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Meeting a Stranger after 15years....

Updated on October 18, 2011

I met my friend after good 15 years and she was a total stranger to me. She was so cold and bitter; I had no idea what happened and why this change of attitude? 15 years ago, we parted ways in a friendly manner by a warm hug and tears of departure then, what changed?

When I met her after these many years; she had hesitation in her hug and since I had forced myself onto her; she had no choice but hug me back. But, there was no warmth in that hug. I felt I was hit by a cold wave. We sat down after the hug and although I was shooting her with questions regarding her welfare she had pretended not to hear them and would just nod and answer, "okay" for all questions. I felt neglected and sad. My mind started wandering back to those days when we used to share each laughter and cry.

Those days were so much fun. Altough, she is older than me; we had so much in common. We would go shopping, dining together. We were glued together in parties and always had each other's back.

Why did time take us apart? I wanted to confront her on her atitude but she was not interested to talk to me. Maybe she found someone better than me? I was shouting out within myself as to why all this happened since even in those 15years when I tried contacting her she would email back saying, "She is too busy." I took that statement literally because if one is busy it sure can be very tedious to keep up with distant relationships.

All I have right now, is fond memories of my friend and always wonder how did Time take us apart?

Time is just a 4 letter word but, this word has so much depth and importance in our lives. This word can make us heal, it can make us grow apart, it can help us stay in the present and it can also help us go back in the past virtually.

I have given up on my friend and all I can say is that my friendship with this person was dated till 1996. Unfortunately, Time and Destiny is not in man's hand and we have to learn to bow to it.


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    • Ruchira profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from United States

      Hi Ubani,

      Thanks for your concern & read. Appreciate it!

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 

      8 years ago from Lagos

      Such a sad story. I feel for you. I hope and wish you move on well. All the best dear friend.

    • Ruchira profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from United States

      Well said Sunshine625. Such beautiful words...I am gonna treasure them. No wonder you name is SunShine :)

      Thank you for your precious truely made my day...Cheers!

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      8 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Ruchira, I've learned that friends from our past our "friends from the past" for a reason, the sizzle fizzled. Sometimes reconnecting works and sometimes it doesn't....what we learn from the relationship is an important factor. Thanks for the reminder :))

    • Ruchira profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from United States

      Hello Just Ask Susan,

      Thanks for your concern. Yes, it was a shock and those wonderful memories keep coming back but, gotta move forward.

      Thank you for your read and comment :)

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      Susan Zutautas 

      8 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      It is strange how time changes how people feel. Sorry to read that your reunion with your friend was not as you had hoped it would be.

    • Ruchira profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from United States

      Well said Soumyasrajan...we have to do our duties but leave the rest to the Almighty.

      Always a delight to hear from you. Your comments add depth to my hub...Cheers!

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      8 years ago from Mumbai India and often in USA

      Enjoyed your article Ruchira. You write very well and have a sort of detachment, which helps in giving color to your writing. Yes we all face such situations in life often and one has to face it with a drive to keep ourselves calm. At that time sentences like the one with which you ended your article help "Unfortunately, Time and Destiny is not in man's hand and we have to learn to bow to it."

      An equivalent in Indian style (said long back by Krishna) " Karmanyevadi Karaste Maphaleshu Kadhachana Ma Karma Phalahe Durbo Matesangatsvali Karmani (do your best, but be prepared for any eventuality)"

    • Ruchira profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from United States

      So true Jeyaprakash84. I completely agree with you on the above.

      Attachments can lead to misery which is a state of mind and we blame it on Time for it :)

      Thanks for your precious comment...loved the angle to your comment!

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      8 years ago from Tamil Nadu, India

      I was reading the writings of Eckhart Tolle.. Like other realized beings, he also says the fact that time is false and as we identify ourselves with our mind and time, we have got caught in this life.. All these differences would come to an end when we give up the false attachments.. Life is mystery and at the same time misery for we don't know the truth.. Haaa....

    • Ruchira profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from United States

      Thanks for the comforting words, Fay. For a couple of days, I was blaming myself for the loss but then started counting my blessings and got over it.

      It is sad to let go of a relationship but then somethings are just not in our hands...

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      Fay Paxton 

      8 years ago

      I had the same experience. A separation from my best friend of many years and then reuniting only to find out she was a total stranger. It is a painful realization of someone with whom you share so many great memories. Sadly, relationships change and so do people.


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