old virgin woman was called an "Old maid" or "Spinster" in past generations.

      If being a virgin was worth it's weight in gold age wouldn't matter and boys wouldn't be desperate to get rid of theirs!

      In order for a woman to truly be "equal" to a man she has to stop caring what (men) think about her. Women also need to stop putting down other women! Men rarely put down other men for their sexual behavior. Women may call them "dogs", "no good jerks", "a-holes" or whatever.

      Most of us men don't care what (women) think about them!

      We do whatever we want to do whenever we want to do it.

      It matters to man when he cares about that specific woman.

      Whenever two consenting adults have sex and either of them believes the woman is getting the short end of the stick (no pun intended) it's the equivalent of saying women aren't equal to men.

      The reality is no one needs to know about your sex life. Any guy who is looking to marry a virgin need only find a girl who shares his same values. Thankfully we live on a planet with over (7 Billion) people. Odds are there is someone for everyone without feeling the need to shame them into believing as we do. The goal is to find someone who (naturally wants) what you do!

      Having said that the first time most "good girls" have sex it's with someone they feel they love. They're just too immature to realize that it's unlikely anyone finds their "soul-mate" at age 16 or 17! When it comes to love and relationships most of us (fail our way) to success. If this were not so we'd be married to our high school sweethearts!

      Teenagers pursue relationships before figuring out who (they) are let alone what they want and need in a mate for life. Even if they truly believed they found "the one" at age 18 odds are they want think he/she is ideal at age 25, 30, or beyond.

      The more life and dating experience we have the more wisdom and insight we gain into ourselves.

      Lots of young people allow "impulsive connections" and "happenstance" to dictate their relationship choices. It's the equivalent of going shopping without a list!

      Another reason why teenagers engage in sexual activity aside from having raging hormones is their lack of ability to view their lives beyond right NOW. Most 14 year olds can't imagine themselves as being 18 year old college freshmen living on campus and that's only 4 years away. That's an eternity to them!

      "Good girls" believe in romance, love, and passion just like "bad girls". Intention and motivation determine whether one is "good" or "bad" not necessarily their actions.

      Life is a (personal) journey!

      When you stop caring what others think you're truly free.

      Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself!

      One man's opinion!