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Updated on August 16, 2014
Parents, the best matchmakers
Parents, the best matchmakers | Source
Happy ending to a match. Indian wedding group.
Happy ending to a match. Indian wedding group. | Source

A College Graduate

A College Graduate.  Ups the Stake.
A College Graduate. Ups the Stake. | Source
An Indian Matchmaker
An Indian Matchmaker | Source

An Indian Wedding

An Indian (Hindu) wedding.
An Indian (Hindu) wedding. | Source

Matchmaker, Make Me a Match

I should guess that very many people of my generation would not be around but for the matchmakers of our parents' time. And in some cultures, many young children are still being born of matched marriages. So why are people still getting into marriages with comparative strangers?

Indian Tradition. In places like India, Africa and most of the Middle East, marriages are arranged. If they are arranged by loving, caring parents, the couple are in luck. More often in the poorer areas, young girls are given away without a dowry to be slaves to their old husbands and their families.

Modern, middle class Indian families are still arranging marriages for their well-educated children, planned from their young years. Marriage for their daughters, especially, is a life-long quest for them. A girl reaching the age of 28 is passing the threshold of marriageability and efforts are redoubled to find a suitor. They take out newspaper ads, go online, obtain the services of professional matchmakers with lists of requirements of their prospects.

Each passing year the parents become more desperate, until : 'caste not important.' becomes an addendum to the requirements. They themselves might have had no choice in their own partners, but have worked to make their marriage happy, and that is all they want for their children.

Their college-educated children often fall in with their parents' wishes and, strangely enough, their marriages usually work better than a lot of the other 'non-traditional' ones. Nowadays, the 'arrangement' is just a lip service to tradition, for the 'kids' have already met, in college or socially, and have evinced an interest in each other, and both sets of parents, for form, meet to 'arrange' the union. Then comes the engagement, diamond rings and all, followed by a traditional wedding ceremony (most probably in modern white gown and suit). Everybody is satisfied. Tradition is upheld, the couple marry their own choice.



the Chinese matchmaker

The Chinese Matchmaker. A young prospective bride serving tea to the matchmaker while her parents wait anxiously to the right. The man is presumably a relative, rather than prospective groom
The Chinese Matchmaker. A young prospective bride serving tea to the matchmaker while her parents wait anxiously to the right. The man is presumably a relative, rather than prospective groom | Source

A Successful Match

Chinese Match
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Chinese Matchmaking

Chinese Tradition. Not many young modern Chinese marriageables will consent nowadays to having arranged marriages, unlike two generations ago. My own mother had her husband picked for her by a matchmaker employed by my grandparents, but it was the beginning of war in Malaysia, and parents were desperate for their daughters to have a protector. Cruel and unruly soldiers were over-running the country, grabbing whatever was in their way, and there was no big, or even small, celebratory wedding, just a simple church service.

And then my father became responsible for his new wife. They stayed married till he died, about fifty years later. It was not a happy marriage, but my mother worked hard to keep it going. Would she have had a happier marriage if she had been free to choose? Maybe. But the times were desperate, and besides, she, like most young ladies then, were too modest to be courted. But still, if it had not been for the war, my grandparents would have had more time to vet more eligible young men.

There still are pockets of really old-fashioned traditionalists who matchmake their children, as in the hidden rural areas of China. Here again, sometimes the 'children' have already met and it is only a matter of 'saving face' for the parents to do the 'arranging'. If they have already met, the boy will tell his parents of the girl he is interested in. Or they might be total strangers.

The boy's parents send a professional matchmaker to the girl's parents. If they like their prospective son-in-law, their couple's horoscopes are compared and matched and, if auspicious, a date is set for the wedding. The bride price is agreed, often depending on the groom's economic status, and emissaries bring the gifts in beautiful lacquered baskets to the girl's home. The gifts could be gold jewelry, money, household items or expensive foods. Sometimes a whole suckling pig is delivered, to signify the girls' virginity, but nowadays this is provided by the caterer. The whole village turns out to witness the journey of the gift-bearing, often making loud guesses about the contents of the baskets.

The matchmaker who succeeds in bringing the match to a happy ending is of course rewarded well according to the custom of the village. She naturally is involved in the wedding planning, goes to the wedding ceremony and the wedding dinner. Since there are not many reports of divorces from those traditional marriages, it seems they work rather well. My grandmother was married in China at the ripe old age of fifteen to the husband chosen for her. She never told us about her life in China, but I only know that a bride was married to the whole family, not just the husband. A bride also became the handmaid of the mother-in-law, the all powerful person in the household. When my grandparents immigrated to Malaysia, that powerful person would not let them bring their little daughter with them, and they never saw her again.

The Masai Marriage Tradition

African Tradition. In the poorest parts of Africa, children are being given away in marriage, usually to old men. This custom may be due to religious or economic considerations. Children from any age may be forced into captivity this way, closing the door to every opportunity to grow as a person. In some other African cultures, though, the girl is allowed to grow at least to menarche. Among the Massai of Kenya, she grows up among peers of her own age but is married off to usually a much older man she has never seen before. She packs up her worldly goods and follows her husband to his village, on foot, never looking back for fear of turning into stone. Thus she leaves her parents and her whole world.

Africa is a huge continent with vastly different cultures, and their marriage traditions are very varied and may or may not involve matchmakers.

Jewish Matchmaker

The Jewish Matchmaker
The Jewish Matchmaker | Source

Jewish Match

A successful Jewish Match
A successful Jewish Match | Source

The Jewish Matchmaker

Jewish Tradition The Orthodox Jewish system of matchmaking, the Shidduch, is very complicated. Basically, it is one in which Jewish singles are introduced to one another for the purpose of marriage. The word also means an engagement, or agreement to marry, and it is immoral to marry without such an agreement. The Shidduch is undertaken by friends or members of both families, who see it as a mitzvah, or commandment.

A professional matchmaker who does this job is called a shadchan. The number of dates allowed prior to marriage is variable. Children of the Rebbes are allowed only one, since one's partner is supposedly preordained by God. The shadchan often 'sits in' on dates initially to see that all is well, and then fades out.

Orthodox Jewish marriages as a whole are found to be happier and more stable than marriages in the general population.

Finding Love Online

Finding love online
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The Modern Matchmaker

'I'll find you a match'.
'I'll find you a match'. | Source

A Successful Match

A Match Made in Heaven
A Match Made in Heaven | Source

Modern Romance

Modern Matchmakers. Surprisingly, we seem to be moving backwards in our quest for marriage partners, and matchmaking services are experiencing a financial boom. We,unlike the boomer generation, are now leaving marriage on the back burners, too busy pursuing careers or single pleasures to care about looking for someone special for life. Then we wake up one day and think, 'help, I can't find a husband/wife' or 'help, my biological clock is tocking'.

We are of course too sophisticated and economically stable nowadays to settle for just anyone to be our life partner. A girl will not accept an unattractive man just because he has a six figure income. A well endowed man may not want a gorgeous but empty headed girl. So the waiting goes on, and time pushes forward. Now, after the numerous blind dates and internet dates and their failures, come the free online dating sites. Then after these fail too, we turn to the professional matchmaking sites, like eHarmony.com and Romance Pros.com.

These are people with years of experience in studying human psychology. They have you fill out questionnaires to find out your attitudes, beliefs, and personality, and pre-screen other clients whose profiles complement yours. That way you already have a solid foundation and a head start, saving you time and energy. eHarmony has 29 key areas to match clients with.

These professionals get to meet and understand you on a deeper level in order to find a compatible match. This sort of service is a safe and appealing alternative to the random meetings of independent online dating. You are sent pictures and profiles of matches and you choose whether or not to date any of them, and when. There is no pressure.

There are many claims of successful marriages arising out of professional online matchmaking services, and if this method of meeting your future partner suits you, after all the frustrating experiences you've gone through, go for it.

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      Hahaha! Yes, my parents' marriage was arranged through this custom of matchmaking. They did have the chance to meet and see if they were attracted to each other. I was very surprised that my parents were approached by two families, who were keen to get their sons married. The first, I was totally unaware of, but thanks to my brother, who 'let the cat out of the bag'! Meeoow! I scrambled away, hair sticking out like a broom brush. The other was an invitation to stay the night at the house of a school friend. Yes, I got to speak briefly with the son, but there were no sparks. It is not my idea of finding a partner, but today, matchmaking continues, especially in Chinese society; in the west too, through internet dating, bride catalogue, etc.

      Matchmaking has it good and bad points about it. I remember that I was teaching 14-15-year-old students, who were really struggling in grasping the concept of solving complicated mathematic theorems, etc. that had little connection to their daily lives then. However, they presented a hilarious show, 'The Matchmaker' for the annual school play. Did they shine? It was all arranged and choreographed by them and them alone, much to everyone's surprise. It made me very proud that they actually discovered their true talent on the stage - drama and script writing.

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      Please excuse the mistakes. Fingers are a bit arthritic, and laptop keyboard is small.

      Correction:-

      Matchmaking has good and bad points about it.

      ...who were really struggling, in grasping the concept of solving complicated mathematical theorems, etc. ...

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      mizjo 5 years ago from New York City, NY

      Consider yourself a prize if two sets of parents of well-educated boys were interested in having you for a daughter-in-law!

      It wouldn't be surprising today to find matchmaking still being used, especially with professionals finding themselves nearer and nearer the outer edge of 'marriageable' by the time they have arrived at the top of their career ladders.

      I hope some of your thespians found themselves on the stage post-school? How rewarding that would have been for their maths teacher!

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      mizjo 5 years ago from New York City, NY

      No problem. You write well.

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      kimee 5 years ago

      Yes, I should be flattered, to be chosen as a prospective daughter-in-law.

      My poor mum...I often teased her, when she would often point out to a male, who she thought would be eligible. "Why don't you marry him?'

      After a while, I jokingly said, "Okay, I'll marry him, but he'll have to share a bed with you."

      That stopped any further urging. Bless her! She meant well.

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      Some of the conflict that exist between the older and younger generations, over the issue of arranged marriages within the Indian or Punjabi community, have been publicly exposed through the film industry. What better way to raise awareness of and sensitivity to the problems surrounding a highly emotive issue.

      'East Is East', a 1999 British comedy drama film written by Ayub Khan-Din and directed by Damien O'Donnell, is set in a British household of mixed-ethnicity, with a Pakistani immigrant father and a British woman with an Irish-Catholic background as the mother in Salford, Lancashire, in 1971.

      George Khan (played by Om Puri), is the father, who expects his family to follow Pakistani ways; contrary to his children, who were born and grew up in Britain. They increasingly see themselves as British and reject Pakistani customs of dress, food, religion, and living in general, leading to a rise in tensions and conflicts in the whole family.

      Source http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/East_Is_East_(film

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      ...contd... from above.

      The film, 'East is East', starts with an arranged marriage of the eldest son to a Pakistani girl. The son, Nazir, finds himself unable to go through with the marriage. He runs out at the start of the ceremony in front of all the family and guests much to the chagrin of his father and distress of his mother. In retaliation, George disowns Nazir and tells anyone who asks about him that he is dead.

      Source http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/East_Is_East_(film

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      mizjo 5 years ago from New York City, NY

      The British mother had no say in the marriage arrangements?

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      moetea3 5 years ago

      As the story goes in the film, George independently arranges for two of his other sons, Abdul and Tariq, to be married. Without consulting Ella or their sons, George accepts a visit to his home by Mr Shah, who is looking for good Pakistani bridegrooms for his two comically ugly and overweight daughters. George promises Mr Shah that Abdul and Tariq will marry them. When George tells Ella his plans, she openly disagrees, reminding George of what happened to Nazir, but George takes no notice.

      George expects her to instinctively agree with him like a "proper Muslim wife". She tells him that his pig ignorance has caused the alienation of his children, the reason that they are so much "trouble" to him. George, however, does not understand this clearly and only hears it as Ella calling him a pig, a terrible insult to a Muslim. His uncontrollable rage turns on her and he beats her badly. Despite this, Ella still sees George as her husband, someone she will remain faithful and loyal to until the end. The film ends on George and Ella having a cup of tea together,a very British form of reconciliation.

      An infusion of tea seems to help diffuse the tension between them.

      "Tea for two" is a song from the 1925 musical "No, No, Nanette" with music by Vincent Youmans and lyrics by Irving Caesar. It is a duet sung by Nanette and Tom in Act II as they imagine their future.

      Here is a relevant extract:-

      "...tea for two and two for tea,

      Just me for you and you for me, alone!

      Nobody near us, to see us or hear us,

      No friends or relations

      on weekend vacations...

      Day will break and I'm gonna wake

      and start to bake a sugar cake

      for you to take for all the boys to see.

      ...

      Can't you see how happy we will be."

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      Story continues,with above paragraphs from film,"East is East". Source - Wikipedia.

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      mizjo 5 years ago from New York City, NY

      Goodness, how forgiving Ella is, or how foolish, depending on how you view it. When can she expect his hand to fall on her next? Was their own marriage arranged, with her being British and non-Muslim to start with?

      It all sounds very one-sided. George clearly has all the advantages in the narriage.

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      The children stop George, when George hits Ella. She finally picks up courage, and demands that Mr and Mrs Shah and their daughters leave her house. This was in response to the insults hurled at her by Mrs Shah, who views the 'future' home for her daughters as being below her social expectation.

      It is a film story highlighting unilateral decisions made by the man of the house; the generation gap, etc.

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      mizjo 5 years ago from New York City, NY

      Hurrah for Ella. She wiped her hands of the snooty Shahs. Why doesn't she do the same to her husband? If he beats her once, he is bound to do it again.

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      If Ella doesn't do the same to her husband, I guess it is partly because she remembers this. That when she married George, she had made a promise to stick by him, and uttered the infamous phrase "for better or for worse". Many married couples have said that, but tend to forget such a commitment. What do others think?

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      mizjo 5 years ago from New York City, NY

      "For better or for worse"- a promise by both parties. Too often the one with the heavier clout does not think any promise applies to him.

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      Paying lip service, huh. Values change with time, and divorce has been made more easy, I guess.

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      mizjo 5 years ago from New York City, NY

      No truer word, moretea3.

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      Just heard from a sibling that he also had someone lined up for him, but it was her hairy legs that scared him off. Poor girl! Should have shaved her legs - a common practice today.

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      chinemeremz 5 years ago

      Like you rightly pointed out, as the world gets more sophistated, the standards set by many singles for a partner gets even more sophistated if not complicated.

      I've been educated on various marriage cultures from varied continents.

      But as an African, west african to be precise: various marriage customs that held sway back in the day are being shoved away as a result of western and even oriental ways which africans find themselves enmeshed in.

      Thanks again for this educative piece, I really enjoyed it.

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      mizjo 5 years ago from New York City, NY

      It was probably a lucky escape for both of them.

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      mizjo 5 years ago from New York City, NY

      Yes, for better or for worse, the world's cultures are being homogenised by fast air travel. Generations from now there will be 'the old ones' who will tell the story of 'how it was in my great grandparents' day'. Sad.

      Thank you for visiting my site. Glad you enjoyed it.

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      Re: chinemerenze comment to you, Mizjo. "...various marriage customs that held sway back in the day are being shoved away as a result of...". Just wondering there, what has changed in West African traditions and the plus and minus about the changes. It would be interesting to hear more about them.

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      mizjo 5 years ago from New York City, NY

      Let's hope Chinemeremz reads your comment. He'll the best authority to answer it.

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      Mizjo, some of the comments on the film, "Flower Drum Song" (in your hubtivity subject, "The World of Suzie Wong"), also applies here.

      "Flower Drum Song - a 1961 film adaptation of the 1958 Broadway musical of the same title, composed by Richard Rodgers and Oscar Hammerstein II - also deals with an arranged marriage, and the clash between traditional Chinese thinking and modern Chinese-Americans in San Francisco.

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      mizjo 5 years ago from New York City, NY

      That's right, it was between Miyoshi Umeki and Benson Fong who was in love with the Nancy Kwan character. And James Shigeta was in love with Miyoshi Umeki. Somehow they all got themselves extricated and got the right partners and lived happily ever after. Very sweet story.

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      A good compromise is to organize parties, or barbecues, where friends invite their known friends to come along. A good time to be had by all. Moreover, it can be another way of 'matchmaking', in that the partners mix without the added pressure from parents; so, affairs of the heart take their own course. The natural way - the bees and the birds.

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      Carelian Wedding (1921) 1/3 The Proposal

      Have a good look at "The matchmaker" (1:21)

      www.youtube.com/watch?v=nnoxYC5n4yo&list= PLD06DBD670A093031&feature=plcp

      Source: [Uploaded by Ishexan on 27 May 2009

      Reenactment of a Carelian Wedding shot on location in Suojäri (Finland) 1920. Producer: Kalevalaseura a.k.a. The Kalevala Society. Directed by A. O. Väisänen. Script: U. T. Sirelius. Camera: J. W. Mattila. Local volonteers (sic) play the parts of the different characters. This is my edited and shortened Youtube version of this classical documentary. The choise (sic)of music is all by Ishexan.]

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      mizjo 5 years ago from New York City, NY

      Did watch it last night. Very low-key and 'cold'. Nobody seemed happy. Made me rather depressed.

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      All the more reason to do without the matchmaker, have a real party, where all friends are welcome and enjoy. My younger sister gives me this tip: Eat yeast and rise with the dawn. GOOD MORNING, NEW YORK! I'll ask Thor for a sunny day, just for you, Mizjo.

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      mizjo 5 years ago from New York City, NY

      Brilliant sunshine this morning, thank you. It's rising to 70 degrees today.

      My friend isn't having luck with making her own match on the match sites. She is seriously considering eHarmony.

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      Good, good, good! Thank you, Thor. Good luck to your friend's endeavour. Take things as they come, I would say. Forget about something and one might get pleasantly surprised.

      You have brought the sunshine here too - in the 20 degrees C (70s fahrenheit), albeit a cool breeze.

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      moretea3 5 years ago

      Is this the original version of "The Matchmaker"?

      Matchmaker, Matchmaker,

      Make me a match,

      Find me a find,

      catch me a catch

      Matchmaker, Matchmaker

      Look through your book,

      And make me a perfect match.

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      moretea3 4 years ago

      Hello, again.

      There has recently been some unpleasant news related to ethnic Asian youth not following their parent's wishes on courtship and/or marriage. If the view is based on matchmaking as the only way to forge family, social; sometimes, even economic ties, then, the consequence of not heeding parental wishes could end horribly.

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      Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

      This is certainly an interesting hub for the curious. I cannot imagine an arranged mrriage, but if the stat is true, that they last longer than those of the couples' choosing, I cannot say that such a marriage is bad. For we certainly have too many failed marriages in our world.

      Not long ago I was viewing the daily news and saw that a local Indian man had allegedly arranged the murder of his son's wife who was of another culture. The son and wife secretly married against his parents wishes. It was later discovered that his parents had arranged his marriage years before. I can understand the displeasure of the parents, even their anger, but I cannot understand or condone a killing. The act of the father was worse than the act of the son. If he loved his child, he hated someone else's. That hatred earned disrespect for anything that he desired for his son. The father, who did not consider how this would affect his wife, other children, his marriage, even his entire family life, made a very unwise decision. He had no regards for the law or a life. I believe that he would have encountered fewer problems getting his son to divorce his wife. The son eventually went back to his family leaving a baby without parents. This is a pure tragedy that will affect two families forever. Again, a child gets the brunt of adult decisions.

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      mizjo 4 years ago from New York City, NY

      Hi, Moretea, so much is now known about murders against disobedient daughters who refuse to marry parents' choices of husbands that governments are taking steps to prevent forced marriages, for instance, in England. That ugly custom has to be rubbed out if we are to be a civilised society.

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      mizjo 4 years ago from New York City, NY

      Hi, Angela, great to see you here. I enjoy your hubs very much.

      Thanks for visiting, and for the sharing.

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      mizjo 4 years ago from New York City, NY

      Hello, Levertis, most arranged marriages seem to work very well, especially where both parties are more or less equally matched economically, socially and educationally. It helps also if the parties are allowed to know each other beforehand and consent to the marriage.

      We hear of course of the extreme cases of parental brutality to force their will on their children. If such customs are not stamped out and forced marriages made illegal , we will certainly see a lot of miserable arranged marriages, miserable couples and possibly brutalised children.

      Unfortunately, as in the case of the young man in your comment, customs and culture dominate a person's psyche.

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      travmaj 4 years ago from australia

      What a very interesting hub - compelling reading and packed with information. Mmm - I used to tell my daughters I would choose them a spouse! No takers of course. And I do know one couple who had an arranged marriage - after 40 years they remain very happy together. In many ways I guess online dating services are a modern version of match making. Thank for this. Voting up and interesting.

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      mizjo 4 years ago from New York City, NY

      Hi, travmaj, my daughter tells me, 'No thanks.'

      I think that modern young people - anyone below 50 - are accepting that they need online services to find a partner, because they don't have the traditional ways of meeting people we used to have : parties in homes, all sorts of get-togethers where everybody gets introduced and you could circulate and chat without having to scream above the loud live bands.

      I know three couples who met through online matchmakers who are very much in love and are preparing to get married. Two of those couples actually live blocks from each other and never knew of one another's existence!

      Thanks for visiting and for your great comments.

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      Mary Hyatt 4 years ago from Florida

      I really enjoyed reading your Hub about Match Making. I learned a lot, too. I think I like the idea. I think I could do a better job of selecting a mate for my daughters. I would be much more particular than they are!

      I voted this Hub UP, etc.

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      mizjo 4 years ago from New York City, NY

      Mary, Mary, daughters don't want mothers selecting mates for them! Of course we'd be more particular than they, but such is the way of the young they will brook no interference. Until they wake up and find they are still unmarried at ..... !

      I've started liking the idea of online Match Making too, particularly since the matchmakers have already vetted both parties and matched them and there's less likelihood of them meeting and being shocked at what they find.

      Wish me luck with my one unmarried daughter. Good luck with yours too.

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      shadimatrimonial 3 years ago

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      mizjo 3 years ago from New York City, NY

      Kristine, sorry it took me so long to reply, but I haven't visited this page for a while.

      Your story is very enlightening and I am very happy it ended so happily.

      I shall keep Prophet Joshua's email there for anybody who needs his help. Thank you, Kristine.

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      mizjo 2 years ago from New York City, NY

      Shadimatrimonial, that's a nice looking site.

      Ok, people, go take a look. It's free, and who knows?

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