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Money Changes Friendships

Updated on November 8, 2016
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Money ruins good Friendships

  • Did you lose a friend from a large inheritance or from other reasons?

One of the common reasons friendships break up is from money issues.

You think you have a good friendship with a ''so called friend,'' until one day you no longer have that friendship.

  • Why does money change everything in a friendship?

The closest of friendships can be affected in this way.

  • Can you bridge the wealth gap from your own life?

What you own sounds more valuable than a simple friendship.

Hatred, jealousy, and envy can all set in very fast, and this happens with no regret in the beginning.

Awkward moments can arise and you can feel guilty for some reason.

You can afford it and the friend is not in the same situation.

For example:

You can buy the fancy things in life, and live cautiously with a budget while the friend has to battle their way through daily activities.

Money pushes friendships away in the following cases:

Financial problems allows for bad feelings.

You dreamed of a promotion and got a raise.

Flaunting your wealth can trigger odd feelings with a friend.

The kind gestures you make can look offensive to your friend.

When you have wealthy friends avoid bickering about poor finances.

It sounds like you are asking the friend for money to help you out of a rut.

Don't make your conversations like a cry for help.

Another example:

A family living in our small community had inherited a large sum of money.

They had started behaving very differently since their inheritance. I was amazed in their change of conversations.

The quick change got me thinking of how money can change people's thoughts about life.

Friends are no longer friends like in the past, and keeping their distance surprised me.

Whether you lend or borrow money from friends there is often a kind of weakness that kicks in.

It is not a good idea to lend, or to borrow money to anyone, not even a friend. The awkwardness is just too much and all fails in the end.

You can't make a good friendship when money comes in between you and that friend.

People change when their bank balances increase, and strangely forget about the people they once had in their lives.

It is normal behavior but that is so evil!

Money is the root to all evil. You can't live without money or with money.

If you have too much you can't let go of it and feel stronger and sometimes unhappy.

When you have a few notes sticking out your wallet you feel weaker and happier.

Money doesn't always bring happiness in life.

Some people think money can make them the happiest, but there are more issues once money becomes a priority in life.

People live by what they want and not by what they need.

I like to buy what I like and want all in moderation. My needs are my priority.

Flashing out wealth can get to others, and friendships are broken from those experiences.

Negative feelings affect those with no money.

Deal with your friend in a direct way.

When people don't have enough to live by, they live poorly and fail to make ends meet.

Once they have a little bit more money than before everything feels easier and approached freely.

The point is money shouldn't make bad friendships.

  • Can you preserve your friendship when money controls emotions?

The large inheritance changed their behavior towards us.

I did not let that get me down!

People deserve to be happy.

Money ruins friendships if you let that be.

When you focus on materialism somehow you forget the reality of life.

Money can cause uneasiness between any two people, and among neighbors, or friends.

The problem arises when there is a sudden change.

Resentment from both sides can be noticed.

I understood their situation and looked it over.

  • Is money a taboo topic?

  • Do you consider classism to be part of money issues?

There are great differences in class and in having money, and not much money.

Sometimes people are so thrown in by the wide differences in culture, and color and classism is completely unspoken of.

Money comes into lives suddenly and everything revolves around money.

It is best for both parties to figure out where they stand in the quick changes.

You know what you are expecting from the landed dream job, or from the large inheritance but the other person does not have a clue.

Handling these situations can be complicated and problematic.

Success brings on negative and positive feelings for both parties.

I don't feel negatively about the example as I have mentioned.

To me it is a lovely picture to see a family moving on from their once poorly lived life.

Good things are worth waiting for in life.

I have waited a long time to move on, and now I can say I too have become successful.

I don't believe in comparing myself to another for any reason.

Most people who don't have what others have can feel worthless and insecure about their lives.

The changes in your life could mean you no longer can meet up with your friend for a drink after work.

You can make your friend feel isolated and alone.

Guilt shows in such challenges.

You feel bad about your friend and have to go on with your life.

You are not abandoning that friend but the friend does not see that way.

I have often heard of how money can change people's minds but have not experienced such situations until recently.

I am quite taken aback by such behavior.

True friends stick by each other and understand your way of life.

You can be easily be overcome with envy, or jealousy from your friend’s wealthy lifestyle. Rewarding life is crucial for you, instead of looking at your friend's great life in a negative way. Be happy for their changes.

You too can achieve what you have always wanted.

Be happy for others.

So, your friend's new wealth is squashing your friendship what should you do?
Focus on your feelings and take a check in on classism, and success.

Friendship is important; make that known to your friend.

It is natural to be jealous but contain your feelings.

Be normal with each other and continue your events together.

Make your friendship a priority.

Money talks and changes everything when you fail to see the real importance of your friendship.

I come from a middle class family and always had everything I needed. My life changed greatly when I moved to Croatia. Living in a foreign country made me see my life in a much more different way.

I had a difficult start and my biggest problem was not letting go of my life in the past.

It was tough to just let go what I once had and of how I once lived.

I didn't know how different my life would be in Croatia in many ways.

Some people did look down on me for not having to be in their level, but that did not bother me as much.

I came into another lifestyle and had to get up through my own struggles.

Nobody should look down on another if they don't have the same as they do.

The many difficulties allowed me to appreciate my belongings more than before.

Over the years I created a solid foundation and have become successful. Some people look at me as rich, or somewhere in the middle.

Frankly, I don't care!

It is my life!

I have not lost or gained any friends because I did not have any friends from the local crowd.

They are acquaintances.

My one and only best friend have not left me.

We share our stories and successes together.

However, other people who look at me in a jealousy way, these behaviors don't affect me.

I am just me!

Certain behaviors do frustrate and me I try not to take in what others say and do.

Individuals are entitled to their own way of life.

Money and life

Can you preserve your friendship when money controls emotions?

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Lady_E thank you for stopping by

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      Elena 2 years ago from London, UK

      You are right. It doesn't just change friendships, it can ruin friendships. The best thing is to give friends what you can part with it and ask them not to pay back. That way friendships stay intact.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      thumbi7 thank you fr sharing a comment here it has been a while

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      KoffeeKlatch Gals thank you greatly for stopping by

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      JR Krishna 2 years ago from India

      Friendship is friendship. Money should not come in between

      Then it becomes business

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      Susan Haze 2 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Money can be a real friendship changer if you are not careful. I've always said do not lend money to a friend.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you SANJAY LAKHANPAL for stopping by. Helpful words from you.

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      Sanjay Sharma 2 years ago from Mandi (HP) India

      An old saying goes that uneven friendship always leads to discord.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      poetryman6969, Very true! Thank you for commenting, always appreciated.

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      poetryman6969 2 years ago

      Unless you have no other choice it is best not to go into business with or load money to or borrow money from family or friends. I understand that many if not most in the real world violate this dictum but having to rely on a contract rather than the spoken word eventually says to all involved: They way in which we deal with trust issues has changed.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader thank you very much

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      jtrader 2 years ago

      It is true that money does change some friendships. However, I don't think it changes genuine ones. Sometimes people don't know how to handle owing or being owed money. It is not a cut and dry thing and depends on the personalities involved and the situation.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      VioletteRose, thank you kindly for all comments.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. thank you for all votes I appreciate your kind words.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      rajan jolly, thank you kindly for stopping by.

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      VioletteRose 2 years ago from Chicago

      Very well written! Money is needed to live, but unfortunately it is also a reason for most of the problems.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi ezzly thank you kindly for sharing another comment here. People who are mean and like in the example you have mentioned it is bad to end with nothing.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway, thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ocfireflies, thank you greatly for stopping by at my hubs. I am glad you shared an opinion here.

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      Dave 2 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Hello Devika, another brilliant piece dealing with human emotions that you produce so well. This will always be a controversial issue about those that have and those that do not have money, and the issue you have dealt with in your usual unique way. well done. Voted up interesting and very useful.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 2 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Money does change most people and even if one does not then the opposite person's presumption of you has changed.

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      ezzly 2 years ago

      Totally agree with your article! I had a neighbor who won the lottery and his friend kept borrowing large sums of money and never repaid it. He was constantly having to buy drinks or people thought he was mean. Now he has ended up with nothing !

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Money is the source of so much conflict, between family members, strangers, groups, and even nations. I'd rather be with it than without it, however. I'll take the taxes, the discomfort and any criticism rather than the poverty. Poverty hurts too much.

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      ocfireflies 2 years ago from North Carolina

      Money can and often is a game changer. My brother often tells me "Money can't make you happy, but it can make misery a little easier to deal with." Smiles. Not sure if that is something he made up or borrowed. Great hub.

      Kim

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      pstraubie48, thank you kindly for sharing your mind here. All my best to you.

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      Linda Crampton 2 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      You have given us some more interesting things to think about, Devika. Money can cause so many problems, either when we don't have enough of it or when we have too much!

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      Patricia Scott 2 years ago from sunny Florida

      Money can make or break relationships. Not having enough clearly causes issues to arise.

      Just as one person having more than another can.

      Striking a happy medium is not always possible but is what is desirable.

      Angels are once again on the way to you ps

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Michael-Milec, thank you for sharing your mind here. I appreciate all votes and so true about money being the root all evil.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      alaways exploring thank you for constantly stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MsDora thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      PAINTDRIPS thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi billybuc thank you for always sharing your comments

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Ericdierker, thank you for stopping by.

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      Michael-Milec 2 years ago

      Quite a precise picture from your own experience what a money potentially does to shaky friendship . In spite of the ancient truth " the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil," there are exemption to it. It is the inner strength and spiritual integrity of a person to keep friendship intact. I have a friend like that, our friendship stabilized in strength and understanding while his wealth is increasing... As for me, more money didn't mean a lot to me, coming from very poor background , I could share more where the need was. While experiencing " dry season " neither my friends nor the others ever heard myself discussing finances. . . Counting blessings includes being blessed with friends who sticks closer then brothers...

      Voted up and beautiful.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 2 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I know some who are wealthy and some who are not. It makes no difference to me. Just be thankful and roll with the flow..

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      Me too, Billybuc. I keep asking for that test to see how well I'd do. Devika, thanks for your thoughts on this important matter.

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      Denise McGill 2 years ago from Fresno CA

      As the wife of a pastor, I can say it is a strange reality that the people with the least, tend to be the most generous with their money: giving to the poor and to the church.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well my friend, if I ever make big money, I'll let you know if it has changed my friendships. :) Still, what you say is certainly true in many cases. Good points of reflection.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I find the biggest hurdle in those that have money and those that do not is in the activities they can engage in. Common interests can be altered and even locales that we live in. So friendships can kind of just fade away.