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Making Your Marriage Last
There are many opinions on how to make a marriage last, because no married couple is alike. However there are some opinions we all can agree on that helps make it last.
First and foremost communication is the top of all charts when it comes to making any relationship work. If you can't talk to each other before marriage then you're probably going to have some issues during your marriage.
Next you really need to have more than one thing in common, your looks and money aren't going to spend the rest of your life making you happy, that's what your spouse is there for to make you happy and if you have nothing in common then you will find it difficult to enjoy each others company.
Third this is the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with so you both have got to have a sense of humor. That's what truly makes a marriage is being able to crack a joke at the worst and the best time and know that it's all going to be okay because you can laugh through it. Ladies when your husband says " Baby, come in the bathroom and sit and talk to me." Go for it, I promise it won't kill you. You may even get a laugh or two out of it. Remember laughter is the best medicine.
Don't take everything to heart, but don't hold anything back either. Something to live by if you go ahead and say what's on your mind and what's in your heart instead of holding it in you can move on and get over it. never hold a grudge over simple a simple argument and there is a lot of truth behind the saying "Never go to bed angry with your spouse" talk it out and say what you have to say, kiss and make up, and move on. start the next day with a clean slate. Everyday this should be done. Come home, talk your day out say what you have to say, go to bed, wake up with a clean slate. Nothing of yesterday standing in front of you and nothing but the future to look toward.
Last and most important, Lying gets you no where, you will always get caught and someone will always get hurt when it was just as easy to say "I'm sorry but I'm just not happy anymore, or whatever the problem is. Just be honest and everything will work out for the best especially if children are involved.
Marriage really is a beautiful thing but it really takes a lot of work to make it last. It takes two to make it last and it takes two people who are willing to stand side by side and hand in hand to walk through hell and fire, wind and rain, and all the it won't last a year, to prove to the world it will last. If you love someone enough and have all the faith in the world in that love that's how you make a marriage last. But that's just my opinion. :)