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Many People Get Married for Foolish Reasons

Updated on July 9, 2012

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By Roldens Paulynice

As most of us know, marriage is a commitment. It is a proof that you have given yourself to someone that you really love in order to show him or her that you really want to give your heart to him (her) for the rest of your life. When you are married to someone, you show that person that you will always be there to suffer with him (her) in any difficult situations that may take place, such as sickness, economic situation, and others. Today, many people get married for foolish reasons, such as needing financial support, being scared of getting too old, feeling attracted physically to someone, or covering a mistake or a painful experience.

Living in a world where most people come with the idea “money talks” makes them do things that they are not supposed to do. Some people get married to someone because of financial reasons. As a matter of fact, there is no logical connection between love and money if your heart doesn’t really have a natural feeling for the person that you are marrying. Getting married only for financial reasons is one of the foolish causes for getting married because if you don’t really have a natural feeling for the one that you are marrying, you are going to feel embarrassed every time you see or you are going to make love to that person. The idea of getting married for financial reasons is not reasonable because marriage is a commitment or the idea of giving your heart to someone that you really love, not the idea of giving your heart for financial reasons.

Some people get married for fear of getting too old. Someone can get married at any age that she or he wants. Marriage is not a matter of age. If love doesn’t matter if you are old or not, why marriage should based on that? The idea of getting married for the fear of getting too old is not rational. When you just foolishly get married to someone because you are scared of getting too old, you may encounter serious problems in your relationship after getting married. Before you get married to someone, try to know to whom you getting married. Take your time to analyze that person. Don’t let the idea of getting too old make you make an unreasonable decision.

Even if some people don't get married for needing financial support or for being scared of getting to old, some people still get married for other foolish reasons. Many people also get married to someone because they just only feel attracted to that person’s physical appearance. I acknowledge that physical attraction is one of the primary causes of falling in love for someone, but it should not be the primary reason for getting married to someone. Imagine that you are married to someone because you just only feel attracted to that person’s physical attraction. If something happens to that person, such as he or she loses an ear or a hand, will you continue to share your feelings with that person? May be you will , or you will not. As most of us can realize, the idea of personality or respect should be one of the primary reasons for getting married. Having respect for your partner can push you to treat your partner well. You will be able to know how to act toward your partner. The beauty of someone is not only the physical attraction of that person. It’s also the positive personality that that person has, which we call inside beauty. Before you get married to someone, you have to take some time to analyze that person in order to see if she or he has this kind of quality. The qualities of that person will help you to determine whether or not you should marry with him or her. Getting married solely on the basis of physical attraction is one of the foolish reasons for getting married because it is not enough.

Not only do some people get married for needing financial support, being scared of getting too old, or feeling attracted physically to someone, but another issue is that some people just get married to cover a mistake or a painful experience. I know that there are some painful problems that someone experiences in his or her life that can make him or her unable to remain reasonable when he or she thinks about them. For example, your ex-wife or your ex-husband may break your heart; don’t just foolishly get married to someone else in order to show to your ex that you can find someone else because you never know what the other person may do to you. Bad experiences in life just happen for a reason. They can serve you as an example so that in the future you avoid other similar things that may happen. Getting married to cover a mistake or a painful experience is not reasonable.

Marriage is a commitment. It’s a way to show to someone that you really love him or her, and you are ready to spend the rest of your life with that person. Before you get married to someone, ask yourself, “Do I really love him or her?” If you don’t, don’t get married to him or her for financial reasons because you are going to feel embarrassed every time you are with that person. There is no logical connection between love and money if you don’t really love that person. The idea of getting married to someone solely on the basis of his or her physical attraction is not enough because this physical attraction can go at anytime. Physical attraction alone is not enough for a strong marriage. The idea of getting married for the fear of getting too old or for covering a mistake is not reasonable. As a matter of fact, most people get married for these kinds of reasons. This idea can make us realize that most people get married for foolish reasons.



Sometimes, we do some crazy stuffs when we love someone, but that doesn't mean that we are stupid. Love just simply makes us blind, and we are unable to follow what we want. However, our hearts and our souls choose to follow what they want while our bodies are unable to resist or to control this feeling. Sometimes, even though the one that our hearts and our souls want hurts us, we still can't stay away from that person because our hearts don't give us the chance to do that, and our hearts and our souls say yes even though sometimes our mouths say no. The heart is what we need to survive.We are obligated to please it. The soul directs the body to where it wants it .There's nothing we can do.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Roldens Paulynice, the author of this article, was born in December 24 1990 in Gonaives, Haity. He has published many short stories and essays, especially about relationship or love, litterature review, education, and politics. Think Before You Act and What Causes Many College Students to Fail or Drop out are two of his works that he likes the most. Fortunately, in February 2009, he had the chance to come to the United States, attended Glade Central High School, and graduated in may 2010 with a 3.08 GPA. In may 8, 2012, he graduated from Palm Beach State College with an Associate in Arts Degree. Right now, he is attending Florida Atlantic University, pursuing his BS in accounting and business administration. In the near future, he wants to become a CPA. Being a writter is something that he has a certain zeal to become in his life, but right now, he is trying, hoping to become a famous one one day. He is the author of Teenage Marriages Are Likely to End Unhappily, Think Before You Act, What Causes Many College Students to Fail or Dropout, Many People Get Married for Foolish Reasons, An Essay about the Tell-Tale-Heart and The Black Cat, and many other works.

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      gepeTooRs 16 months ago

      I have a blog based upon on the same topics you discuss and would love to have you share some stories/information. I know my audience would value your work. If you are even remotely interested, feel free to shoot me an email.

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      pacificnurse 21 months ago

      I didn't get this article. Very long winded.

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      stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

      You have given many valid points on what marriage should be, lets hope people take this article serious.

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      Sandeep 2 years ago

      Now that I've see your article in Outdoor Photography and re-visited Matthew Chase-Daniel's web site, I can see istnrteeing parallels. Perhaps that's also because I've been reading a lot about Hockney's work on joiners . They all have a similar goal, to draw the viewer into the image(s) and force them to move through the image The work that you and Chase-Daniel create invite the viewer to see items in the landscape at different scales, while Hockney often wanted to convey a sense of time in his joiners. Maybe combine the two approaches? At any rate, I like the direction all of this is leading to, and hope to make some creations of my own that follow these ideas.

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      Essence 2 years ago

      You're on top of the game. Thanks for shragni.

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      C_MarieWeber 3 years ago from Wichita

      This is a great piece here. I think many marry too young and have no idea what marriage really is. It's commitment and compromise.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 3 years ago from Philippines

      This is a very true list of the wrong reasons that people decide to get married. We seem to have lost the vision of commitment and love that lasts through thick and thin. This is a good topic to write about, and it is something that people should think more about, especially young people.

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      Roldens Paulynice 3 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thanks my friend for ur comment...

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 3 years ago from Philippines

      Very interesting article. You have compiled probably the most complete list I've every encountered of the wrong reasons why people marry.

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      Roldens Paulynice 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Yea..That is true my friend...

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      Dana Tate 4 years ago from LOS ANGELES

      Interesting topic, I agree people are getting married too early and for the wrong reasons. People are taking marriage lightly and crumbling the constitution and foundation of what marriage represents. It's so sad to the point no one is willing to fight for marriage anymore because its to easy to walk away.

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      Lacey Taplin 4 years ago from Highlands Ranch, CO

      Some very good points here in your hub! I have already witnessed some friends rush into marriage for the wrong reasons and they ended up getting divorced (or are in the process of divorce). I was with my husband for 13 years before getting married (we started dating right after high school), which may be too long for some but we absolutely knew we could live with each other and saw all the good and bad. We were also financially stable and all of that good stuff. I am starting to see more people wait to get married and think a lot of that has to do with high divorce rates and so many of my generation coming from divorced parents. Keep up the good work!

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      gsurvivor 4 years ago

      A lot of true fact you posted here. Solid and honest hub, thanks for posting!

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      Roldens Paulynice 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Lol......thanks for your comment...

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      cosmomed 4 years ago from Sarawak. Malaysia

      Good hub! But unfortunately most of the people still choose partners based on appearances, money, or emotional reactions. Some people don't want to choose a spouse that is too short, because they afraid that their children may become even shorter!

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      Roldens Paulynice 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thanks my friend for your comment...

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      larakern 4 years ago from Georgia

      paulynice,

      You present a great point with this hub! I definitely agree that people get married for terrible reasons. Before me and my husband got married we decided to live together for three years just to make sure that everything would work out. And here we are almost six years later! We have seen too many couples get married and then get divorced just in the time that we have been together. I think that if people truly love one another they will wait to get married. Great hub, voted up!

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      Roldens Paulynice 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thanks my friend for your comment.....

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      Nancy C Moores 4 years ago

      You really cover a lot of good points in this hub. Your insight into marriage is a very wise one. I like your way of thinking hope you apply into your life too. You must or you wouldn't be writing about this. I will definitely check out some more of your hubs. Thank you for choosing to follow my hubs too. It was a nice surprise to find this in my emails. :~)

      Keep up the great work.

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      Roldens Paulynice 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      ok thanks my friend for your comment.....I hope you read more of my works, especially the one titled think before you act......

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      Johanna Bergstrom 4 years ago from Fuengirola, Malaga, Spain

      Hey, thanks for the Follow on my hub page, and for your great hubs! I particularly enjoyed this one on marriage. I could not agree with you more: "marriage is a commitment". You are very wise. Sending you regards from Spain, keep 'em coming, as they say.

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      Roldens Paulynice 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Okay my friends, thank you so much for your comments

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      Marian Cates 4 years ago from Stevenson, WA

      Some very good insights!

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      Danielle Cherise Norris 4 years ago from Virginia Beach

      Great post! You have really though about this subject. I agree with you that many people in this day and age get married for foolish reasons, especially for financial benefits. People are attracted to nice things and the chance at a higher quality of life. I find that while serving in the military, many people marry my fellow sailors, simply for the financial benefits that the Navy provides. I know there are still people out there who marry for love, but so many do it for more selfish reasons. No wonder divorce rates are so high!

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      Roldens Paulynice 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      wow..Thank you so much my friend for your comments....i love them too...

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      Hariom 4 years ago from INDIA (Haryana) SAMPLA

      Marriage is a commitment. It’s a way to show to someone that you really love him or her, and you are ready to spend the rest of your life with that person. Before you get married to someone, ask yourself, “Do I really love him or her?” If you don’t, don’t get married to him or her

      I really like these line. Without love marriage is a business.

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      Olive Mihiuko Gitu 4 years ago from Kenya

      wow,that is quite helpful

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      Roldens Paulynice 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      okay thank you so much my friend...

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      Kind Regards 4 years ago from Missouri Ozarks - Table Rock Lake

      I really enjoyed reading this article. I like the way it is written and the ideas you expressed in it.

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      Roldens Paulynice 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      yea my friend.......Mariage is not joke...

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      A.E. Williams 4 years ago from Hampton, GA

      Not a bad perspective at all... It's good that young men like us realize these things now. Marriage is not something to be taken lightly. It is as serious or even more serious than you expressed.

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      Roldens Paulynice 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Yea my friend....thanks for your comment....

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      Davidwork 4 years ago

      Paulynice roldens,

      Very interesting hub. You have clearly spent much time thinking about this subject.

      One thing I would draw to your attention though; getting married for the wrong reasons is not a 21st century phenomena, it has been happening all over the world in many different human cultures throughout history.

      "Marry in haste, repent at leisure" is a very OLD saying.

      Getting married for financial reasons is certainly nothing new, or peculiar to modern Western societies. In many middle Eastern countries today, a young man will find it hard to marry if he is NOT financially secure.

      And I would say that throughout history there have been many, many cases of people just getting married because of sexual attraction. In many of the more conservative societies of the past, where there was no freedom to have boyfriends or girlfriends, it was often the only way that people could fulfil their sexual desires.

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      Roldens Paulynice 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      thanks my friend for your comment...

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      Good hub with valid reasoning to support your opinions. Nicely done.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Yeah my friend....thanks for your comment....

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      sangeeta verma 5 years ago from Ludhiana India

      Well written hub and useful too. Commitment is the most important to get going the relationship. Love is blind this is true and marriage is the eye - opener.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Yeah my friend...I agree with you...This is true....Thanks for your comment....

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      Maria Janta-Cooper 5 years ago from UK

      Well written hub, Paulynice. You're right some people are getting married and maybe even don't think why they're doing it. They're maybe not genuinely committed to their partner. What is even worse, many are giving up much too early their marriages and getting divorced without much thinking about it. Are we living in senseless times? Are we more senseless than our grandparents?

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thank you so much my friend...for your comment and for sharing it....

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      CrisSp 5 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Very insightful hub! I personally agree, one should marry when they are ready and without any forceful arrangement. It shouldn't be a pressure at all. Love can definitely wait...why rush, be wise and yes, don't be a fool by a fool, eh?

      Up and sharing!

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thank you so much my friends for your comment...@vocalcoach.....Thanks for sharing it ....

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      Sunnie Day 5 years ago

      Thank you for a wonderful written hub! You are wise beyond your years! God bless,

      Sunnie

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      Audrey Hunt 5 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      paulynice - Have I told you how very much I enjoy reading your wonderful hubs? You are so wise and a fine example for others to follow.

      Your writing reveals such insight. You will go far here on hubpages. Keep up the great job you are doing. I will share this hub with friends, facebook and twitter, plus more. I'm also adding it to "Inspirational Writers Network on facebook. Take care, my friend.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Yea my friend...I agree with you.........thanks for your comment.....

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      Joshua Nyamache 5 years ago from Kenya

      I agree with you that some people get married for wrong reasons. Those who get married to a person because he/she has got money end up being frustrated. The money they want end up causing more complicated problems are abusive marriage.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thank you so much my friend for your comment....

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      Brandi Gregory 5 years ago from Jacksonville, Florida

      You're smart, and you definitely are insightful. Marriage is sacred, not meant to be played with! :)

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Okay thank you so much my friend for your comment......Good luck man.....If you feel like she is the right person married her...,

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      movielardatadare 5 years ago from Texas

      Excellent hub! I'm getting married to my fiancée sometime next year. I'm glad that I don't fit under any of those categories, man! I have my own money, I'm still young, and she's just the perfect woman for me. I love her humor. Yes, she's beautiful, but there's much more to her than just her wonderful appearance. I'm deeply in love with her. Voted up, and I'm definitely reading more of your work!

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      thank you so much my friend....

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      Joyette Fabien 5 years ago from Dominica

      Wise words from one so young!

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Okay thank you so much my friend for your comment.....

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      Thelma Alberts 5 years ago from Germany

      Great hub. You are on the right track regarding marriage. One should marry only for love not for any financial or other bad reasons. Love conquers all problems on being married but not money. That´s what I think. Thanks for following me.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      ok my friend thank yu for your comment...

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      Maree Michael Martin 5 years ago from Northwest Washington on an Island

      Great hub, very true! Thanks for such a great hub.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      okay my friend..thank you so much...for your commemtn....

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      Vernon Bradley 5 years ago from Yucaipa, California

      You give us LOTS to ponder, Paulynice. LOTS to ponder. I think you were pretty thorough in covering all the bases. It is difficult to know sometimes when the heart is calling us to love someone and when we are "stuck" in an entangled relationship that at rock bottom is not healthy. I do believe in soulmates and not sure how often soulmates actually find each other.

      Thanks for a good and thorough hub that offers much food for thought and love.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      okay thanmk you my friend....

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      ram_m 5 years ago from India

      a very interesting topic, but as marriage is usually a meeting of hearts rather than the mind, irrational factors may goad a person to tie the knot. Like for example not wanting to be left out when people around are getting married :) thanks for the hub.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Okay, I agree with your point too my friend...

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      Theophanes 5 years ago from New England

      These are good points and most marriages are questionable at best these days. However fear of getting too old isn't really a fear of getting too old to marry. For women it's the fear of not being able to have her own biological children. Ideally women should have all their kids before they are 35 years old, by the time they are 40 the likelihood of any babies being born with serious birth defects is exceptionally high. This doesn't leave a hell of a lot of time for schooling and a career. I'm not saying making this hasty decision based on your biological clock is the greatest idea either. Things like adoption can happen even in old age and should be considered.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      thank you so much my frienddebbiepinkston........

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      Debbie Pinkston 5 years ago from Pereira, Colombia and NW Arkansas

      Hi Roldens, you made some great points about why people get married. Many are afraid of being alone, and some want to get away from their parents and a bad home situation. I think most marry for physical attraction, and they later realize they don't even like the personality of the person they married and don't have much in common. Hormones are a BAD reason to get married.

      Thanks for shedding light on this subject that affects us all in one way or another!

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thank you so much my friend.....

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      Starmom41 5 years ago

      good hub, & you make excellent points in it!!

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thank you so much my friend for your amazing comment. I like that about you. Keep it up.......

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      Wayne Brown 5 years ago from Texas

      Roldens, your writing reflects much in the way to say that you have observed and learned from others. My philosophy in life is to be a "watcher". Observe, analyze, learn, then implement an alternative. Marriage can be one's own personal heaven or hell for the choosing but it can never be what it is not. You make that point very clearly. We only make a handful of decisions in life that can cause us great misery or great happiness...marriage is one of them. I hope your journey here on the Hub is a good one for you. You write with your brain but you incorporate your heart and that is a wonderful mixture going forward. Just keep on being a "watcher". WB

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Yea my friend, @Dave Mathews. I agree with you. You can also read the difference between love and lust, and you also gonnan see that.......

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      Dave Mathews 5 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

      When I witness a young couple getting married I often wonder if they actually love each other unconditionally, or if they are in love, meaning in lust.

      It is lust that draws a couple together, Maybe. It is only "Love" that will see them through all of the ups and downs, the trials and tribulations they will face.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thank you my friend @travel_man1971

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      Ireno Alcala 5 years ago from Bicol, Philippines

      Hi, Paulynice! This is a very sound advice. I'm not married yet, but, I'm still thinking to leave my legacy (if ever I have) to my future offspring.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thank you my friend i will continue to write...Thanks for your time taking to read my hubs..

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      Jean Bakula 5 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi paulynice,

      Keep on writing if it's your dream! I wish people thought about marriage more before they did it too! Take care.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Yeahhh my friend...SSMITH1534....It's just like that in this generation that we are living now...Money just turn this world arround....It's simply that true love is hard to find,but it does exists...Right now, eventhough you are in a relationship with somebody, you still scare 'cause you don't really feel that that person will always be there with you in any difficult circumstances that may arrive in the futre.......

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      ssmith1534 5 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      i think one of the main points of your hub that i agree with is that people fall in love with things that can easily change. a person can lose their job and be financially instable, a person will grow older, or may have an accident that can alter their physical appearance. but in order to say you really love someone, it means that despite would could happen, i'm there for you. and unfortunately, that's missing in a lot of marriages today.

      great hub! keep writing!

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thank you so much my friend@exotichippiequeen......By The way some people know what it means;on the other hand,some don't because they just mary to show up or just get mary for foolish reason, but they don't really know the meaning of it...

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      ExoticHippieQueen 5 years ago

      Hi paulynice...........you are on the right track with your way of thinking on marriage and what it really means. It's sad that marriage has become just a series of events in one's life. Get married once, and it's called a starter marriage, because more are expected later on. Do people really understand what commitment means? I should talk. I have been divorced more than once, but each time I did my best to save the marriage, and feel I should have tried even harder. Thank you for your awesome hub.

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      Roldens Paulynice 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thank you all

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      Roldens Paulynice 6 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida

      Thank you so much my friend MsDee

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      MsDee 6 years ago

      Keep at it Paulynice. You're on the right track. Following you.

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      sara 6 years ago

      yes thats what it is though,keep thinking like that,i wish alot of people read it and try to put it into their mind so they can understand it,you done a great job man.i like this idea.