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Marriage Is Difficult - How Do You Overcome Hurdles?

Updated on January 22, 2019

We’ve all heard those memorable words before: “For richer, for poorer …in sickness and in health …for better, for worse.” When two people tie the knot, they’ve made the agreement to stand beside their partner no matter what comes to pass.

Unfortunately, these promises don’t always come easy. In this day and age, a lot of things have changed, and marriage isn’t exactly what it used to be. Humans are now much more aware of the struggles that marriage can bring, and of the stress it often causes for individuals.

Fortunately, for those who want to stand by their vows and make things work, there are all kinds of ways to overcome the struggles of marriage.

Marriage is tough, but how can you overcome the hurdles and get back to the day you said your vows together? The following are some suggestions:

Money Problems

There’s no denying that money sometimes finds a way to control us. It’s the thing that gets us the dream house, the perfect wedding, or an impressive RRSP. Unfortunately, it can also be the thing that gives us debt, anxiety, and marital problems.

The key to avoiding money issues within a marriage is keeping everything see-through. No partner should ever lie about finances to their partner, and both people should be on the same page when it comes to spending.

A couple who can agree where their money should go can commit to financial plans that make them both feel comfortable. If there are issues with staying afloat, consider sitting down and talking to one another about spending, and options for more affordable living.

Neither person is the enemy here, and money doesn’t have to be either.

Illness

Marriage lasts through sickness and health, and if your marriage lasts a long time, chances are sickness will eventually rear its ugly head. Whether from accident, age, or genetics, sickness can be a huge hurdle for couples.

To overcome the stress of having a partner with an illness, a healthy partner should only do their very best to support them. It can be a short road, or it may be a life-long one; however, we must remember that eventually we are all going to leave this earth.

While we’re here, we must try our best to take care of the ones we love, in the same way that they would take care of us.

As a side note, a smart thing to consider with your partner early on in the marriage is insurance. Various insurance’s can help relieve stressful situations if a partner becomes ill and unable to help with finances, children, etc.

Difficult Children

Many couples look forward to growing their family after they say their vows, and it’s often a very exciting time. However, even the very best-behaved children pose challenges for a married couple.

Children require constant attention, care, and love. However, partners cannot forget that they must also give their attention to their partners, too. Without a strong relationship between mom and dad, children won’t be getting the best of their parents.

Children take up a good chunk of our lives, but that doesn’t mean that we forget about who we started it all with. Take time to be with your partner, commit to a plan together, and celebrate the little victories every day.

Other Issues

Other problems that marriages can face include infidelity, disinterest, career changes, and empty nests. These are all unique issues that affect both partners in different ways.

However, some key points to overcoming these hurdles include communicating, and being respectful of one another. Even married couples are going through different things, and it is so important to be aware of what your partner is feeling.

No matter what, set aside some time each week for you and your partner. Use this time to talk about everything— how your week went, things you’re stressed or excited about, or even what you love about your partner.

Setting aside that special time for your partner can remind them that you care, that you are invested, and that you value their feelings.

Conclusion:

If a married couple want to get passed their problems, it’s often a case of taking the time each day to improve any issues until they’re obsolete. Unfortunately, those who don’t make the time to fix things are usually checked out.

If you and your partner are actively trying to improve your situation and maintain a healthy relationship, changes are you’re on the right track to being better together. Exploring new passions and trying to spice up your bedroom life will also help promote companionship and intimacy. Adult toys are a great way to explore new kinks and pleasures!

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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      14 months ago from Chicago

      "Marriage is tough.." - Especially if you do the following:

      1. Choose the wrong mate (You're too incompatible)

      2. Got married for the wrong reasons.

      3. A "deal breaker" was committed in the eyes of another.

      4. Fell out of love/stopped wanting the same things.

      Ideally you want to choose someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least have a mutual depth of love and desire for one another. Compatibility trumps compromise.

      Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!

      There is no amount of "work" or "communication" which can overcome being with someone who does not want what you want.

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. Either we get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.

      The choice is up to us. Suffering is optional.

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde

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