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10 Reasons You Deserve To Be Dumped
You Know What?
I Am Slowly Giving Up
No one enters into a relationship expecting it to end badly but sometimes not all relationships are built to last. Sometimes people just change, or they stop hiding their true self after a while.
Problems are part and parcel of everybody's relationship, but not all problems lead to breaking up. All relationships are unique and the break-up reasons are even more individual.
What Went Wrong?
Being in a relationship can be the source of incredible joy. But if love can bring so much of happiness, it can also bring about fighting, misunderstanding and unfortunately sometimes separation.
If you are a guy who is in a loyal relationship, there are chances that you face lots of complaints from your girl. Let me tell you, dude, don't take those complaints lightly, else you might end up losing your relationship.
Today, I am going to tell you the most common reasons that make your girl dump you.
You Don't Look At Her
Tear your eyes away from your phone or your favorite TV show and just look at her when she is talking to you. It's an easy way to strengthen your bond.
Broken Promises
Broken promises, lying and cheating almost always results in relationship problems and is an obvious reason a relationship fails. If you don't keep your promises, she'll feel taken for granted and you might get into a big trouble.
You Stay Silent During Fights
If you are thinking that saying something will only worsen the argument hence you zip your lips, that's the worst thing you can do so. It sends a message that her argument is trivial.
You Only Text Her
Sexting is a cool option or asking a quick question is perfectly acceptable. But when she is arguing with you or wants to have a good conversation with you, just pick up the phone and call her.
You Never Say "I Am Sorry"
Having too much ego to never apologize can leave you flying solo. Keep your ego aside and utter the word 'sorry', it won't cost you your girlfriend's respect.
Bad Sex
Don't let bad sex ruin your relationship. Although what constitutes a healthy sex life varies considerably from one couple to the next, compatibility in the bedroom is a vital ingredient of a successful relationship.
Excessive Possessiveness
Don't let your possessiveness, jealousy, and insecurities dominate you. If your girlfriend lets on that she is going out with another man, be kind and understanding. Sometimes your over possessive nature can suffocate her.
Bad Habits
How long do you want to continue to live with your bad habits?
Bad habits can actually have devastating effects on your relationship. One bad act is easy to ignore, but repeatedly doing something disruptive can put a crack in your relationship.
Comparing Her To Your Ex
Constantly comparing your girlfriend to your ex is a glaring sign that you are not over your ex, that's totally unfair to your girlfriend and a disaster is waiting to happen. Watch Out!
Making Your Fights Public
If you can't stop yourself to fighting in public places then you are definitely embarrassing yourself and your girlfriend, and this toxic habit could destroy your relationship.
Your girlfriend could become completely repulsed by this childish behavior and decide to leave you.
Learn Her Value
The above mistakes can do more than just annoy your girlfriend. These common slip-ups can drive your relationship into the deep end. By recognizing and addressing these toxic mistakes in a relationship, you'll have a better chance at making your relationship last for a long haul.
And She'll Continue To Smile...
© 2017 Shivani Negi
Comments
"No one enters into a relationship expecting it to end badly but {sometimes} not all relationships are built to last."
The word sometimes should probably be replaced with (most) relationships are not built to last!
Most of us date more people than we marry. The divorce rate is also said to hover around 50%. Clearly odds would indicate most relationships therefore are likely to fail regardless of expectations.
Truth be told when it comes to love and relationships most of us (fail our way) to success. Very few people hit a homerun their first, second, third, or fourth time up at bat.
If this were not true we'd all be married to our high school sweethearts!
Most of us experienced our first heartbreak as teenagers. Only after we're in our 30s and beyond or have teens of our own do we have the hindsight to realize how immature and unrealistic we were to believe we found our "soulmate" at age 16 or 17!
We pursued relationships before figuring out who (we) are let alone know what we want and need in a mate for life. We allowed "impulsive connections" and "happenstance" to dictate our relationship choices.
It's the equivalent of going shopping without a list!
What made for an ideal mate at age 16 is probably not going to "cut it' for us at age 26 or 36!
There are three basic reasons why couples break up.
1. They chose the "wrong mate". (They're too incompatible)
2. A "deal breaker" was committed in the eyes of another.
3. They fell out of love and stopped wanting the same things.
For most people whether they know it or not their teens, 20s, and early 30s are about discovering who they are and figuring out what they (really) want and need in a mate.
Our failed relationships is what teaches us these things!
The goal is to be loved for who (you) are and to find someone who (already is) what you want in a mate.
There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.
In a world with over 7 Billion people rejection means: NEXT!