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Meet And Cheat - Online Dating and Cheating

Updated on April 26, 2011

Online Dating

Difficult to believe, but the fact is that at least 12 percent of the people who advertise seeking online dating services are already married. This only goes to prove that all of us are polygamous by nature and wish to continue flirting even post marriage.

With the online dating facility now available, Internet users can effectively explore possibilities for forging new friendships. Although these online dating websites are becoming a convenient tool for the desperate philanderers, it cannot be denied that eligible singles are also seizing the opportunity to identify suitable mates.

People who are too busy and do not have time to socialize and those who have just moved into a new neighborhood eagerly wanting to pick up friends in the vicinity and Internet users who are genuine extroverts – find the online dating website a veritable boon.

Online dating truths - "I am the teenage girl you were with, in the chat room!"
Online dating truths - "I am the teenage girl you were with, in the chat room!" | Source

Dating sites originally started as social greet, know and meet services on the Net. The obvious grey area is in identifying the sector you wish to target as there are many classifications such as – singles, divorced, widows/widowers, platonic friendship, live-in relationships, casual encounters, gay etc.

It is a fact that when Internet assumed vigorous dimensions, the entire globe shrank as it put people in touch sans national boundaries. The ability to chat with friends worldwide was found exciting by many. Individuals who established contact online, soon began regularly corresponding with each and often developed emotional bondage. Such occurrences would have been impossible in the pre-computer era.

Social networking sites saw in this a grand business opportunity and further fine-tuned their services. Dedicated services catering exclusively to gays, professionals, married people and casual sex seekers etc were made available – throwing to the winds all concepts of public morality and discarding long-held ethical beliefs.

These types of segregated online dating sites undoubtedly have their advantages. Single and eligible individuals, looking for permanent tie-ups, are less likely to be hooked to persons already married or those with other encumbrances. But the chief demerit of providing opportunities to the morally depraved and unscrupulous elements to succeed - still persist. Online dating has provided a passport for extra-marital affairs and for adventurous spouses to turn unfaithful.

Some Useful Tips on Online Dating

There is no denying the principal aim of online dating service is to provide you opportunities to flirt. Many people are embarrassed trying to hook a person for flirting in a face-to-face conversation and this impersonal way of achieving it is vastly simpler.

There are quite a few proven approaches to succeed in online flirting and you must research a bit to identify the method that would suit you best. As is known, online dating is done through regular chat or e-mail. There are quite a few proven approaches to succeed in online flirting and you must research a bit to identify the method that would suit you best.

Do not strain the recipient with messages that are made up of long-winding convoluted sentences. Never ever attempt to throw your weight around. Keep your messages simple, short and crisp and make sure that the interest of the opposite party is sustained

It is safer to use some pseudonym than your true name in written messages. Select a nickname that you are comfortable with and feel confident using.

Using a self-confident tone and conveying a spirit of sincerity in your conversations is an effective dating tip.

Do not reveal too much of yourself or constantly speak about you plus points. Learn to listen and give as much chance as possible to the other person to write and say what he /she wants. Wit is the salt of conversation and humor plays a critical role in letting a conversation proceed without becoming monotonous. People who enjoy a robust sense of humor will certainly succeed faster in online dating.

Understanding human nature is a key to succeed in developing any personal relationship. For instance, everyone expects some praise or an occasional compliment. Pass on a word of praise whenever it is appropriate and you will see the other person’s face lit up.

Finally, you must learn to use your charm while communicating and this will aid you travel faster in achieving your end-goals. Online dating is an art and practicing a few of the tips mentioned here will soon make you an adept in flirting techniques.

Just following these simple better online dating tips will help you be a flirting master sooner than you expected and will ultimately get you that successful date you've been waiting for.


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      Kari 5 years ago from Alberta, Canada

      Yeah, I think honesty is the most important thing. You don't want to meet the guy in the picture when you thought he was a slim stud from his profile and chat, just as someone doesn't want to meet the you that is nothing like the 'you' that you described. Honesty is key to finding someone really compatible online.

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      Lila 7 years ago

      The man I met online seems perfect or so I thought until he contacted one of my friends who is also online-he doesnt know that I know yet!

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      Babe sham 7 years ago

      what apitty,these dating site adverts tell us that they are free,ask us to surbscribe,it's very funny,tell people the truth from the start,says babe shammy

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      Dan L 9 years ago

      Never tried the Online dating thing ! I'm an " In-person " kinda guy but I HAVE thought about it ! P.S. It's really sad to think that SOME people in serious relationships DON'T consider what they do on-line to be " Cheating " ! That's NUTS !

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      9 years ago

      I hate this online dating crap!! I have meet nothing but cheaters, players and very disfunctional MEN !!! I have tried on and off for a couple year..With no luck and a few broken hearts. Men think that women on these sites are desperate!! I have never felt so dirty or broken!! All I wanted to do was meet my future husband, but all I got was played and/or lied to...I dated this guy for 9 months and I found out he was talking to other women the whole time we were together, plus he cheated on me with few of the many women that he was talking to!! His excuse was that who knows what I was doing the 3 out of 7 days I wasn't with him!! ANd the other excues was he wanted a friend to talk too!! Talk dirty too!! I dumped him and turned around and started dating a lying newly divorced man !! Then, I was hurting so bad that I dated another guy that I was talking to on this SInglenet site for 7 months we were friends online and finally started dating. After 2 months I found out my boyfriend was still seeing his Ex = girlfriends. I have been accused of being a bad word!! For just being nice to a couple guys and giving them motherly advice and keeping it as just friends, I got dumped by a guy I dated only once because of this misunderstanding!! All I ever wanted is to get remarried!!! I'm seeing a shrink !!

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      Naura 10 years ago

      I'm attractive, interesting and easy-going girl.I can say that I am a soft person and always can support and do my best in a difficult moment or situation I have good and agreeable character. I'm faithful and reliable person. I often try to help everybody who needs my help. I adore surprises and gifts I'm practical and I like to keep everything in clean and comfort. I like cooking very much. I enjoy pop dances and fitness, because I like to keep fit. My passion is yacht sport, I can't imagine my life without wind and water, it excites and pleases me a lot and my dream to develop these skills in the future I want to find reliable and cultural man, who will be able to support me.kind-hearted at the same time; faithful with a good sense of humor, cheerful and independent and I will give him the same I like men, who can be funny and have good sense of humor, but he should be serious person. I hope to meet man who will earn my faith.....................Contact me on my private email

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      The Right MatchMaker 10 years ago

      I know you guys say that any free matchmaker can be a scam. I personally think that as a girl I deserve to meet people the most secure way possible and that is what paid macthmakers do for you. They give you security because you are a 100% sure that the people with confirmed identity at the other end of the net are who they say they are. If you use a free dating website you are always exposed to scam and bad experiences thanks to the disclosure of your personal information amongst a "Non profitable site" or so we think. Paid dating websites can also be free of charge, there are enough members who pay to talk to you, so it's better to be safe than to regret a bad experience.


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      John Joon 10 years ago

      Avoid online dating traps by knowing some potential problems around before putting the name and address to a site. Online dating is great fun if one could know the traps. Scams do exist on the internet, so be cautious not to simply transfer money to others account….

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      Dr.S.P.PADMA PRASAD 10 years ago from Tumkur

      good writing.By the bye, do you have the habit of responding to e-mails?

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      bluewings 10 years ago from Milkyway

      I haven't tried an online dating site personally ,but have heard many identities used there are fake and with a little search you could encounter contradictions in profile.However,there are a few sites that allow only real people to register ,but most of them are paid sites.