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My Imperfect Universe

Updated on April 11, 2014

This is dedicated to someone I happen to admire. Someone told me recently that the universe we were creating was torn asunder by my refusal to apologize for something I did not do and would never do. It is often easy to take a simple disagreement and magnify it to the point where it isn't recognizable for what it was.

I become miffed at times rather than angry. Miffed is a mild, tamer form of being angry but I have learned about anger. Anger is an emotion that is easier to deal with than your disappointments and hurts. But the fact is that eventually you have to circle back around and deal with that which you avoided by getting angry. You hurt yourself more than the person you direct it at. At that "circle the wagons time" you need to ask yourself questions then listen for the answers.

Music Maestro


So it got me to thinking about...


The universe I inhabit is one where when you make a mistake you admit it.

It's one where if an apology has to be made it's done humbly but always done.

My universe is where games are played on fields and not with people's minds.

There is no place there for playing mind games that would only hurt your soul and mine.

My universe is where a disagreement generates questions and hopefully honest answers.

There are spaces there where scars reside on the souls and are best left untouched .

My universe is one where you keep on giving even when it is uncomfortable to do so.

It's a place where anger needs to be turned into dealing with disappointment and hurt.

My universe involves listening and communicating rather than refusing to accept reality.

It's that place where honor, trustworthiness and honesty mean something to those in it.

My universe is a garden where people need to communicate and be heard and not shut out.

It's an environment where one gets by giving and you get what you need because of it.

This special universe exists for those not afraid to reach out to touch or be touched.

A space is created between two people where they know they have each other's back.

My universe is a place where if I'm called a bastard those are fighting words to a friend.

The void in my universe is keenly felt when someone significant leaves it.

My universe is a place where trust is your watch word and a way of life not to be violated.

It's a place that isn't perfect but neither am I and neither are you or those in it.

My special imperfect universe is where you can easily say I'm sorry and actually mean it.

It's a kinder space where neither abusing or being abused has a soap box from which to speak.

Peace be with you and yes this was written from a sense of disappointment and hurt.

But such is life in an imperfect world where forgiveness doesn't come easily.

It is abundant in my universe.

Life and building relationships isn't always easy but can be extremely rewarding if you put your heart into it. Otherwise you may get to the end and wonder what happened along the way to leave your love tank empty.

The link below is a companion piece that seems to blend well this time of year.

As Always,

The Frog Prince

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      Mkay126 

      4 years ago

      My Frog Prince, the more I find out about your universe, the more I want to be one with it! Rosebud

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      b. Malin 

      4 years ago

      Well my Frog, you never cease to be AMAZING...Great Reflections, "Heart & Soul" kind...Which makes me want to break into that song. But I'll refrain. Seriously, you are a Special Man, and you've put it all out there, and hurt is hurt, when Love goes...Peace dear Friend, Peace.

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      Dianna Mendez 

      4 years ago

      If we lived in a perfect universe, it would be pure heaven. It is not so just yet, dear friend. I love your reflections. You are a dear for putting your heart out there, exposing it to harm with your words of truth. Blessings and peace this evening.

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      The Frog Prince 

      4 years ago from Arlington, TX

      Thanks Alastar. These thoughts are meant to maybe help at least one person look at the universe they live in and maybe make it a better place and space.

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      Alastar Packer 

      4 years ago from North Carolina

      I like your universe very well, Jim. Your a deep thinker, officer and gentleman. Heavens if there were only more like you.

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      breakfastpop 

      4 years ago

      When one person is intentionally hurtful, let's face it that stinks! I suppose it can happen once, maybe twice but when it becomes a regular deal then it's time to find a better garden to grow in.

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      The Frog Prince 

      4 years ago from Arlington, TX

      Thanks P - What seems really strange in some situations is when one party intentionally hurts the other party without any thought about it. I call that what it is - selfishness.

      TFP

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      breakfastpop 

      4 years ago

      I just re-read your piece and it certainly resonates with me. I agree people in relationships are supposed to refill each other's tanks. All relationships have their ups and downs. Most relationships experience some really dark times. In the end, it is how we emerge from these moments that is meaningful. Hopefully, it is wiser and happier. This is what I wish for you.

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      The Frog Prince 

      4 years ago from Arlington, TX

      bpop - People in a relationship are supposed to refill the tank for their partner. What you just mentioned brought to mind something I wrote a while back.

      https://hubpages.com/relationships/It-Shouldnt-Bec...

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      breakfastpop 

      4 years ago

      When the "gas tank" is empty it's time to move on. Relationships shouldn't be draining.

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      Juanita aka texasladyjuanita 

      4 years ago

      Hey there. I don't always read everything at my disposal anymore. I have deleted so many from my email, but not you. More often than not, I read all over the place and do not comment. I didn't even log in to do this :) When my health allows me to write, I post at my own .com But, today, I opened this and really enjoyed and agreed with what you wrote. Because I was commanded to honor my dysfunctional parents, I was the one to always apologize to keep the communication lines open and later flowing. I forgave them 30+ years ago for a violent home in my teens, and was rewarded with their love and friendship in my adult years. The power of forgiveness, I discovered was an amazing gift back to myself. God Bless you Frog Prince. I pray for your healing which comes from love given and received.

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      Shauna L Bowling 

      4 years ago from Central Florida

      A big "amen" to this one! I love your universe and feel the same way.

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      Stu 

      4 years ago

      This world can be pretty tough, and it's going to get alot worse before it gets better. When you are betrayed, the most you can do is forgive if you are able. There is no way to force the other person to apologize or make amends. Expecting the impossible will eventually eat you alive. No amount of persuasion will work when the offender does not want to change of his or her own accord.

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      Naomi's banner 

      4 years ago

      We can spend our whole with regrets or we can live each day to the best of our ability. At the end of the day you reflect on how you could have done better ask forgiveness if you need rand move on.mtomorrows another day where you get up,and do it all over again.nenjoyed. The rad. Thanks for sharing another part of yourself Frog

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      Maria Jordan 

      4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      "where games are played on fields and not with people's minds"...

      You are a decent and good man...wouldn't have you any other way, sweet thing. Your universe feels A-OK to me. Love, Maria

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      The Frog Prince 

      4 years ago from Arlington, TX

      Welcome to Hubpages KMC.

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      KMC56lady 

      4 years ago

      I am blown away by the inspiring message you have sent

      ... Thank You

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      The Frog Prince 

      4 years ago from Arlington, TX

      doofs - We've known each other for a long time. What I have written here comes from so deep within my soul I didn't know there was a "that deep" until it was revealed to me.

      Call Me Mom - I understand the arrogance part but also know that one's anger needs to be harnessed as quickly as possible because of the destructive nature of that emotion. It is easier to stay focused on that feeling rather than going back to the root which is usually centered on feelings of disappointment/hurt. Those will ultimately have to be dealt with and the answer, for me anyway, is communication and openness in asking and answering questions about oneself and others involved. Is that risky? Sure it is.

      The Frog Prince

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      Call Me Mom 

      4 years ago

      Rabbi Daniel Lapin, in his book "Thou Shall Prosper", said that all anger is based on arrogance. That when we feel genuine anger, it is because we are upset that someone would do the to ME.

      I think there is also such a thing as righteous anger. It is an interesting thing to think on as anger can be so very destructive.

      I like your universe and identified particularly with this sentiment: "The void in my universe is keenly felt when someone significant like you leaves it."

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      doofs 

      4 years ago

      Jim, you have touched my heart, as well as my soul. This is , I think, the best thing you have ever written. I love you, my friend. Fay

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      FitnezzJim 

      4 years ago from Fredericksburg, Virginia

      A universe like this seems a long long way away when you live too close to DC, and were raised by someone who was raised there. But, it sure does sound like the sort of place we all should strive to be in.

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      The Frog Prince 

      4 years ago from Arlington, TX

      bpop - But sometimes more is asked for. But the gas tank is empty and the squeeze is then put on rather than assisting in a refill. Metaphorical but true.

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      breakfastpop 

      4 years ago

      I can see that you did your best and no one can ask for more...

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      Old Poolman 

      4 years ago

      I love the way you describe your universe.

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      The Frog Prince 

      4 years ago from Arlington, TX

      I always try to do my best but don't always succeed Will.

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      WillStarr 

      4 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      That's a good universe you have, FP!

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