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Memento for the Broken Heart

Updated on August 13, 2016

You're not broken, you're just hurting, and that's not a bad thing. You need to understand the difference between the two. And after all is said and done, you have to know that you're still the driver of your own journey and you will be the one who will determine where it leads you. You can choose, you will always have a choice. You can choose to be sad and wallow in tears to let all the pain out but you can also choose to be happy after that.

Always remember that when a painter finishes a painting, he doesn't stop being a painter, he goes out there to find a new muse for a brand new masterpiece. A singer doesn't stop being a singer just because he finished singing his song, he goes out there to find a new melody, another perfect symphony much better than the last. And an author doesn't stop being an author just because he finished writing a book, he goes out there to find a new story, a never ending imagination. And you don't stop believing in something just because the last time you believed in it, it got fucked up.

I'm not saying you should move on immediately. Whoever tells you that is stupid. It's a long and hard process but I'm going to tell you a secret, it's doable. Cry all you want, drink all the liquor you can, throw a tantrum, rant, shout and scream at the top of your lungs. Do whatever you can to let it all out. But never lose yourself in the process. Always remember that whatever happens and whatever you do, it is you who will suffer the consequences or reap the success.


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      Sigrid Jill 17 months ago from Philippines

      Thanks for the great feedback! I love your interactive comment and more advice regarding these matters. I hope people will get to read this and realize that there's more to life. Will be posting more soon :)

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      dashingscorpio 17 months ago

      Great advice!

      "And after all is said and done, you have to know that you're still the driver of your own journey and you will be the one who will determine where it leads you. You can choose, you will always have a choice." - Very true!

      A bend in the road is not the end of the road unless you fail to make the turn. Truth be told when it comes to love and relationships most of us (fail our way) to success. It's very rare for anyone to hit a homerun their first, second, or third time up at bat. If it weren't so we'd all be married to our high school sweethearts! Breakups and heartaches teach us about ourselves.

      This is especially true during our youth where many of us begin to pursue relationships without taking the time to figure out who (we) are and what we want/need in a mate for life.

      Essentially we allow "impulsive connections" and "happenstance" to dictate our relationship choices.

      It's the equivalent of going shopping without a list!

      The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things and last but not least have a mutual depth and desire for one another. Compatibility trumps compromise!

      It's also important to never lose perspective of the "big picture".

      There are over 7 Billion people on this planet! Odds are in everyone's favor there are probably thousand if not millions of people who love and appreciate you. That guy/girl whom you may feel like you can't live without just know this: There are billions of people doing exactly that!

      In fact not all that long ago you were one of us!

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde

      If someone doesn't want to be with you it's a sure sign they don't believe you are all that "special". Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself.

      Every ending is a new beginning!

      “Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.” — unknown

      “I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.” – unknown