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Making Mr. Right: How to Know Whether He's Boyfriend Material For You
What makes someone boyfriend material? Is it their smile? Their eyes? How about the killer six pack that they've been spotting for most of the year? What about beyond the good looks? Does their personality matter just as much? All of these questions are important in determining whether Mr. Right is really it or just another passing fancy that'll be gone in sixty seconds (tomorrow morning in reality). Let's be realistic with your vision. Separate fantasy from Hollywood reality to see who's truly right for you.
Are you having trouble deciding whether your best guy friend or your hot neighbor is worth dating? Read on for three possible suggestions or qualities that can distinquish them from the rest in good ways and bad ways as well. Can you make out who Mr. Right is without overlooking his obvious character flaws? The answers may definitely surprise you.
Looks Can Kill- Have you ever met someone and felt an instant attraction to them? Unfortunately, those relationships tend to fizzle out rather quickly once the early appeal has faded away after the first few months of teenager behavior. It's also wise to beware of people dressed in Armani suits, because they could a lot more cunning than you think. In the movie Out of Sight, a woman (Jennifer Lopez) and a man (George Clooney) met and felt an instant heat between them. Unfortunately, he was a wanted fugitive and she was out to arrest him. Nothing like a doomed relationship to keep things interesting. When it comes to attractive looking men, it's also best to see if they can hold an actual conversation with you. It might not be nice to judge a book by its cover, but it's a problem if that cover can't hold a fifteen minute conversation with you. If it does, it's time to move on to someone with more substance than style. Otherwise, you get what you bargained for.
A Classic Romantic- Is your potential boyfriend someone who can sweep you off your feet? The fairy tale romance might sound wonderful at first, but it could get complicated if trouble heads your way. Could the guy bolt at the first sign of trouble or stay and help you through it. In the new Twilight movie, Bella (Kristen Stewart) and her now Vampire husband Edward (Robert Pattinson) finally get intimate. Sadly, the couple experiences problems after Bella gets pregnant with a child that could potentially kill her. Edward doesn't want her to go through with the pregnancy, but she does. Will true love survive her death?
Of course, the other side of the spectrum is that you're dating someone so singlemindedly devoted to you that they can't handle the idea of a break-up. In the movie Falling Down, Michael Douglas played a man who lost his job, his family and his sanity. He spends the entire movie going on a killing spree to get to his wife and child before the police catch him. In those kinds of real life situations, it's best to get someone else involved in law enforcement or move away immediately without a forwarding address.
The Goofball- Laughter is supposedly the best medicine, but what if that cure also prevents you from discussing anything serious. Can you find a genuine relationship with the sweet but lovable goofy nerd Ed Helms from The Hangover Part II? Will Ferrell's loveball silliness in Old School is funny the first few times, but it would get tiring if it was a daily occurance. It's best to find a funnyman who can be serious just as well as being hilarious.
Ultimately, the best boyfriend is someone who sees right through you and accepts you for you. All the baggage and emotional hang-ups without running for the hills. If Edward can accept Bella's indecisiveness, anything is possible. The best type of boyfriend is someone who knows your strengths and challenges you to be better by taking reasonable risks, unless you're a danger junkie as well. An ideal relationship is a partnership that allows room for growth and the flexibility of comfort, to each other and yourselves. Of course, not every relationship is perfect. Learn to accept the flaws sooner rather than later, unless being single is what you want instead.