Abuse In A Relationship

When you have been abuse in a marriage or a relationship before your confidence becomes very low not only in your self but in every one around you. When you have been abused you begin to believe that others will treat you the same way. When you have been raped, beat and abused by the same man in a relationship for many years you begin to believe that it is done because you deserve it.

When it is done over and over for many years your self confidence begins to fade away within yourself. it begins to disappear and become non existent. You begin to think that you did something to deserve the the abuse that you are receiving. You begin to wonder why this is happening to you.

You begin to wonder who the person is that you married or that you are dating. You begin to wonder why he became this way when he was so nice when you first met him. When you are trapped in this type of relationship you begin to wonder how you are going to get out or if you will ever get out.

Some never find a way out.

I had a personal experience in this.

I married my first husband when I was 21 and 7 months pregnant with our first daughter, On my 21st birthday and before I had ever married him he pushed me down the front stairs of our home I was pregnant when our daughter at the time and did not know it at the time. I should have left and didn't. I married him that following January instead. He hit me numerous times after that and I should have left and didn't cause he kept telling me that I wouldn't find anyone that would take me and a baby on. I needed to keep our family together.

He kept telling me that our baby didn't need to grow up like me. She didn't need to grow up without a father. So I stayed. I stayed and continued to be abused physically and mentally. Later I got pregnant with a little boy. My husband pushed me into a cabinet and a lot of other things and I like an idiot continued to stay.

The last daughter was conceived by my husband raping me.and I still stayed for yet another year till I finally got up the courage to stay with the help of a really good friend I finally escaped and I have finally been out of that abusive relationship now for 9 years and I am now remarried to a man who never hits me and he knows everything I went through and he helps me daily to get through the mental pain that I go through.

He tells me daily that I am beautiful and that he loves me and that I mean the world to him and that I am strong and that I can do anything I set my mind to do. Before him I was a single mother for 7 years. I learn to provide for me and my children on my own and I learned to be independent. My children's father who swore that my children didn't need to grew up like me without a father is doing just that they are growing up without their biological father not because I will not let them see him but because he refuses to see them.

But you see my children have a wonderful step father who loves them in my husband. So in the end there is a happy ending for all.