Married More Than Once

Do the second, and third marriages work out better than the first marriages?

In most cases, second marriages end up in the same way, as first marriages in divorce cases.

Why?

When a couple divorces from their first marriage, they do not solve the reasons for their divorce in the first place of their marriage.

They just move on thinking the second time around will be better.

That problem gets carried on to their second marriage. Walking away from the problem is not going to solve anything. It increases the problem in the second and third rounds of marriage.

You marry someone you first thought was the love of your life, or you will be your long-lasting partner. You change a lot when you tie the knot. You think you need to please your partner is not how a marriage is supposed to work.

For example:

One woman married who she thought was the love of her life, but that did not last. Immediately after the wedding night, everything changed for the worse.

He moved into the basement slept all day and worked night and day shifts. They began their married life alone the next day.

The couple spent forty years of their marriage living and sleeping separately. She could not walk away in the beginning and stay thinking that it would be a mistake if she left her family.

She felt that if she moved it would be all her fault.

Is that right?

Blaming herself isn't the way out of this marriage. I believe that communication in this marriage is a non.

Another case is as follows:

Three failed marriages for this person and married for all the wrong reasons.

Most couples hate their marriages and stay in marriages for the rest of their lives, and for different reasons.

Some partners meet other people in online chat apps for pastime. The problem increases when this becomes an addiction and ruins the relationship of the marriage.

The constant picking on each other for their appearances and bad habits can also take a marriage to another level.

At times a partner may not know where the other is at. This shows a lack of interest in their partners.

This can be a new factor in the marriage or the same attitude introduced into the second marriage.

Couples fail to pay attention to one another and go on in marriage while one suffers at his level.

Why do partners feel bored and unhappy?

Marriage is often taken for granted. Some marriages are faced with all the unhappy signs, and their issues cannot be fixed or saved.

Marrying for the wrong reasons is a huge problem for many couples. When you meet someone from a rocky marriage, marrying that person over time can get you right in that same spot.

You can feel like you have this uniqueness between you and the other person, but it doesn't make your marriage stable. Whether you are in a long-distance relationship or close together, it is a commitment to the other person.

For example:

She met her husband over five years ago and for two years, all they had was yelling and arguments. Communication is lost and rarely do they spend quality time together.

The lack of quality time can put any relationship astray.

A couple's marriage is in trouble when they can no longer see their eye-eye.

He is faced with a second marriage and repeating the same mistakes that had got him and his partner in a rut. You cannot live in, a marriage if your partner does not show care or love for the other.

It is difficult to be with someone when communication can no longer fit into their daily lives. People sometimes live in denial and will not admit their marriage is over.

She is married for twenty years, and her husband lives in denial. He will not admit their marriage is over. They have not kissed in ten years and rarely share intimacy. He will not get a divorce and she wants one.

Years can pass by and you can be most unhappy in your marriage. Married for the second time and living under false pretences of happy, is not the way to live your precious life.

It is heartbreaking when partners spend most of their lives with one person, and then one day it feels like nothing can hold these two people together anymore.

Sadly, this happens to many couples.

Learning from past mistakes can make your life better.

When you do not think of what went wrong, and how to have a problem fixed in your first marriage, your second and third marriages can often end up as the first marriage.

After seven years of marriage, she could not have it anymore.

The emotional pain and physical drain had made her feel depressed and alone.

Sometimes you do not know where to begin.

Married for over twenty years, and one day she realized how much had been lost in what was once such a great marriage.

She could not remember when the last time they kissed that passionately. The spark had vanished. Nothing special happened anymore. Everything just disappeared.

Sometimes love is just not enough!

When your partner is not cheating on you but neglects you in every way, that too can cause a lot of unhappiness in a marriage.

There is no perfect marriage.

The moment you do not have anything to talk about to something or someone is going down. The silent treatment can get you in a very lonely place.

When do you start to feel distant from your partner and then what?

You have to get out of whatever is on your mind. Save your marriage and fix the problem.

Going to a second and third marriage won't change you in any way. It would ruin your reputation and make you lonely all over again.

Emotionally, second and third marriages can destroy you.

Marrying for the second and third time is that all worth it?

A first marriage can be for you to escape a boring life.

You could have also chosen your partner for all the wrong reasons. She married him for the wrong reasons.

They were young and living with a strict parental marriage was the answer for her to break away from that boring life.

Years later she realized that was a wrong decision.

He was outgoing, funny, and impressive to be with, and his family loved her.

They had family gatherings and were popular for their great lifestyle, while her family was the opposite.

She realized her mistake and was heartbroken. They are currently going through a divorce.

Second and third marriages are not all bad marriages.

One gets older and wiser and chooses differently, and with great thought. You cannot always have happiness in your life.

Divorce and remarrying will not always be the wrong idea. Some people view a second and third marriage as lasting longer, and love can be shown especially. Hanging on to what no longer exists can corrupt any present relationship.

Good things do not last forever, and everything is temporary. Enjoy what you have and make the most of love and married lives. Never take anything for granted.

You will not be there forever to make your problems right, and wrong, and fix or save your marriage.

Life is what you make of it.

You can have a better understanding in your second marriage. Share better and love better.

A change is good, but you cannot repeat the same old in every marriage. This would make you unhappy. Accept change in a second marriage and move on.

If you have not changed you have not moved on!

I often hear the following phrase but to no avail.

''If I knew then what I know now, imagine how different my life would have been.''