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Holding Hands after Fifty years of Marriage

Updated on March 20, 2016
The hands of my parents during their 50th Anniversary.
The hands of my parents during their 50th Anniversary. | Source

I am sure that the day their hands finally touched for the first time was an amazing experience. Fifty years later and they still hold each other. Always together in good and bad; against war and chaos; against fury and storms.

On November of 2011 I had the privilege of attending my parents wedding vows. My siblings, nieces, nephews, other family members and friends were also there. It was an extraordinary event (all of us knew) because my parents learned years ago the real meaning of holding each other hands. It was not a surprise to any of us to see them walking side by side ready to renew their vows; they have done this for so long teaching others the beauty of togetherness.

My parents discovered during the first years of marriage that the only way to succeed was to use their hands to caress, reach, work and heal instead of destroy, hit and push. The same hands that once were angry and lonely started to look for love, companionship and closeness. My mother says that at times marriage requires sacrifice, but at the end is a sweet one. She also says that when a couple gets married is to support each other and make the best decisions for the family.

My mother says that she loves to touch my father's hands because, although they have changed over time, they are the hands of the one she has always loved. "Your father has worked all his life, since he was a child. By holding his hands I am able to thank him for all he has done for us". Yes, my father has worked a lot, his hands have the story. There was a time when his hands were the tools that held the smelly shots of cheap alcohol; The same hands that years later pushed away the life as an alcoholic and embraced his family to never let go.

I ask my father about my mother's hands and he tells me: "Your mother has done so much for me. Have you seen that although she works a lot in the garden, her hands look beautiful as always? I do not know how she maintains her nails long". He likes to say (as a joke): "In reality, when your mother and I are walking holding hands is because we are trying to distribute weight to remain upright".


My dad and mom
My dad and mom | Source

I currently do not see my parents a lot (maybe every year or so). Every time there is a chance, I hold my father's hands and kiss them. I place them on my face and tell him how much I love him. His hands have thick skin and old scratches and indentation, but they are so kind. Oh! I hope I have many opportunities to keep touching his hands. Better to kiss them now when they are warm.

My mom? Well, she has long fingers and beautiful nails. You will find my mother doing something most of the time; planting flowers, working with her vegetable garden, painting some wall, among so many other things. Her hands have this magic touch of healing. Those same hands used to punish me and my siblings for misbehaving; but she also learned to soften her ways. When we both go somewhere we hold hands as well.

The day of their anniversary, my father and mother walked again ready to keep their promise of love. We were witnesses of this moment. We were so proud of them when they put the wedding rings on each other's fingers.

I love your hands mom and dad. I love what they mean to us as a family. Your hands worked for us, held us when we were weak, play with the grandchildren, ease our pains.

I have always kissed my parents hands; I am so proud of them.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann, that is a beautiful tribute to your parents. Thank you for sharing such a lovely pair of human beings. Your pride in them and love of them shines in your words.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Bill, knowing that you have a positive comment means a lot to me. Thank you for visiting. My parents have a beautiful relationship…I live proud of them.

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      cynthtggt 4 years ago from New York, NY

      They remind me of the fact that people who truly love each other never give up on each other. Your love of your parents is a blessing and your use of their hands to convey how love triumphs over struggle makes this a good read. Thanks, AnnaCia. Voted up and awesome.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Hands! I love hands and those are the elements I use to talk about those two (my parents) . THank you for your nice words.

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Anna... tears came as I sat reading your words. What a thoughtful and touching tribute to your parents. Thank you for sharing this with us ...

      Hugs from Canada

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Rolly, hi! Thank you for visiting and for the nice comment. My parents share a beautiful love. They deserve the best.

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      mckbirdbks 4 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

      This was a magical tribute to the love your parents share.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      mckbirdbks, My parents are very special. I wish for all the ones who have their parents alive to take their time to tell them how special they are.

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      Annette R. Smith 4 years ago from Grand Island, Florida

      Hello, Anna. What a beautiful and moving tribute to your mother and father! Thank you for sharing your memories with us. As other readers have said, your love shines through your words.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Annette, thank you for reading my hub.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      You're so blessed and I'm glad that you realize it. "Honor your father and your mother" is the right way to go. Congratulations on your content as well as your presentation.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      MsDora. Thank you fro your words. It has always been an honor for me to talk about my parents and more even, to tell them how proud I am of them. I wish I could have the relationship they have. Thank you for reading.

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      grinnin1 4 years ago from st louis,mo

      What a beautiful tribute to life and love and family. Wonderful writing! Great hub-

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Thank you, grinnin. My parents are everything to me.

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      Yvonne Spence 4 years ago from UK

      What a lovely tribute to your parents and how unusual too. I have not seen anything quite like this before: focusing on their hands is very evocative.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Hi Melovy. I appreciate your visit. I really do love my parents for how they kept building the nucleus at home. Their hands inspire me.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      How beautiful a tribute to your parents. Hands are such a great symbol of love and how we reach out to others. They have influenced you well through their role model of love. Lovely and voted up.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      teaches, thank you for the comment. My parents built and have such a strong relationship. I love them.

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      Nithya Venkat 4 years ago from Dubai

      Beautiful, beautiful!! A wonderful hub dedicated to your awesome parents. They have beautiful hands that is magical indeed. Enjoyed reading and voted up.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Vellur, thank you for your comment.

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      Stacy Harris 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      What a very cool hub. I guess I never looked at my parent's hands like that and I have to say, the next time I see them, I will probably look at them a little closer. I thought this was a unique way to tell a story of love. Your parents should be proud!

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      Peggy Woods 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

      I wish I could still hold my parents hands and my dad died too early to be able to celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary such as your parents were able to do. My mother lived for many years afterwards as a widow. You are fortunate to still have them in your life. Enjoy each moment to the fullest. They must be so proud of you with this written tribute to the hard work and love they have shared over the years. Up and beautiful votes.

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      Bernard J. Toulgoat 4 years ago from Treasure Coast, Florida

      What a loving, respectful and touching tribute to one's parents. Everyone should revere their parents, but too few actually do. I can relate to the feeling you expressed in this hub. Beautifully done ! Voted up and beautiful of course.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Hi barbergirl28, thanks for the comment. I guess I am a little weird, but I like looking at hands because of what they symbolize. My parents are special and I do not like to waste any time to tell them how much I love them.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Hi Peggy. I am sorry you don't have your parents with you physically; I hope you have good memories. You know, I live far from my parents, so I see them like every year. But I close my eyes and I see them ad feel their love.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      austinhealy, thank you so much for your words. My parents, as many others, deserve that respect and tribute. I am glad you share the feeling I refer to.

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      Ylena Marie 4 years ago

      This is the type of article that I love. Beautiful work, Anna Cia. You have the ability to transform your thoughts into great words. I admire you for that.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Ylena your words are very sweet. Thank you. I will be visiting your page.

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      Ylena Marie 4 years ago

      :) You're welcome.

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      Break of Dawn 4 years ago

      What a beautiful and moving tribute to your dear parents. Even if it's decades since my parents passed away, I can still remember what their hands looked like. I miss those hands! Thank you. This was very sweet.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Hi Break of Dawn. It is a pleasure to have you here. Thank you so much for your comment. Although you don't have your parents with you, the memories bring you the unique vision and feeling of their hands.

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 4 years ago from Norfolk

      I think you are a tribute to your parents. They have taught you well and you are an example to others who do not always appreciate their parents as perhaps they might. Voted up AnnaCia

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      Theresa Ast 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      A moving and lovely tribute to your wonderful parents and their life together. I wasn't expecting to cry, but that is OK. Crying can be good for the soul and the spirit. My mother died very young, over 30 years ago and my father died three years ago, but you have made me start thinking about and remembering their hands, and remembering them a little differently. Thank you for this gift.

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      Betty (Alawine) Overstreet 4 years ago from Vacaville, Ca.

      What a beautiful story! We must all reach out to cherish the lessons we love from other, through their love for each other. Learn from example.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Thank you Sally. Your comment means a lot.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      phdast7, I am sorry about your lost. You know what, hands are algays easy to remember. Look for them and embrace them spiritually. Thank you for your words.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Betty, thank you for your visit. We always learn from others experiences of love. I'll be visiting your blogs soon

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Anna

      your reflection on how to become attached with the members of the family is very inspiring. Our hands show love and care as well as hatred and anger. We should take about using our hands.

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      Vinaya, thank you for your comment. You made a good point, "Our hands show love and care as well as hatred and anger." This would be a good topic.

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Anna,

      Such a tender, beautiful and respectful piece of writing. I absolutely love this and the devotion you feel for your parents.

      In my Holistic class, there is a Blessing of the Hands that we do on the last night of class...to thank our hands that do so much for us and the patients we serve.

      We encourage photographs of beloved holding hands to keep the memories forever alive on Oncology units, etc...

      Through the years, our hands are indeed the vessels of our love...thank you for this beautiful reminder. Hugs, Maria

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      AnnaCia 4 years ago

      marcoujor, what a beautiful and inspiring comment. Thank you very much. The Blessing of the hands must be such an amazing experience.

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      JPSO138 3 years ago from Cebu, Philippines, International

      Very touching and very inspirational. This is what love should be.. Great hub and up for this one!

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      AnnaCia 3 years ago

      JPSO138, thank you very much for your comment.

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      Gail Sobotkin 3 years ago from South Carolina

      Wow! I am misty-eyed at this exquisite testimony to the power of love, and the tender connection that holding hands throughout all the ups and downs of life can provide those who stay united by love and marriage.

      What a beautiful example your parents are of a life well lived, and the imparting of values to the family.

      And the photos are simply stunning!

      Thanks so much for sharing this lovely tribute to them.

      I am going to pass this on with followers.

      Hugs & Love,

      Gail

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      AnnaCia 3 years ago

      happyboomernurse, thank you very much for the comment. This hub is a reality i treasure. They have given all they have to keep their powerful relationship. I appreciate your time and words.

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      Emunah La Paz 3 years ago from Arizona

      Very beautiful topic AnnaCia. You have a way with words. Very Beautiful article and I love the pictures of the hands. Voted Beautiful!

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      AnnaCia 3 years ago

      swilliams, thank you for your comment. You can't imagine how much their hands mean to me. Take care.

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      Mary Craig 2 years ago from New York

      Though this hub was written for your parents anniversary and renewal of vows it is an evergreen hub with a continuing message of love and devotion. Bless your parents and their loving example! Thank you for sharing with us.

      Voted up, awesome, beautiful, and interesting.

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      AnnaCia 2 years ago

      Thank you for the nice comment. I am so proud of them, because even thru the bad times, they work hard to keep that family together.

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      Larry Rankin 23 months ago from Oklahoma

      Hands are so much better when they are used for kindness.

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      AnnaCia 22 months ago

      Larry, thank you for visiting my page.

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