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Love is Blind and is Not Always True

Updated on October 20, 2016
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Love Shows you and can Tell You

They departed like every other day, and nobody noticed them leaving their home.

The family often came to visit and left without anyone knowing of their departure.

It is their life, and when she doesn't see her friend part of this family, she is not happy.

On a sunny and quiet day. The peaceful environment said it all.

Lots to enjoy with such breathtaking views, and not to forget the fresh air.

She yearns each day to see him and talk to him but he is not around anymore.

The woman doesn't know why he is not coming by to pay his regular visits.

This makes her feel lonely without his conversations or the simple ''hello,'' that always made her smile, and feel cheerful.

  • He has a busy lifestyle, if only he could make five minutes for her!

An unmarried man who has never been in a relationship, he is kind, earnest, and always there when he says would come by. It is hard to find someone like that.

Finally, she has found the kind of person whom she can count on through all times, and now just misses his brief conversations.

  • The simple person who accepts her for who she really is sometimes he can be self-centered, but then who isn't?

One look into his bluish-gray eyes and she could not resist those feelings that had come over her. She wished for something that could never be but hope will be. The married woman knows deep down that is not possible.

  • A married woman who is unable to control her emotions for a single man.

It is not about what he possesses. They both come from different worlds but have one thing in common loneliness.

He cares about her, and often he shows that and is direct in his conversations. The problem is this guy wants to be with her and knows that it is not possible.

  • Ever watched the movie Love in the Time of Cholera?

I have watched this movie three times, and wouldn't mind watching it once or twice more.

In their youth, Florentino Ariza and Fermina Daza fall passionately in love. When Fermina eventually chooses to marry a wealthy, well-born doctor, Florentino felt lost, but he is a romantic.

As he improves in his business career he goes on with his years in having six hundred and twenty two affairs. In all that time he had those affairs he reserved his heart for Fermina.

When her husband died it was time for Florentino to let out his feelings to Fermina.

It took fifty years, nine months, and four days after he had first declared his love for Fermina, and now he had to do it again.

This man can wait as long as he likes to declare his love for her but that won't be anytime soon. His eyes say everything about the way he feels about her and is held back from expressing his feelings.

It is difficult to think of going down that road knowing she is not free to express her feelings for him.

All she could do is pray for him to be there for her but in the most friendliest of ways.

Love is beautiful no matter who you have it with and love can't be controlled. Love happens and takes over a person's thoughts.

Sometimes one just has to be patient for the next moment to appear and then experience their new adventures.

During all of June last summer it was fun to be together for him and her. They shared many mornings together having coffee, talked, and laughed freely.

He is not coming around like he did in the past. He now realizes he can't step over any boundaries and wants to pull back from her.

What he does not realize is that he won't always be able to control the way he feels and at some point he has to come out and say something to her.

At the moment hey are very good friends and nothing will ruin their friendship.

Surely if they keep their relationship that way things won't get out of hand.

He respects her and knows a part of her life story which he won't discuss with anyone, and the best for both would be is to stay good friends and not to act on their emotions. In this way no one gets hurts.

August was an interesting month for all of them.

They were invited to his place for supper living right next door, and off-course her husband was there after a few wines most people get braver and speak out their minds.

He did exactly that, got braver and spoke his mind out. He spoke of how he is living a lonely life and gave the odd look at her while talking about his lonely life. They managed to go on to other conversations.

When seen in public in presence of other people it is so obvious of how he feels about her.

It is written all over his face. The way he looks at her, and the constant making sure she has everything in her plate makes it clear in their minds.

He makes such a fuss over her at the dinner table to make sure she enjoys her evening at his place.

The whole situation is blurred because nothing more can be of this relationship.

During the winter they spent a fair amount of time together, and he got closer to her with lots of smiles and a jokes.

  • There has never been anything more than laughs and jokes, just so different and so true.

He is like the angel she never had, standing over her. They have a complicated relationship it is like they can’t stand being away from each other but with certain limits.

Love is blind and he is certainly showing that in her.

  • When two people are restrained in a relationship, one is married and the other is single, what would you do in such a situation?

Get that thought out of your head!

It is never going to happen and be faithful to your man that is the right thing to do.

She knows what makes her feel good he certainly does that for her, and he knows what makes him feel good. She does that for him but this does not make sense at least in some ways.

Sometimes feelings can't be controlled, and spending the lonely moments together can open up some kind of feelings to show for two friendly people.

They both know it is better left alone because the intimate relationship, or the fling they want can't happen. That won't happen and it makes all the difference in their lives.

They can't go back to pretend nothing happened but can go forward, and forget about their past. It had made them feel kind of uncomfortable, in the presence of others.

In this way, the friendly couple don't have this cloud over their heads. A waiting to burst out cloud when they know it won't burst now or ever.

Their feelings could sub-side and things could change. People grow apart after getting to know more about each other it happens all the time.

Loving someone you can't have can make your life a misery. Remember you can't always call it love. It can also be lust, or one of your greater fantasies but how you handle the situation is entirely up to you.

Most people fail to see what is right in front of them, and focus on what they can't have.

You learn from your own experiences and of what others tell you. From what you see in other's and from their actions.

When you react to your feelings that can change lots for you. Sometimes it can be a good thing, or a just a failure.

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    • monic-alang profile image

      Monica Langley 3 years ago from USA

      Hi DDE, this was great to read about love. Actually this is a most complicated and most discussed topic and this was great to read love is blind and unfortunately not always true. You've marked up really good and perfect points in this hub as "He has a busy lifestyle, if only he could make five minutes for her!" this was too much touchy for me. Thanks again :)

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      I agree with your title that Love is blind and not always true. You have given some great points in this hub.

      Once in Love, it has to be maintained and nurtured by both partners.

      Enjoyed your hub, Thanks!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi monic-alang so nice to read a comment from a new reader and yes love is blind and not always true if you really think about it carefully you will know too thanks very much for sharing your valuable thoughts on this topic.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ChitrangadaSharan, thanks for commenting on Love is Blind and not Always True, so glad you enjoyed it

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I didn't realize what true love was until I found it; now I see what should have been apparent all along. :) Beautiful message!

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      kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      So true that often love is blind and not always true! But true love is never blind! When we find love, real love, it's time to open our eyes and keep that love alive.

      Some people go into a relationship more for money and security than love and that's very sad!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi there billybuc great comment thanks

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi kidscrafts so true and a good point mentioned thanks for coming by have great weekend

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      Monica Langley 3 years ago from USA

      You are most welcome :) This hub'll get rank I am sure because you've write on a great topic. Thanks again... Keep doing and I’ll keep reading :)

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      CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

      You summed it up perfectly at the end too when you wrote, "Most people fail to see what is right in front of them and focus on what they can't have". That's so true DDE! Well done my friend.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Insightful hub here on love. When it comes to true love, we just cannot "make" someone love us, no matter how hard we try, it just has to be natural and not forced. True love never dies, and that is where we get mixed up when it is really not true love at all, but infatuation. And it is true, it can be found right in front of us, if we just open our eyes!

      Excellent hub Up and more and sharing

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      deergha 3 years ago from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!!

      Very interesting hub here. Loved reading it. Thank you for sharing. I cant simply agree more with whatever Faith has commented above. Take care and have a great day ahead.

      Shared and votes +++++++++++++++++++

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      Martin Kloess 3 years ago from San Francisco

      I was going with another girl, the night of Arlene's tear. I didn't kiss Arlene until the day after. There was something in that tear.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      monic-alang so kind of you to comment thanks

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Good Day CraftytotheCore, great comment from you and thanks for your continuous support.

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      passionate77 3 years ago

      so interesting , to the point and very well written hub dde, enjoyed reading it all through and points mentioned in the hub are cent percent true as is the title, love is blind and not always true, nice post, i enjoyed reading it so much that also bookmarked to read again. thanks for shraing dear stay blessed always!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Faith Reaper, thanks for the votes up, more, and sharing very kind of you to stop by and share your valuable thoughts.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      dghbrh, thanks for sharing and for the votes, have a pleasant weekend

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Mhatter99 nice to read another comment from you thank you have a nice day

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      passionate77 , thank you for sharing your views on this hub I appreciate you stopping by have a pleasant weekend

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      passionate77 , thank you for sharing your views on this hub I appreciate you stopping by have a pleasant weekend

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      Michelle Liew 3 years ago from Singapore

      Beautiful......true love is exactly like this.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      midget38, thanks for commenting

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      DREAM ON 3 years ago

      Love takes so many different forms. We have to follow our heart and keep our eyes open for the love that is willing to give us the same love in return. Interesting and enjoyable read.

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      Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

      Hi, Love can be blind, I know that because a friend of mine was always going on about a certain guy, but he just wasn't right for her, but in the end she got with him and married him, I last heard she was really miserable! great read DDE, and voted up!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi DREAM ON so kind of you to stop by at my hubs thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello Nell Rose thanks for the vote up and for sharing some of what you know very kind of you to stop by

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      lovedoctor926 3 years ago

      Nicely done. Thanks for sharing your words of wisdom. Good review. Sounds like a great movie to rent. voted up!

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      Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

      A great hub DDE and I vote up plus share . I wish you a great weekend my friend and here's to so many more hubs to follow.

      Eddy.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 3 years ago from Nepal

      Love can be blind for some young people, but for a mature man and woman, love is never blind. Adult man and woman listen to brain more than the heart.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      lovedoctor926 so good to read a comment from you why aren't you writing anymore take care and thanks for commenting

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Eiddwen thanks for all votes and sharing so kind of you to come by have super weekend.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Vinaya Ghimire so true and well said thanks for commenting

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Love is most certainly blind. There really should be classes on it to prevent so many from mistakes but then I am sure that would turn into a nightmare of God knows what! lol

      Ah, love the song!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Jackie Lynnley, yeah so true, you know one has to learn from the aches of love thanks for commenting

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      Benjamin Chege 3 years ago

      Hi Devika Primić. I agree with you, men should know that putting a ring on her finger is not the end. For the relationship to blossom and flourish you have to appreciate her and make time for her. Otherwise, things will head South and no one likes that. Voted up, useful and interesting.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      True love is simple, we complicate our relationships when we confuse lust with love. Love is all about giving, lust is all about taking. Lust burns hot then dies, love burns hot as it grows. I thoroughly enjoyed the story, an interesting dilemma, nicely done. :)

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello Benjamin Chege, so good to read a comment from you, thanks for all votes up useful and interesting

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      tobusiness so glad you came by Love burns hot as it grows well said thanks for commenting here and hope you doing well.

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      C E Clark 3 years ago from North Texas

      Sometimes people want something so badly they fail to see it isn't present. They want that other person to be who they want them to be, but that other person is not who they want them to be and it is ignored.

      So often people obsess over someone they are infatuated with and as a result totally miss the interest and attention a good, kind, and loving person in their lives wants to give them because they are so focused on the person who does not return their interest.

      One of my high school instructors pointed out that there are at least 50,000 people in this world with whom we are compatible. To imagine that the one we may be infatuated with is the only person in the world who will do is ridiculous.

      Hate is a very strong emotion and as you know causes no end of misery in this world. Yet we are expected to control our strong negative feelings and not to kill the person who has harmed us regardless of how they have harmed us. We are often expected and required to be civilized in many different situations towards people who we may dislike.

      If we can control our negative feelings, some of which have the strength of hate, then we can also control our feelings of love. Like anything else, it is a choice we make. Not all choices are easy.

      We can if we choose, be objective and force ourselves to stop obsessing about a particular individual and choose instead to see all of the people around us, many who may be more compatible, more interested, and more suitable. Just as we can control our desire to be vicious towards someone, so we can also control our desire to be intimately involved with someone.

      For people not familiar with the word intimate, it does not always include sexual activity. Being close to someone emotionally, as with family or friends is intimacy.

      You always write such thought provoking articles! Voted up!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Good Morning Au fait my thought provoking articles always gets an in depth analysis from you and I so enjoy reading your comments, you say it with such passion and straight forward. I look forward to reading more of your hubs. Love shouldn't be neglected, thanks for the continuous support I appreciate all your comments.

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      mylindaelliott 3 years ago from Louisiana

      You made very good points in this hub. I enjoyed it thoroughly.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      mylindaelliott Thanks verymuch for stopping by at my hubs I appreciate your efforts

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