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Love Hurts Friendship Heals

Updated on November 2, 2020
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Loving and Being Loved


In life, there can be many times when we go through the pains of getting hurt in love from our first love to our last love and everyone in between. Many of us experienced our first love or crush when we were in grade school. Ni natter when, how or where our first love occurred in our lives, it is certainly an experience which many of us will not soon forget. Treasuring this special experience throughout our lives! Keeping it tucked away in our memories as a special time that oozed great feelings of pure joy and excitement on so many levels!

I remember Valentines' Day in grade school where all the kids would bring in their Valentines to exchange with each other. It was always the same outcome being that the popular kids would always have the biggest pile of Valentines on their desks. I was not one of the popular kids but the little pile I got I treasured at that moment even though I didn't get one from the boy that I had a secret crush on.

This day dedicated to love was my earliest memory of showing affection for a boy by giving him a Valentine. When I did not get one back from him I was wounded but not fatally I would move on and soon forget him. After all, I had more pressing things to think about like going out to sell my girl guide cookies to raise money to go camping! Indeed this was much more important than silly boys!

Of course, that out-look all changed when I hit my teens by the time I was fourteen all I could think about were boys. I had a couple of teen loves nothing serious just some holding hands, kissing and just hanging out. I had my first real serious relationship when I was eighteen this lasted for five years. This relationship had a few firsts for me including my first big heartbreak, This boyfriend moved to a different city to continue his education so the long-distance relationship just didn't work for us and so we split up. It was not only hard on myself but my family (especially my mother). She had been crushed by this particular breakup as she was very fond of my first love (Paul). They had shared a close friendship throughout our five-year relationship--it was a little odd how close they really were. My mother never had a close relationship with any of the other men in my life--including my soulmate/husband Mike.

My relationship with Paul really broke my heart at the time. We had discussed getting married in the future when he was done University. But it wasn't meant to be and in a way, it was a blessing in disguise. Because of this breakup, I went out with my friend (Wynne)who wanted to cheer me up. Well, I ended up meeting my soul mate (Mike) who I eventually married, we have been together for 31 years and counting!

One thing you must do is get back out and meet new people; don't give up because you may have had your heartbroken. Don't allow the fear of possibly getting your heart broken again stop you from perhaps finding your soulmate! If you don't take chances you may be missing out on meeting your soul mate. You must get up and dust yourself off and move forward towards the future; don't waste any more time sulking over what should have or could have been with someone who is long gone.

I am so glad I took that chance because I found my soulmate; don't get me wrong we have had our bumps in the road. At certain points in our relationship, we have separated; but in the end, we have managed to forgive each other and move forward together. In fact, now that we are both older and perhaps a bit wiser we are communicating in a healthier way than we ever have. Having my soulmate at my side has helped in aiding me in healing from wounds from my past.

Just remember the old but true saying "It is better to have loved and lost than to have never have loved at all". Speaking of my own experiences with love I believe this saying says it all because the natural high feeling we get when we are in love there is no greater feeling. If you only have one chance at experiencing the feeling of true love I say go for it and enjoy one of the greatest natural feelings in life!

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