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Is love at first sight really possible?
'The only true love is love at first sight; second sight dispels it.'- Israel Zangwill
Do want to the greatest story of love at first sight?
it is the story of Lord Rama and Sita.Their first meeting had all the beautiful ingredients of great love. In India, we still bless married couples to live like them. Such was the love they had for each other.
Love at first sight!
The great Indian epic The Ramayana is known for the divine love between Lord Rama and Sita. There is a scene in the epic which is adored by all youngsters, as it symbolizes true love. Lord Rama is on the way to attend the gathering of princes who have assembled to prove their strength in order to marry Princess Sita.
Two eyes meet in divine love!
While on his way to the palace Lord Rama looks up and what does he see? He sees the beautiful Princess in the palace balcony and for a second Sita also looks at Rama and from that moment she acknowledges him as her husband and Lord Rama also considers her his wife.
It was love at first sight and to this date the love both had for each other is always an epitome of what true love should be. In India if any couple is very compatible, we always say that they are like Rama and Sita.
But today can we have such true love at first sight?
I doubt it very much. Of course, it is possible to be attracted to one another at first sight, but to consider that as pure love is asking too much.What attracts you to another person of the opposite sex? Invariably it is the physical attraction that rules your heart.
If you think it is love and fall into a relationship, you are bound to be disappointed as when the attraction you felt peters out, there is nothing left for you in it. Most of the youngsters are very emotional as their blood runs warm in their veins and when they are attracted by a girl\boy, they are impulsive enough to call it love.
Adolescence love is not love, but infatuation, though you will not agree. What makes your love last? It is not physical attraction, but much more. True love involves compatibility, tolerance, giving in to one another and many more. How will this be possible from someone you have just seen? How will you know who is the right person for you?
You meet a girl\boy and you are attracted to her\him. Your inner mind tells you that she\he is the right person for you. You want to meet the person again and make efforts to keep in contact. You spend euphoric days with her\him and you are in cloud nine.
You outgrow your first love
But what happens after a few months? You somehow are not that ecstatic about meeting the girl\boy. You outgrow her\him and your eyes are captivated by yet another attractive person. So the love which you felt was true, is not true at all and is all infatuation.
What if the love at first sight becomes more than a physical attraction and grows from strength to strength?
Now you can proclaim that you have stepped into a world of actual and virtual love. You both complement each other and this becomes a very essential ingredient for your thriving love . When you both feel lost if you do not see each other and when you feel he\she is the person who can give solace to your problems, it means you have truly found your life partner.
Your reflection in the person you love!
Do not be impulsive in love and brood in regret later. Love should blossom and bloom with the loving fragrance of understanding, care and emotional belonging . When you think that a girl\boy is the person for you by the physical attraction you feel, your love will not flourish. But when you get inside the person and see a reflection of you, it means you have made the right choice.
© 2012 mathira