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Men Who Cheat & Why They Do It

Updated on April 30, 2017

My Lonely Dad

I’m not generalizing men or saying that all men are polygamous. When I say men are polygamous by nature, it means that they aren’t going around cheating their wife or girlfriend to hurt them. It just means that they can’t help but appreciate women and satisfy their own desire to fulfill their own needs, not just physically but mostly because of their emotional needs as well.

I’m definitely not an expert so I am just basing my perception on facts that I have gathered from friends and my own family. I’m not proud to say this but my dad who passed away was the best dad in the world though his weakness was women.

My mom was only 18 when she got pregnant and she was 19 when I was born. She was robbed of her teenage years and lost all opportunities that she had because of me. She didn’t finish her college. I guess the reason why I never remembered her being a mom to me was because she was always out with her friends, living the life that she didn’t have when she was a teenager. My dad, who was 17 years older than my mom, gave her everything that she needed and was a very good provider to his family. Because of this, my mom relied on my dad’s allowance and has never experienced working her entire life. She was spoiled. She knew my dad was wealthy and successful on his career so she was almost never at home while my dad worked too much.

I was only 9 years old when I learned that my dad has a mistress. It was someone I know because she was his tour guide and I was always with her. Every time there was a tour it was my dad’s mistress who took care of me. Except for just 1 time, my mom never went to a tour with my dad so I got really close to the woman that my had been secretly seeing. My dad wasn’t aware that I played a detective just to unravel his secret and I never blamed him for cheating on my mom because I knew in my heart that my dad was lonely and he needed someone to care for him. My dad needed someone to listen to him when he was tired of the world. He needed someone to cheer him up when he felt like he had so many burden. He loved her though my dad was still tempted to see other girls, mainly because he was a guy who wanted to love and be loved and girls also fell for him because he was good to them ---- except for the cheating part.

I’m not making excuses for my dad or for any guy who would cheat on his wife or girlfriend. My intention is to share my perception to the readers that while men are physically stronger than women, they are very weak, lonely and insecure. They look at other women because the excitement of doing so makes them happy and alive and once they take that woman into their world, it gives a man a big fulfillment of being wanted and needed for the kind of person that he is.

My Colleagues

I have come across too many stories of women crying over their men for cheating on them. I guess it isn’t really because of the kind of industry we are in but because this is rampant anywhere in this world of temptations. My only difference in learning about these cheating men is the fact that my job role requires people skills and much engagement. It may also be because people trust me to always be subjective as opposed to being objective so I can always give an advice to anyone who comes up to me, but I can never take sides.

It’s a big predicament to know something and not say anything. 2 of my very close colleagues at work are both married to womanizers. One is very much aware that her husband is cheating on her and made the right decision in getting separated from that man. The other colleague of mine is still in denial because she is blinded by her love for her husband and she wants to keep her family intact for the sake of their kids. Up to the present time, her husband keeps on cheating on her without that colleague of mine knowing but it’s really hard that I couldn’t say anything because I know that it is something that she could change and telling her would not only break her heart. It would also break her hope that her husband could change. I don’t only know 2 stories of cheating husbands. In fact, if I had a big mouth a lot of marriages would’ve already been broken. I chose to keep quiet because I simply do not want to meddle in any relationship. Apart from that, it is best to get hurt by discovering this by themselves instead of going crazy over a period of time thinking if it was real or not.

Married men cheat not because they do not love their wives anymore. It is because they love their wife and they choose to stay with them. I know it doesn’t make any sense that I am saying this and I am definitely not siding with men but really, I have been raise in an environment full of men and I have personally observed a lot of factors that make men look for other women. Their physical need is always there but it is only 1 factor amongst the others.


What do you do when your guy keeps on cheating on you?

Two things. Either you live with it or you live without your guy. You can stay and accept that this isn’t something that you or anyone can change because changing only happens from within. Meaning, men will change if they want to but if you push them to do something that they aren’t willing to do, then this will cause a rocky relationship. You can always leave the guy if you cannot live with him, knowing that you don’t trust him and knowing that he will always hurt your pride and emotion.

It isn’t really the situation that is hurting anyone. It is how you’re dealing with it. You can choose to dwell on things or you can choose to face them and accept them. In the first place, it was you who chose to be with someone for the rest of your life. You can also choose another path and live peacefully if you have enough courage to do that.

To live life fully, do not dwell on any hardship. Instead, count all the blessings that you have because the problems will always be there. Without them, there is nothing to surpass and you will be weak on your journey to a life without story and learnings. We always gain strength on any hardship that we overcome and this is what makes life worth living. It gives us that satisfaction that we can conquer anything and we can be happy no matter what.

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