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Married more than Once
Do the second, and third marriages work out better than the first marriages?
In most cases, the second marriages end up in the exact same way, as the first marriages. in divorce cases.
When a couple divorces from their first marriage, they don't solve the main problem of their marriage.
That problem gets carried on to their second marriages.
Walking away from the problem is not going to solve anything. It increases the problem in the second and third time round marriages.
You marry someone to whom you first thought was the love of your life, or will be your long lasting partner.
All that changes when you finally tie the knot.
Pleasing your partner can just fade away like a click of a finger.
One woman married her one and only but that did not last.
Immediately after the wedding night everything changed for the worst. He moved himself into the basement.
He slept all day and worked night and day shifts.
She started their married life alone from the very next day.
The whole situation went on for over forty years. She could not walk away in the beginning and had stayed thinking that it would be a mistake if she had left.
The mistake was made for her not moving out in the beginning. She felt that if she moved it would be all her fault.
Is that right?
Blaming herself was wrong.
Another case as follows:
The individual had three marriages, and all three marriages had not worked out.
This person married for all the wrong reasons.
Most couples hate their marriages and stay in these marriages for the rest of their lives for different reasons.
Some partners meet other people online to pass their time and conversations.
The constant picking on each other for their appearances, and bad habits can also take a marriage to another level.
Partners who don't have a clue of where the other is at on certain occasions, is another plan of their own.
When partners should be paying attention to one another, at least one of them will go on a different path and neglect the other.
Why do partners feel bored and unhappy?
Marriage is often taken for granted.
Some marriages are faced with all the unhappy signs, and their issues can't be fixed or saved. Marrying for the wrong reasons is a huge problem for many couples. Meeting someone from a rocky marriage, and then to marry that person over time can get you right in that very same spot.
You can feel like you have this uniqueness between you and the other person but does it all pay off?
You can be in two different parts of the world and still have issues.
Whether you are in a long distance relationship, or close together it is tough when you make commitment to the other person.
She met her husband over five years ago and for two years all they had was fights and arguments.
Communication is lost and rarely do they spend quality time together.
The lack of quality time can put any relationship astray.
Talking often turns into a big fight.
He is faced with a second marriage, and repeating the same mistakes and had got him and his partner in a rut.
You can't live in a marriage if your partner does not show care or love for the other.
It is difficult to be with someone when communication can no longer fit in to their daily lives.
People sometimes live in denial and won't admit their marriage is over.
She is married for over thirteen years and her husband is living in denial. He won't admit their marriage is over. They have not kissed in ten years and rarely share intimacy. He won't get a divorce and she wants one.
Years can pass by and you can be most unhappy in your marriage. Married for the second time and living under false pretenses of being happy is not the way to live your precious lives.
It is heartbreaking when partners spend most of their lives with one person, and then one day it feels like nothing can hold these two people together anymore.
Sadly, this happens to many couples.
Learning from your mistakes can make your life better.
When you don't think of what went wrong and of how to get a problem fixed in your first marriage, your second and third marriages would often end up as the first marriage.
After seven years of marriage she could not live it anymore.
The emotional pain and physical drain had made her feel depressed and alone.
Sometimes you really don't know where to start.
Married for over twenty years, and one day she realized how much had been lost in what was once such a great marriage.
She could not remember when the last time they kissed that passionately.
The spark had died out.
Nothing special happened anymore.
Everything just disappeared.
Sometimes love just not enough!
When your partner is not cheating on you but neglects you in every way, that too can cause a lot of unhappiness in a marriage.
There is no perfect marriage. The moment you don't have any thing to talk about something or someone is going down. The silent treatment can get you in a very lonely place.
When you start to feel distant from your partner and then what?
You got to get out whatever is on your mind. Save your marriage and fix the problem. Going to a second and third marriage is not going to change you in any way. It would ruin your reputation and make you lonely all over again.
Emotionally, second and third marriages can destroy you.
Marrying for the second and third time is that all worth it?
A first marriage can be for you escaping a boring life. You could have also chosen your partner for all the wrong reasons.
She married him for the wrong reasons. They were young and living with strict parents marriage was the answer for her to get out of that boring life.
Years later she realized that was a wrong decision.
He was outgoing, funny and very impressive to be with and his family loved her. They had family gatherings and was popular for their great lifestyle while her family was the complete opposite.
She realized her mistake and was heartbroken.
They are currently going through a divorce.
Second and third marriages are not all bad marriages.
One gets older and wiser and chooses differently, and with great thought. The second and third marriages can work out. (Not for everyone)
You can't always have happiness in your life.
To divorce and remarry won't always be the wrong idea. For some people second and third marriages last longer and love can be shown in a special way.
Hanging on to what no longer exists can corrupt any present relationship.
Good things don’t last forever.
Everything is temporary in life.
Enjoy what you have and make the most of love and married lives.
Never take anything for granted.
You won't be there forever to make your problems right, wrong, and fix or save your marriage.
Life is what you make of it.
You can have a better understanding in your second marriage.
Share better and love better.
A change is good but you can't do the same old all over again. Accept change in a second marriage and move on.
If you haven't changed you haven’t moved on!
I often hear the following phrase but to no avail.
''If I knew then what I know now imagine how different my life would have been?
How would you save an unhappy marriage?
© 2014 Devika Primić