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Loving Without The Strings

Updated on December 1, 2011
Will you love her from Innocence...
Will you love her from Innocence...
... to senescent?
... to senescent?
Grow Together or Grow Apart?
Grow Together or Grow Apart?


Ever had that feeling of falling for someone only to realize you should not? So you hold on for dear life to that reason why you cannot and should not. Society dictates it that you should not be seen intimately with any person when you already have someone who fills in that position.

But why do we get attracted to others when we already have someone beside us? I would like to believe that the space next to you is warm enough to keep you busy. Then why do both sexes (nowadays) find it difficult to resist the idea of cheating? I will not look into the so used up reasons of “who lacks what” or “who does what.” Instead of putting out your magnifying glass on your partner, let's put up the mirror instead. Come on, just try.

On your face, what are the parts that you cannot see? Almost everything? Unless you face a mirror, you won't be able to see your face. Long time lovers and couples have been together far too long that they sometimes can't see what they've got. They are too near each other to see the value of each. Whoever said “You would only know the value of an object or a person when they have been taken away or walked away from you.” knows what they were talking about.

Let's take a walk at your favorite dress shop, favorite pet shop, jewelry store, any shop that houses that one object you've been waiting for someone to give to you. What was it? Was it the replica of your father's watch? Was it the dress you've been saving up your allowance for? How many times have you dropped by that specific shop just to check out if the item is still there? Countless, I believe. If not you, look at your kid. You've passed by the same shop for the nth time, and still, he always comes in and gaze at that one toy.

You see, the person whom you are with now or whom you have been with for a long time now can be compared to that fine jewelry or car that you've been wanting to have. You save up to buy it and while doing so, you come by almost everyday, checking if it's still there, afraid that someone might notice the same beauty you saw in it and buy it. After acquiring it, you flaunt it. But after some time, the excitement dies down, and where does the item go? Do you even remember where you put it? When was the last time you surprised him/ her? When was the last time you laughed together? When was the last time see the same person you fell inlove with, years ago?

So what do you do now? Take a vacation alone for a while. There are times that we need to be alone. Only by being with ourselves, can we clearly reflect the blessings we have. By doing so, you grow a little bit. You mature.

Do you know why trees are planted far apart from each other? So they would have the opportunity to grow. Like trees, human beings need to be alone for a while, to look for the “self” they believe or feel got lost through the maze of parenting and being a wife or husband for a number of years. But unlike trees, human beings need another human being. So, don't stay away too long – you will be missed, because you are loved.


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