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Marriage Quotes - The Keys To A Successful Marriage
Many marriages end up on the rocks because one or both parties are not prepared for the reality that is married life. A successful courtship and romance does not in any way equal a successful marriage. A successful marriage involves far more than courtship rituals and whispered promises.
The following quotes about marriage and married life emphasizes facets and perspectives that is important in a successful marriage. I have included some personal perspectives which I hope can add to and enhance the underlying message.
A man in love is incomplete until he has married. Then he's finished. - Zsa Zsa Gabor
This is a very clever play of words using the two possible meanings for the word “finished”. It can mean that he will be perfect after he is married, or it can mean that he is done for. Zsa Zsa Gabor probably meant the latter meaning.
But I would like to take it to mean that a man has a choice when he marries. A man is definitely finished when he gets married. But he gets to choose if he is completed, or if he is done for. I think, the difference between one or the other is commitment, a sincere desire to really try to make it work and a change of perspective.
Almost no one is foolish enough to imagine that he automatically deserves great success in any field of activity; yet almost everyone believes that he automatically deserves success in marriage. - Sydney J. Harris
You gave her roses, bought her chocolates, whispered sweet nothings in her ear and catered to her every whim and fancy. And then you married her. What in the world possessed you to think that you can stop doing all that and still expect her to run to you and treat you like you are the last man on Earth? So, what are you doing still reading this? Get out there and do whatever it takes to make her happy, and keep doing it. And that goes for you too, ladies.
A journey is like marriage. The certain way to be wrong is to think you control it. - John Steinbeck
And why would you want to control it? Look at marriage as a journey into the unknown, because, just like life, that’s what it really is. Look at each twist and turn, each setback, each obstacle as a door into a new and unknown room. A room that is full of possibilities for learning, for change, and for new experiences. Look at marriage as an adventure. And it won’t be much of an adventure if there isn’t anything new, unknown or exciting in it, would it?
A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. - Mignon McLaughlin
A marriage is no different from life itself. The twists and turns in life are many. I’m sure that if you were to look back at yourself just five years ago, the person that you were would have been surprised at how life has turned out for you just five years hence.
Over time, a marriage will change in character. You will change, just as your partner will also change. And even your love towards each other will change. The key is to know, expect and accept the changes that will come. What cannot change is your commitment towards each other. If that does not change, then a successful marriage, and a marriage that lasts a lifetime is a very real possibility.
Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. - Simone Signoret
When two people are madly in love with each other, it is a chain that binds them together. In many cases, the chain holds - through engagement, marriage, kids, and eventually, old age. But in other cases, the chain breaks, and when it does, the two people that were madly in love suddenly find that without their love for each other, they are no better than strangers.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that it takes more than love to make a marriage and to hold the marriage together. It is those shared memories, shared goals, and even shared miseries that forms the tiny threads that eventually make two people inseparable. It is these threads,perhaps much more than love itself, that you want to have when you enter a marriage together. And it is these threads that make a marriage last.
A long marriage is two people trying to dance a duet and two solos at the same time. ~ Anne Taylor Fleming
When two people are in the throes of romantic love, it is as if they have become one person. The character flaws and weaknesses of one person does not matter to the other. The likes and dislikes of one become the likes and dislikes of the other. They will laugh at the same jokes and get mad at the same things. And they expect it to continue into marriage.
And of course it doesn’t. It is important to realize that a marriage is two different people with two completely different life experiences coming together to live under one roof and to share a life together. While they will have things in common, they will have other interests in which the other party will have a complete disinterest in.
The trick would be not to “force” a complete integration of their lives, but to accept that there will be differences. Rather than two lives integrating into one, it would be better to have their lives together along with a life that each party has that does not include the other party.
Think of it this way. I’m sure many wives would be glad not to tag along with their husbands when they do boring stuff like watch sports or go fishing. And I don’t know of any husband who enjoys their wife’s shopping trips.