Marriage Is Difficult - How Do You Overcome Hurdles?
We’ve all heard those memorable words before: “For richer, for poorer …in sickness and in health …for better, for worse.” When two people tie the knot, they’ve made the agreement to stand beside their partner no matter what comes to pass.
Unfortunately, these promises don’t always come easy. In this day and age, a lot of things have changed, and marriage isn’t exactly what it used to be. Humans are now much more aware of the struggles that marriage can bring, and of the stress it often causes for individuals.
Fortunately, for those who want to stand by their vows and make things work, there are all kinds of ways to overcome the struggles of marriage.
Marriage is tough, but how can you overcome the hurdles and get back to the day you said your vows together? The following are some suggestions:
Money Problems
There’s no denying that money sometimes finds a way to control us. It’s the thing that gets us the dream house, the perfect wedding, or an impressive RRSP. Unfortunately, it can also be the thing that gives us debt, anxiety, and marital problems.
The key to avoiding money issues within a marriage is keeping everything see-through. No partner should ever lie about finances to their partner, and both people should be on the same page when it comes to spending.
A couple who can agree where their money should go can commit to financial plans that make them both feel comfortable. If there are issues with staying afloat, consider sitting down and talking to one another about spending, and options for more affordable living.
Neither person is the enemy here, and money doesn’t have to be either.
Illness
Marriage lasts through sickness and health, and if your marriage lasts a long time, chances are sickness will eventually rear its ugly head. Whether from accident, age, or genetics, sickness can be a huge hurdle for couples.
To overcome the stress of having a partner with an illness, a healthy partner should only do their very best to support them. It can be a short road, or it may be a life-long one; however, we must remember that eventually we are all going to leave this earth.
While we’re here, we must try our best to take care of the ones we love, in the same way that they would take care of us.
As a side note, a smart thing to consider with your partner early on in the marriage is insurance. Various insurance’s can help relieve stressful situations if a partner becomes ill and unable to help with finances, children, etc.
Difficult Children
Many couples look forward to growing their family after they say their vows, and it’s often a very exciting time. However, even the very best-behaved children pose challenges for a married couple.
Children require constant attention, care, and love. However, partners cannot forget that they must also give their attention to their partners, too. Without a strong relationship between mom and dad, children won’t be getting the best of their parents.
Children take up a good chunk of our lives, but that doesn’t mean that we forget about who we started it all with. Take time to be with your partner, commit to a plan together, and celebrate the little victories every day.
Other Issues
Other problems that marriages can face include infidelity, disinterest, career changes, and empty nests. These are all unique issues that affect both partners in different ways.
However, some key points to overcoming these hurdles include communicating, and being respectful of one another. Even married couples are going through different things, and it is so important to be aware of what your partner is feeling.
No matter what, set aside some time each week for you and your partner. Use this time to talk about everything— how your week went, things you’re stressed or excited about, or even what you love about your partner.
Setting aside that special time for your partner can remind them that you care, that you are invested, and that you value their feelings.
Conclusion:
If a married couple want to get passed their problems, it’s often a case of taking the time each day to improve any issues until they’re obsolete. Unfortunately, those who don’t make the time to fix things are usually checked out.
If you and your partner are actively trying to improve your situation and maintain a healthy relationship, changes are you’re on the right track to being better together. Exploring new passions and trying to spice up your bedroom life will also help promote companionship and intimacy. Adult toys are a great way to explore new kinks and pleasures!
