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Loving and Being Loved
In life there can be many times when we go through the pains of getting hurt in love from our first love to our last love and everyone in between. Many of us experienced our first love or crush when we where in grade school.
I remember Valentines Day in grade school where all the kids would bring in their Valentines to exchange with each other. It was always the same outcome being that the popular kids would always have the biggest pile of Valentines on their desks. I was not one of the popular kids but the little pile I got I treasured at that moment even though I didn't get one from the boy that I had a secret crush on.
This day dedicated to love was my earliest memory of showing affection for a boy by giving him a Valentine. When I did not get one back from him I was wounded but not fatally I would move on and soon forget him. After all I had more pressing things to think about like going out to sell my girl guide cookies to raise money to go to camp this was much more important than silly boys!
Of course that out-look all changed when I hit my teens by the time I was fourteen all I could think about were boys. I had a couple of teen loves nothing serious just some holding hands, kissing and just hanging out. I had my first real serious relationship when I was eighteen this lasted for five years. This relationship had a few firsts for me including my first big heart-break, This boyfriend moved to a different city to continue his education so the long distance relationship just didn't work for us and so we split up.
This relationship really broke my heart at the time as we had discussed getting married in the future when he was done University. But it wasn't meant to be and in a way it was a blessing in disguise. Because of this breakup I went out with a friend who wanted to cheer me up and I ended up meeting my soul mate who I have been involved with for 26yrs and counting!
One thing you must do is get back out and meet new people; don't give up because you may have had your heart broken and are afraid to have it happen again. If you don't take chances you may be missing out on meeting your soul mate. You must get up and dust yourself off and move forward towards the future; don't waste anymore time sulking over what should have or could have been with someone who is long gone.
I am so glad I took that chance because I found my soul mate; don't get me wrong we have had our bumps in the road. At certain points in our relationship we have separated; but in the end we have managed to forgive each other and move forward together. In fact now that we are both older and perhaps a bit wiser we are communicating in a healthier way than we ever have. Having my soul mate at my side has helped in aiding me in healing from wounds from my past.
Just remember the old but true saying "It is better to have loved and lost than to have never have loved at all". Speaking of my own experiences with love I believe this saying says it all because the natural high feeling we get when we are in love there is no greater feeling. If you only have one chance at experiencing the feeling of true love I say go for it and enjoy one of the greatest feelings in life!