ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

MEN: How to Successfully Meet; Talk to Mysterious Women

Updated on November 14, 2014

It's a great night for a single guy

You check your appearance, ( a habit your dad, a charming gentleman taught you), ingbefore you leave for what you hope will be an adventerous night.

You deserve a night of unexpected excitement, you think to yourself as you get into the cab and tell the driver to head to your favorite restaurant, "SoHo-Lite," known for its quiet atomosphere and professional piano player filling the room with soft notes of mood music. This is as far from being a burger joint with sawdust on the floor as your boss is from being a missionary overseas.

"Sometimes an encounter with someone new has hidden doors that it is best left unopened."

— Gregory Whitworth

Then, while telling the waiter

Where you would love to sit, your eyes fasten upon "her." The waiter notices your momentary unsettled minute, but never brings attention to your stammer. Your eyes cannot look anywhere else but on "her," even while walking with the waiter to your table, that you feel is in an inconveient place, for you have a secret agenda: to successfully-meet this woman in your vision and just have a few moments of intelligent conversation with her. That's it.


The preface

Your eyes, and now your nerves are sending you silent-but-stern messages to not sit still, but to leave your table and simply walk over to where "she" is sitting. This shouldn't make you nervous. You are a man of 30, mature, mannerable, and a man who has staked his claim in the world and the memory of your best pal, "J.J. Dupree," who was killed in Afghanistan on his second tour of duty, who told you before he left about one thing to keep in mind when meeting women at your age: "You are not at the prom anymore."


The initial encounter

Is not to be blown with some silly frat boy comment. This rare meeting has to be ndled just right, almost-perfect, if possible, for you, without hearing one word from "this" woman, are already taken by her by her unassuming beauty and obvious charm.

Do not, above all, use these phrases

  • "Are you as sweet as the cake in this place?"
  • "10 is the highest number I can use to describe you."
  • "I won't waste your time, so what is your name?"
  • "How was heaven when you left there this morning?"

If you want to look like a uncultured, ill-mannered freshman in college, just use THESE phrases.


For a man such as yourself, THESE are the phrases to use

  • "I just want to talk." -- this simple phrase erases the fear that she might have of you being someone who wants to sleep with her.
  • "Do you mind greatly if I sit here for only a moment?" -- this cultured-phrase sends her a signal that you are of high-manners and respect for women.
  • "I hate to display my ignorance, but are you an author?" -- this phrase assures her that you do not have a self-serving attitude, a definite plus for a man of your station in life.
  • "May I assume that you are with someone?" -- this is a lethal compliment to a woman as mysterious as this woman. And to be factual, she is not a blond-haired, blue-eyed cheerleader in her senior year of high school.
  • "Do you mind if I just sit a moment and embracee your beauty?" -- an honest question best-asked after fifteen-minutes of meeting her.

What to do and how to react if she gives off a coldness

If she

  • Laughs quietly at you -- do not panic and run off. Just keep yourself settled and "Endure the storm," for this may be a test that she gives men to see if they are serious about meeting her.
  • Glares are you -- just be quiet and look deep into her eyes. Then humbly-apologize for embarrassing her.
  • Asks you to leave -- do not cause a boorish scene. Just discreetly excuse you and say, "I am sorry. I was only wanting to talk."
  • Says nothing and you are getting edgy -- ask her if she is from where the restaurant is located. This is an unusual change of conversation and should not cause you or her any discomfort.
  • Looks uninterested -- DO NOT beg, plead, or act desperate. Just smile and say, "Have a pleasant evening," and then quietly walk away.

"No enlightened author, man or woman, has the magic things to say when meeting a woman for the first time. Being unarmed is always the best way to show her your "real" self."

— Russell Hunter


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment
    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      Thank you sincerely. You are so nice that it humbles me. I hope and pray that YOU and yours have a

      Very Merry CHRISTmas.

    • clivewilliams profile image

      Clive Williams 

      4 years ago from Jamaica

      Nice hub kenny


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)